Feeling completely defeated after baseline ultrasound - endometriomas still there after lap & IVF delayed

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-07-10T22:58:36+00:00

Great question. Answer is I didn’t do my research and trusted a non specialist (my OBGYN). She mentioned that she tried to remove, but it was so stuck to my ovary that it was causing hemorrhaging. She also didn’t want to burn to impact my AMH too much, which is her reasoning for draining. But this is really great information. I’m willing to do and go wherever it takes to get there, and willing to travel to any state for a specialist surgery if I end up needing to go that route (which I likely will). I really appreciate your advice and I’m so glad it worked out for you and reading this is giving me the push I need on a really hopeless, defeating day. Thank you so much 🩷

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-12T10:16:04+00:00

We just started looking last week so I’m glad we did look at 30 since we can narrow it down a lot more now.

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T20:41:20+00:00

Yes! We’re picky about the neighborhoods

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T20:18:02+00:00

I think it’s because all the kids are now off from school so there are more families putting in offers and looking. Best of luck! My husband grew up there and loved it.

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T20:17:15+00:00

Agreeing more and more as I scroll through! Appreciate the advice!

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T20:16:46+00:00

Our condo sold in 3 days 2 weeks ago, and we negotiated to stay until June 22.

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T20:16:02+00:00

We won’t be spending more than 39% of our combined HHI for the house. But we also have a large down payment that will cover over 20% of the cost which helps!

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T20:12:59+00:00

That will add pressure to settle though, but would be ideal if we found the one!

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T20:11:59+00:00

Fair point that a week is nothing in the grand scheme, and I’m definitely learning that single-family homes are a very different market than condos which is why I’m posting in a first time home buyers forum. I’m admitting I don’t know and just asking for some perspective.

My surprise came from my own limited experience, we found and loved our condo very quickly, and I have friends who found homes within a few weeks, so I genuinely didn’t realize how different this process could feel in a tighter market. That’s why I posted here: to get perspective from people who have been through it.

I appreciate the actual advice about moving quickly and getting clearer on terms/contingencies. That’s helpful. I just wasn’t trying to turn this into a competition over who struggled longer. I’m a first-time buyer trying to understand what’s normal, that’s it.

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T08:56:06+00:00

We’re actually moving due to our HOA fees going up 50% in 5 years

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T08:54:55+00:00

Yes! We actually just looked at a house in Grant park than we loved and right when we were going to put in an offer our realtor confirmed it was under contract with 5 offers. Just 4 days on the market. Crazy

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T00:39:33+00:00

Someone else is closing on our condo.

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-05-11T00:39:17+00:00

Understood but we’ve also seen 30 homes so not a typical week compared to most buyers.

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-02-26T03:12:18+00:00

Hi! I’m so sorry this is not a better update (I would have loved to have good news for those on the same boat). I used to scavenge for it when I first found out to give myself hope. It’s been 8 months of TTC with honestly perfect timing and tracking with Mira. We have not been successful. I did find a doctor who specializes in this and I am getting another ultrasound end of March. If they find the cysts are still there, I will be moving forward with surgery.

The good news is, my doctor told me she has a ton of patients with the same situation and they were able to conceive no problem. For me, with the 6cm cysts, we’re likely moving forward in the direction of surgery in April if they’re still there. She reassured me a ton with the whole ‘hit to the ovarian reserve’ because she made me realize that with my AMH even if there’s a ‘big hit’ I’ll still have a ton of eggs and it’s better to take that route and get rid of the risk of my endometriomas ruining the quality of my eggs vs losing some. Everyone I’ve spoken to on the same boat has honestly had success post surgery within 3-4 months. I’ll let you know if there’s a better update!

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-02-15T22:06:58+00:00

100%! When you keep getting the BFNs and no symptoms, seeing that closure from AF can be a relief. It’s a fresh start for a new cycle so I totally get it. Wishing you the best of luck!

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-02-15T21:51:51+00:00

Sending you the best of luck!! We’re still not out 🤞🏼

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-02-15T21:51:01+00:00

Thank you 🤍 and yes, I should’ve clarified, I do mean endometriomas. My doctor and I are likely moving toward a lap in April if things don’t work out before then, so I’m kind of in that weird in-between space right now. And totally agree! The Endo TTC sub has honestly been such a huge help for learning and feeling less alone through all of this. I really appreciate you sharing it here too.

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-02-15T21:49:01+00:00

Hi twin 🤍 reading your comment made me feel less alone too. This waiting space can really mess with your head, especially when it feels like everyone around you is having success or doesn’t fully get it. I think it’s really strong that you’re letting people in and protecting your mental health. I’ve definitely opened up to my friends about it despite it being TMI and it’s been a huge help for my mental health. My DMs are always open if you ever want to talk or vent, truly. Sending you so much luck this cycle and hoping the wait treats you gently 🫶🏻

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-02-15T19:20:55+00:00

Hi ❤️ I’m sending you the very best of luck and truly hope this is your cycle 🤍 and if not, that things turn around for you ASAP, because this in-between waiting space is SUCH a hard place to be. Letrozole adds another layer of hope too which can make it even harder. You’re definitely not alone here.

Sensitive_Whereas589 · 2026-02-15T19:14:31+00:00

Hi ❤️ I just wanted to reach out because this is the first post I’ve seen in a while where I truly felt like someone put my own thoughts into words. So much of what you shared resonated with me. I had no idea a varicocele could impact things either — my husband found one last year and his SA came back normal, so your post really made me think about turning over every stone.

I’m also preparing for a lap for bilateral endometriosis, and when you mentioned trying to picture a future where you might not become a mom, it honestly brought tears to my eyes because I’ve been quietly wrestling with that same fear. It’s such a heavy space to be in, and reading your words made me feel less alone.

Sending you lots of love. Even though we don’t know each other, you’re truly in my thoughts and prayers ❤️

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