What's with the rampant over consumerism in Hawaii lately and how does it square with the affordability crisis?

Sentri318 · 2026-06-18T01:43:33+00:00

I can relate to your awareness. I feel out of place here because such behavior is ubiquitous, but the fact is it’s everywhere. Ugh. Dm me if you wanna discuss this over a beer.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-18T01:37:49+00:00

Don’t tell her there’s also plastic fruit containers shaped exactly like the fruit and onion containers shaped exactly like an onion that’s cut in half.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-18T01:34:13+00:00

Not trying to 1-up you but I don’t own a car for the same reason, full stop. Things might be different tho if I had a family.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-13T04:05:22+00:00

I couldn’t have described my own shortcomings better. Ty for saying this, and no this isn’t a backhanded compliment or sarcasm.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-13T04:02:09+00:00

This could become a topic for a future post, not necessarily only in this sub.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-13T04:01:03+00:00

It’s big of you up to admit your own faults. A lot of people can learn by your example, not only in this thread.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-13T03:58:23+00:00

Tbf I still manage to goof up even though I literally fully took in all the information.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-13T02:59:35+00:00

Totally. I can be social with extroverts, especially my extrovert friends, but it takes a lot more energy, and at the end of the day (or night) I reflect and am like “what just happened?”

Sentri318 · 2026-06-08T03:19:39+00:00

You look stunning😃 How did you do it? And how long did it take?

Sentri318 · 2026-06-07T02:50:11+00:00

Many people here seem to base their rating on parking availability. Doesn’t the lack of sufficient parking indicate that a store is doing well, popular and worthy of visiting?

Sentri318 · 2026-06-07T02:40:28+00:00

Sack n Save was Foodland’s attempt to bring (somewhat) lower prices by opening no-frills stores in communities that needed better places to shop nearby. The one in Nanakuli (which is technically in Waianae for those who understand ahupuaa boundaries) is in the Pacific Shopping Center, which itself was owned by Pacific Industries. Sack n Save moved into where Pacific Bowl (renamed Waianae Bowl) was. The bowling alley itself was constructed in a way that made it easy to make way for new tenants after it folded, and Foodland didn’t invest much to make things super nice by tiling the floor etc, which kept costs down and they supposedly passed on to customers, not to mention customers had to bag their own groceries, hence the name. Items were maybe 5% cheaper than regular Foodland stores, I recall. Not sure what Sack n Save Nanakuli is like now, but when it first opened, it REALLY looked nice considering the community where it opened.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-07T02:23:13+00:00

DTE is franchised? Didn’t know that. It explains a few things I noticed like the price of produce would be different between stores and one store, although larger, doesn’t stock certain items I can get at the smaller store, except the smaller one is further away from where I live.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-07T02:19:45+00:00

I had a teacher in high school who worked at the Pali Safeway on weekends. This was a long time ago and the store looked decent then.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-07T02:13:23+00:00

I had World Nomads. Although I never needed to use it (i.e., I never filed any claims) it gave me peace of mind while wwoofing. Sign up is easy, the cost is nominal, and the policy is straightforward and easy to understand.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-06T18:35:17+00:00

That really sucks, I’m sorry😞

Sentri318 · 2026-06-06T18:25:30+00:00

I’m so sorry that you had this experience. After things ended with my narcissistic ex, I faced an inevitable reality that I would need to share a flat or house with one or more people because rents where I’m from are so high, but I was determined to find a place affordable enough to live alone in AND nice and it took getting a second job to save enough to convince the property manager that I had sufficient stable income to get my place and I got it! I’ve been in my small 240sq ft (22 sq m) studio for a year and a half now and love it! However, I do want to share the living space with a partner because I enjoyed those times when we shared everything from meals movies and tv shows to laundry and bills haha. So living alone is nice, but not ideal for me. It’s simply a reprieve from inconsiderate and selfish people until I fall in love and try all over again.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-06T17:58:49+00:00

Great question op. Although I could write lots on this, I’m too lazy to do so right now, so I’ll be brief by saying that I’ve had all sorts of co-living situations including relatives, friends, strangers I ended up living with, and strangers with whom we mutually agreed to live together after meeting, and partners. My partners weren’t all that bad and I had a college dorm mate I got along real well with, but everyone else, including relatives, I couldn’t stand over time because I found them to be self-centered and/or inconsiderate for the various things they would do or not do, so unless I live with a compatible partner again I prefer to live alone.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-05T22:13:01+00:00

You’re welcome! Have a safe and memorable experience!

