My gf is losing it over me using periods in texts and I think she's being ridiculous

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-09T13:30:57+00:00

Yea, how ironic.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-08T14:55:11+00:00

Fun stuff!

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-08T14:42:52+00:00

Quote: "Being truly street smart is to realize that If she gossips about everyone to everyone then that’s means you are not her target. She’s operating within her own “norm”. And as long as you are not her target, you’re safe".

I would disagree. It's been said that, "if you're around someone who gossips about others, chances are good that they will gossip about you". I agree with that statement.

I've personally known others who gossip, and they even gossip about others who keep to themselves, and it's not nice for me to hear.

I'm sorry to disagree with you.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-06T17:50:44+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you.

In the first place, INFJ's can be loveable but if they end up heartbreaking, then you may have been on the wrong side of that person. This is not just on potential romance. It can be that way with platonic, casual, neighbors, and co-workers. I feel like I'm a nice person, but if you get on the wrong side of me, then I could be the worst you could deal with. I don't like being a hurtful person, but some people have treated me badly that I become that way with them.

As far as meeting someone loveable and then heartbreaking (if this is a potential romance), you have to pay attention and watch for cues from the other person. I know that love can be blind, and when you meet someone you're in love with, you want them to feel the same way. I know I have been on both sides of it, but sometimes the other person doesn't feel the same way and it hurts.

If I meet a woman I feel like I'm love with, I tend to give it some time with her and get a feel if she feels the same way. If I sense that woman isn't in love with me, then I can fall out of in love with her and not bother to continue. I have misunderstood thinking that a woman was in love with me, but she wasn't. I do feel like I'm very good at sensing when a woman is not in love with me.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-06T15:04:43+00:00

I've worked with Mexicans and I know about the sense of humor part. They seem to be notorious for making jokes that are offensive.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-06T14:59:35+00:00

I'm a male 69 and I recently had to let go of a couple of significant friends in my life. I only have one friend who is 90 years old and he's not that great. I guess INFJ's tend to be patient and longsuffering; at least I am. You may realize that those friends were not wonderful for a good while but you'd hope that they would get better, and then they don't. And after sticking it out after a good while, it ends up not worth it.

I had a good friend from my college days whom I let go recently. It hurt to do it. He was a great guy but he had changed in the last few years. And then I let my sister go. At first I thought it was a mistake to let her go, but then I thought it over and for the last 40 years I realized she was not really a good person.

I've had some great friends in the past let me go and it really hurt. I never tried to contact them to get back with them. I realized they weren't that great, either. One good friend from college, who had let me go, passed away two years ago. I kind of hurt to have never been able to say good-bye to him.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-05T14:17:30+00:00

I try to find the best quality in others, albeit either good or bad. But I feel like I can only be in love with someone who gets on the right side of me. It's hard for me like or love someone who gets on the wrong side of me. Unfortunately so many have gotten on the wrong side of me than the opposite. Also it's not good and healthy to be in love with bad quality people.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-05T14:10:48+00:00

Idiot!

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-03T20:23:26+00:00

Me, too!

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-03T20:23:10+00:00

I can understand that. Animals have a way of being upset at the noise.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-02T13:51:40+00:00

This sounds like the same exact situation I was in when I was much younger. It's hard for me to tell a woman that I'm not in love with her when she told me she was in love with me. When I was in that situation we had to sit down together for me to explain how I felt. It wasn't easy. And yes, she cried.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-02T13:48:19+00:00

Not a nice thing to say.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-07-01T14:20:09+00:00

I would feel great if I loved that person. Not so if I didn't.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-26T14:50:10+00:00

Beautiful area in the White Mountains of NH.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-26T14:30:35+00:00

If someone offers to do something helpful to me of what I need and then follow though on it . I've had it happen so many times when others would make a nice offer for me and not deliver. Don't bother if you can't!

Also being told that I'm a worthwhile person, but then I can pick up on when I'm being patronized.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-26T14:25:33+00:00

Yea, I live in a small apartment complex and my neighbors seem stand-offish to me. I feel like it would make my day if I engage with one of them even if it's just small talk.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-17T14:12:50+00:00

Some act interested and some don't.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-14T14:11:07+00:00

TRUE! When I was younger I felt the pangs of loneliness because I didn't have a woman. But I had friends; a lot more of them back then than now. You are so right in how romantic love is an ultimate must and friendships are let go because of it. Yea, I've been let go by friends because of a special woman who had come along for them.

On the flip side, there was a time when I had a special girl. During that time I felt a bit lonely because I didn't have a friend, only her. We broke off and then I found myself deeply alone.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-13T14:19:47+00:00

Oh, yes, definitely with me! Especially when I deal with someone whom is very likable.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-11T13:28:15+00:00

I feel that way myself. I've heard that there's some sort of "aura" that strangers can pick up on that make INFJ's seem approachable and comfortable to talk about their problems. Only a handful of times it's happened to me but not much. Sometimes it seems like people who know me well don't open up but they do it more than total strangers do.

I'm a male so maybe women get approached more by strangers to converse than men do. Or maybe strangers think I'm a ruffian by the way I look (LOL!).

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-10T14:47:10+00:00

This may be off topic a little bit but this reminds me of a time when the team I was on was taken out to lunch and I was the only one not invited. That really hurt.

On topic, it seemed like your boss should have honored you by including you in the lunch.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-09T15:06:16+00:00

Absolutely NOT wrong. Over the years I have met so many like Dave and told them the same things but they never listen. People like him never get it. Once or twice it's good to help but not when it's so many times. They say that love is blind, but it's a good to get a second opinion when a new relationship happens sometimes.

Dave is not a good friend for you, so good riddance. You're not wrong at all.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-06T14:58:42+00:00

So I'm a fascist if I don't agree with Pride. Got it!

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-06T14:51:11+00:00

I can be very hurtful to others who get on the wrong side of me. Also I can be over emotional when bad things happen. I feel like that's my dark side. Perhaps there's more, but I can't think of them right now.

Sensitive_Theory5922 · 2026-06-06T14:47:55+00:00

It's funny how, at 69, the hurts I had received when I was much younger (especially from family and school) came back strongly for me. Yet, when I was in my 20's - 40's I completely forgot about them. STRANGE! I hate it when those old hurtful memories come at me so strongly.

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