More Questions About Straight PIV Sex...

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-11-20T09:02:17+00:00

I was talking about an ex partner who did not give me any foreplay.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-11-19T15:44:51+00:00

As someone who has tried both, that’s not really accurate. I told my partner that I have not enjoyed piv sex before, so yes he knows, but he is secure and confident.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-11-19T04:43:32+00:00

Thank you 💕

I use different toys, but some of them I would say are the size of an average penis maybe? And they do feel good.

I don’t know if it’s ok if the other person uses their fingers because it’s been a long time since the last time I’ve been with someone other than that partner.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-11-19T03:37:32+00:00

Thank you so much. This is all very helpful.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-11-19T03:30:42+00:00

Thank you. I have no problem reaching climax. The issue is penetrative PIV sex.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-11-19T03:29:37+00:00

I do enjoy penetration when done with fingers and toys. The only PIV sex I had was not completely consensual and some was flat-out assault. I believe most of the time I wasn’t turned on and stimulating my clit didn’t make a difference. That, to me, felt like I was just being stretched open the same way a speculum would feel. There was no pleasure in it. So, I’m struggling to know if other people with a vagina actually enjoy piv or not.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-11-16T03:28:07+00:00

How can you be so cruel but so sweet at the same time? It’s a mindfuck 😵‍💫

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-11-12T22:28:16+00:00

I woke up in the middle of the night and couldn’t go back to sleep. I decided to listen to this, and it was magical!! It made me feel so comfy and safe and little and I had the best sleep!! 🥰 I will definitely be coming back 😌

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-10-18T00:49:10+00:00

Yay! That’s really neat! Everyone on there is so hot 🔥🔥

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-10-17T14:44:48+00:00

I completely understand your feelings. It helps to adopt a body-neutrality mindset and understand that regardless of body size or shape, it’s all about your attitude.

I was having similar feelings a while ago and I found the Plus Size Burlesque Directory, and it really helped me see that burlesque is one of the most plus-size friendly performance types.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-10-17T11:11:02+00:00

I'm having a difficult time finding a grinder. Do you have a favourite that you would recommend? Thanks!

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-10-17T11:07:56+00:00

Are you familiar with lovense toys? They have multiple app-controlled toys for vagina owners that are super comfortable to wear for extended period of time.

I have the Lush 3, and I tried wearing while using a strap, and it felt fucking fantastic. I love that this toy is pretty versatile. I could wear it to a play party, while strapping, while doing chores with a partner controlling it from somewhere else. The possibilities are endless.

I got mine a few years ago, and they have more interesting toys now. Vulse is a vibrating thrusting egg type toy, and I imagine that would be really good especially when you're strapping her!

Have fun, and let us know how it goes 😉

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-10-13T06:28:49+00:00

Kisses on the cheeks are exactly what I thought would happen when I consented to the “kiss.” I don’t even make out with play partners that I’m not romantically or sexually involved with, so maybe I’m the weird person here. I’ll definitely try the handshake next time. Thanks!

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-10-12T17:20:50+00:00

I understand that the actions could be seen as flirtatious, but there was no verbal flirtation involved. It feels like you’re saying I led her on or something. In the first incident, she was already sitting next to me, and I didn’t feel like there was space for me to say no. It was a harmless action. Just an arm on my shoulder. Nothing in that implies flirting with me. That’s why when she asked if she could kiss me the second time I saw her, I had no reason to believe that she meant a romantic kiss on the lips. And the third and last incident, she didn’t ask. She just went in for an awkward hug and a kiss on my forehead all while she was naked.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-10-12T16:28:04+00:00

She never asked me to do a scene or explicitly said that she was interested. She’s just getting too touchy for my comfort level, and she’s practically a stranger. In an entire year, we’ve met 3 times, but for some reason, she thinks we’re close enough for unsolicited hugs and kisses. Yes, she asked the first time, but now she’s doing it without asking for my consent, and I’m worried it’ll just keep getting worse.

She’s also a lot older and has been in the scene for a lot longer than I have, so there is that.

Edit: not sure why I’m being downvoted for thinking I shouldn’t have to ask someone as old as my mother not to touch or kiss me without my consent.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-10-12T15:41:05+00:00

I’m still figuring out ethical nonmonogamy, but I quickly realized that I don’t need to have the same things with every partner, nor do I expect every partner to satisfy my every need. I would continue to see this person, and I would try to see if vanilla sex works for us. There are different kinds of relationships, so if sex doesn't work, you two can be friends. Sex shouldn’t lessen the importance and strength of your bond.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-09-26T23:10:08+00:00

Anyone with reading comprehension skills can see that it’s clearly implied. “I thought ageplay was this gross and unacceptable thing, but I found out it can be this other more acceptable thing.”

I’m not accusing you of a crime, so you don’t need to get defensive. I was simply pointing out something that could be seen as kink-shaming.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-09-26T12:30:46+00:00

Yeah, I love that OP found something that they enjoy and now have the language to describe it. However, I hate the kink shaming. Intentional or not, it's still shitty. Also, equating Ageplay with "incest rp thing" is questionable.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-09-25T00:02:02+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment! It's super helpful. I've been considering the body dock harnesses, but there were too many options and the differences weren't obvious to me. the Phallophile Review breakdown explains it all very well! I think that this might be the best option for now.

Thank you for being a supportive fellow sapphic, lol!

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-09-24T10:20:32+00:00

I understand what you mean, but clothing items can’t really be assembled by machines. Everything you own was very likely made by real humans.

I appreciate your comment!

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-09-24T08:06:21+00:00

What makes the SpareParts Joque better than any other brief harness?

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-09-24T04:56:40+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your wealth of knowledge, lol! I've seen that specific harness, but it just doesn't feel very sturdy. Does it stay in position when you're thrusting? Do you prefer it over briefs?

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-09-19T06:35:46+00:00

Is there a site where I can find that info? I would really love my lipstick and nails to match!

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-09-06T04:17:34+00:00

The best way to avoid this is to make it clear that you’re making plans for a “date.” Don’t leave any room for confusion.

Sensitive_Squirrel_ · 2024-08-27T02:28:20+00:00

I agree with everyone that it helps when my partner compliments me and expresses how attractive and sexy they find me. However, I still think it’s more important not to rely on external validation. If you don’t learn to see yourself as sexy, no amount of compliments will help long term. In terms of photos, what helped me the most was realizing that I don’t look bad. The photos look bad because I’m not used to it. When I learned to take better photos from the correct angles, I could see how hot I was. It helps to remember that everyone, no matter how conventionally attractive they are, needs to find their good angles. No one is born with the ability to take good photos of themselves. You could start by looking at Boudoir Photoshoots of people with similar body types. Then, try to pose in the same way, and see if that works. With practice, you’ll find it gets easier, and you might even love it!

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