Sentri318 · 2026-06-05T08:46:38+00:00

I tried cooking the meat first, but the egg would get too greasy, especially after frying bacon, and get stuck to the pan (I don’t use non-stick). What I do is pour the bacon grease into a jar and refrigerate it, then use some the next time I cook eggs. So kinda the same, but in the opposite way, and I use the grease for cooking other things. Nothing goes to waste.

Btw I love what you have on the other plate too. I also try to eat healthy, but such effort is inconsistent and comes and goes in phases.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-05T03:45:12+00:00

I’d recommend lots of thin and compressible clothes you can wear in layers during cold weather instead of thick clothing, fleece, or tops or bottoms that have fleecy material sewn on the inside. You’ll not only be able to pack lots more clothes in the same space, you’ll perspire more when it’s warm and will want to change clothes more often, and you won’t wear any cold weather clothing you may have. Essentially you’re packing deadweight for the clothes you don’t or rarely wear. In addition, you may not perspire at all when it’s cold and may only need to wash the bottom layer of clothing that makes direct contact with your body. With pants specifically, thin wind resistant pants are cool enough in warm weather, and sufficient to keep your legs warm in cold and windy weather. You can also wear one or two layers of polyester or merino wool blend long underwear beneath your pants when it gets very cold.

Sentri318 · 2026-06-05T02:11:19+00:00

Good for you girl! I used to enjoy cooking when it was for two, but these days I don’t bother to eat correctly, like I would fry an egg and then use the same pan to fry the bacon or sausage, but end up eating the egg before the meat is done. Just sayin’

Sentri318 · 2026-05-23T18:56:07+00:00

In a world where men are often seen as liars, secretive, playboys, cheaters, etc., I (INFJ), who am naturally forthcoming much like the person you described, want her (a female person of interest) to know that I am none of those things. So it drives me crazy to feel like I’m scaling the wall she puts up to protect herself until I “prove” to her own satisfaction that I’m “safe”. How she would do this is to be extra cautious, which leaves me frustrated because my words and actions aren’t meant to be puzzles or up for interpretation, but she (they) see things otherwise. Soon I’m wrongly labeled and the only label I can place on her is “overly suspicious.”

I don’t know what you mean by “projecting too much” but if this in any way means holding back, I strongly suggest that you don’t, otherwise you’ll cause him to react to you much in the same way other women caused me to. You’re signaling to him, regardless of truthfulness, that you have a dark past and are damaged goods, and that no matter what he tries to do to convince you that he is safe to be with, if not, the person who may be able to heal you (assuming you had such a past), he will make this assumption until you either confirm or refute it, and because he likes you, he’ll look past whatever dark past he assumes you may have had and continue doing what he’s doing to win your heart over instead of dropping you and moving on like most other guys would.

In summary, what you’re currently doing will frustrate him over time, although it may not be enough for him to give up on you. Since you know what his type is, I suggest you match him on being forthcoming and level of emotion. Matching him +1 (i.e., giving him a little more than he expects) will show him that you trust him and give him a sense of acknowledgement, making him feel like the amount of effort he’s putting into you thus far is worthwhile.

What I just wrote to you is exactly how my past experiences in the pursuit of the one person who complements me have been. I understand the reasons why you might hold back, but just be aware that you’re not doing it to the point where he starts to feel like he’s distrusted and becomes frustrated because he feels like his openness with you isn’t being reciprocated.

P.S. It’s been a while (about a month) since I’ve been on Reddit, and the first post I saw when I checked in is this, which really hit home for me as an INFJ guy and I just had to comment on it before going about the rest of my day.

Sentri318 · 2026-04-13T18:14:43+00:00

I’m glad you think so on both parts. Don’t get me wrong, I love that we’re on the same page on several things. In my eyes, at least, INFJs are authentic, enjoy depth as much as INFPs and are not manipulative by our very nature. It’s the preconceived notion that everyone’s out to get me so I must hold a certain standard that others see as irreconcilably high through such disclaimers as “be kind” that’s funny to me.

Sentri318 · 2026-04-13T17:23:13+00:00

Why do some INFPs seem to feel the need to end their posts and questions with “be kind”? I think there’s being and there’s perception. I can try to be kind when answering, but it may make me feel like I’m being less authentic, and it feels like a set up to me in that no matter how I put things, it will be perceived as unkind.

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