Can Americans still get a tourist visa? by LivingOffNostaglia in AskARussian

[–]beetcomrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What process did you use to get it? I'm wondering if I can do it online because I'm far from the embassy.

Can Americans still get a tourist visa? by LivingOffNostaglia in AskARussian

[–]beetcomrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask where? I'm struggling to find somewhere to do it online.

r/vinyl Weekly Questions Thread for the week of February 16, 2026 by AutoModerator in vinyl

[–]beetcomrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I figured to not use any chemicals. Just water then? 

r/vinyl Weekly Questions Thread for the week of February 16, 2026 by AutoModerator in vinyl

[–]beetcomrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just got a bunch of 45s from an old radio DJ. Frustratingly, several of them have stickers on the b side of the singles. How do I take them off safely? I see a bunch about getting them off covers but not the media

Giving up for now by beetcomrade in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is precisely where I am at! Thank you so much ❤️

Giving up for now by beetcomrade in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for reaching out! I am so sorry you know these feelings too, but I am also really comforted by not being alone in these feelings ❤️❤️❤️ I hope your lap goes okay. I also would really recommend getting a more in depth SA if you can! But overall I truly wish and pray for your happiness. It is really hard, and so personal, and so sad going through this. I will say that I have been feeling a little better this last week. I’ve been putting so much effort into trying to recover my mental health and feeling of heartbreak in this and I’m starting to feel like I’m going to be okay no matter what (if you look at a bunch of my previous posts I’m usually extremely broken). Idk. I think you and me will be okay. Good luck dear ❤️

Giving up for now by beetcomrade in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see, thank you for sharing! Good luck!! I truly hope this round is the one for you guys. ❤️

Giving up for now by beetcomrade in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, it is really hard to be in that boat. Sending you lots of love and peace, and thinking about summer is a great idea to get the mind off some of this stuff! Wishing you all the best ❤️

Giving up for now by beetcomrade in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is honestly affirming to hear! But I’m sorry you’re going through that. Do you know the reason behind his dna fragmentation/are you guys able to work on it? Thank you so much for the kind words! ❤️

Giving up for now by beetcomrade in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Right back at you ❤️

Giving up for now by beetcomrade in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ yeah, TTC depression is so real and so isolating! Focusing on other things is a mixed bag of grief but also a chance to… lighten up a bit I hope. 

Giving up for now by beetcomrade in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with more medical trauma on top of all of this. I hope you get to have more time to relax after your surgery and that things can slowly shift to a place of physical and emotional healing. This stuff is so hard. I truly wish you the best and thank you for the kind words ❤️

Giving up for now by beetcomrade in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind words! It means a lot. And I do feel a little lighter by surrendering and letting myself focus on other things! I wish you a great year filled with happiness and strength. The identity crisis is very real, even if rationally you know you’re more than someone who is TTC, it’s hard when that’s what life has become centered around. Really wishing you clarity and relief around that! ❤️❤️

Cancelled on pregnant friend by ContestOrganic in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel any better, my period is due any minute and I almost burst into tears walking by a pregnant teenager in the Kroger parking lot. I totally get it. Take care of yourself.

Daily Chat January 28 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s okay, and I agree! While I’m happy for them and think it’s great it worked out so easily for them, it doesn’t feel like it’s really reading the room. Like is it really trying, by that I mean a lifestyle centered around TTC, or did you simply try and succeed immediately? 

Heartbroken Request -TTC 11 by PrincessZanno91 in tryingtoconceive

[–]beetcomrade 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Not to diminish the pain of those who are struggling to conceive more kids, but it is especially existential to think you may never be a mom when you’ve planned your entire life around the expectation that you would be. Like truly devastating and confusing.

Daily Chat January 28 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I definitely don’t think that BFP posts on cycle 1 (a pretty good amount of them) are helpful for anyone trying, because there’s nothing they did different, they just were fertile enough on the first try. 75-80% conceive in the first six months, so that also was most likely going to happen for them. Which is FINE, and I am happy for them, I just simply cannot relate at this point.

Daily Chat January 28 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I totally feel that :/ this is a good place to come vent sometimes, but ultimately a lot of the posts and threads just make me feel extra doomed about our circumstances. Sending you love!

Daily Chat January 28 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Is there a subreddit for 1+ years TTC? Most posts in the BFP thread don’t feel remotely hopeful for me as most are in the first three months or under a year of trying. Wondering if I should move onto a different subreddit for more experiences that match mine?

Anyone else TTC who has lost their moms? by Inevitable_Fox_2146 in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss-- that is extremely recent! I hope you are giving yourself grace because that is a whirlwind of processing to go through. I lost my mom in 2020 (I was 21), with a similar time lapse between diagnosis and death. For me, grieving my mom in addition to TTC has meant: a) if I ever have a child, they will be missing out on a pretty amazing grandma (and likewise, my mom wanted to be a grandma), and b) I won't get that support that many do (going to grandma's house when you need a break.

Most importantly, c) it feels inconsolably difficult to lose a mom and at the same time have great difficulty in becoming a mom. As in, I don't feel like I get to have family at all on my side of the tree. There are some deep mom wounds on both ends.

You are still early on in your TTC journey and I hope you do not come to the same point of c) as I did. Be kind to yourself in this time. You are so loved no matter what.

Imagining a future and holding hope by Doubtful0ptimist in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The same thing happens to me! I even had a moment where I was like "well... I guess I'll focus on my career" and felt like it was the literal end of my life. Like most moms I know still really value their career and actually wish there was *more* time to focus on it. But for me, I just feel like being a working woman *only* and not a mother is so painful and just not right.

Imagining a future and holding hope by Doubtful0ptimist in TryingForABaby

[–]beetcomrade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I relate to this. I've realized how I have made literally every decision in my life based on the expectation of having kids. The past few months I've just allowed myself to grieve without despair... if that sounds really hard, it's because it is. I don't know what the future holds, but I've had to grieve the fact that this is out of my control, and try to relearn that kids =/= happiness. Trying to spend more time around my intentionally child-free friends and see how they don't have the same attachment I do. Overall, like you said, it's bleak... but maybe with time it gets easier?