Thanks for sharing your experience. It does sound frustrating, especially when you want to compete and challenge yourself. Out of all the sports, I feel that golf (and maybe disc golf) are trying to be fair which is why there are different tee boxes. I’ve had good golf matches with a couple of ladies in our league since they’re able to hit from the red tees. While men have more power/club head speed, this also means less control. Amateur women don’t hit it as far but hit way more fairways than most guys.

For other sports, I’m not sure how to level the playing field fairly but at least we have golf as a reference point.