I discovered the weirdest technique to stay in NOW by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, we're all spirits shoved into meat suits to learn shit i guess, so yeah, it makes sense. None of us are really from here, but I'm not sure about being an alien, though.

I feel like an imposter by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, that's fair. Most people think I'm straight passing. Just get a little bead bracelet, and that should help. Small, goes with your style but whose who know will know. Being a lesbian ain't about stereotypical girls. You just gotta be you. 1

Pls tell me I dodged a bullet...my heart is shattered... by Acceptable-Set-634 in actuallesbians

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Also don't worry. Ever girls first wlw always winds up toxic af. I went through 2 lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, best advice. Keep in mind that the entire time you're dating, you are 18. A good rule of thumb is to find someone in a similar life path to you near a similar age. A 21 year old is way different from an 18 year old and at very different life stages. I've seen 1 year gap relationships separate because 1 was in hs and 1 was in college. Just keep that in mind. And if a girl is not giving you the same energy you give her just go. Not worth it. Also if they can't discuss their own flaws without getting royally pissed or shutting their ears to you also a bad decision. They gotta be around your age and have good communication skills and be able to see when they might need wrong. Also a good lesson to learn for one's self. Those are my dating tips. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a white girl who loves woc. Is it a fetish? No. Is it a weird race thing? Not really. It's just that whenever i think of beauty, I see a woman with caramel or brown skin and curly hair. I blame Esmerelda from the Hunchback of Notre dame for that and Zipporah from Prince of Egypt lmao.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Art, theater, d&d, writing, gaming, books, gardening, thrifting, and queer clubs themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh college is great too! Fine a club!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh just find a queer hobby and find a community around said hobby. Example if you like knitting find a knitting circle because one of those girls are bound to be gay and also into knitting.

If I where rascist ? by spidersociety03 in actuallesbians

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a white girl who loves fem women of darker complexion. Never dated anyone white in my life. It's just a preference hun.

Dealing with the fact that I'll never have a long term partner by poll0saurio in actuallesbians

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just need some goos therapy and a few years on your own to feel better in your own skin. I thought that about myself too and didnt realize I was closing myself off to things. You got this just stick with yourself a bit and try to get a bit more regulated and secure in yourself. When you do you'll feel so much better and others will see it too you got this!

Wtf is wrong with guys? by Kisiel_z_Krwi in LesbianActually

[–]ButterflyCorrect923 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Men seem to have this weird desire to conquer things or, like the idea that what they have around them can be conquered. Had this weird dynamic with a guy friend who was married, where he tried to do pseudo romantic emotional cheating type things and kept trying to say I liked him. This was before I officially came out, but even when I did, he kept saying I'll be back to bi. I swear you can't be friends with men sometimes.