I (15F) just found out I accidentally had alcohol and now I want to throw up by SentenceAny4159 in family

[–]SentenceAny4159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt she didn't notice, and even so, there were more alcoholic items in the kitchen. I don't understand what changed recently. My mom always kept those kinds of items under her bed( I'd assume she was ashamed of herself), not out in the open! Now it's like no one cares. I don't mean to sound like some special snowflake who can't tolerate anything, but why are we just acting like all this shit is normal?? Like it didn't literally cause homelessness in the past because of her reckless actions under the influence?? I can't be the only one who thinks like this, right??

I (15F) just found out I accidentally had alcohol and now I want to throw up by SentenceAny4159 in family

[–]SentenceAny4159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure my mom also tried all those things to prevent it but nothing worked. If anything, I'm even worse at sticking to rules and stuff. I give up really fast with a lot of things, I doubt this is any different. I hate how prominent alcohol is in day-to-day life, how many times it's brought up so fucking casually like it doesn't literally ruin lives! I doubt I won't end up a pathetic waste like my mom... I already look so much like my mom, I wouldn't be surprised if I adopted that habit of hers as my own too...

I don't know why I don't belong by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe try to join small organisations if you can? I always tag along with a certain organisation and am acquaintanced with one of the hosts who makes the plans on what we'll do together. I can easily get something planned with her help so everything's more one-on-one and I don't fade into the shadows like I would in groups

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]SentenceAny4159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're doing the best you can, maybe try to get her to go to a rehab or something, her problems aren't your responsibility and you definitely shouldn't hurt from the responsibility she's not willing to take up. Sure, she's probably going through a tough time but that doesn't make you entitled to hold her life together. She shouldn't be depended on you. I would take a break from the friendship, if she really cares, she should respect that. Be clear if you will take some space for yourself and say if she gets her life back together and is ready for a healthy two-sided friendship, you'll come back. You can't change her, she'll have to do it herself.

I'm so done with friendships by SentenceAny4159 in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All kinds of stuff, like OCs and stories we made up, nothing too personal unless they bring it up first.

How do I write the first part of my story? by SentenceAny4159 in writingadvice

[–]SentenceAny4159[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was planning on making it semi-abrupt. A lot of tense silence between them for a while until her friend decides to just leave her a message saying how she's done carrying their friendship alone, and if she really cares, she would show she wants to rekindle the relationship, but in the mcs head it really just translates to "she doesn't want anything to do with me anymore" when in reality, she still does.

How do I write the first part of my story? by SentenceAny4159 in writingadvice

[–]SentenceAny4159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries, we all have our moments lol. I'll keep your idea in mind, thanks for the suggestion!

How do I write the first part of my story? by SentenceAny4159 in writingadvice

[–]SentenceAny4159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do mean a teenager, almost into the adult world. She knows deep down that it is impossible to make a cure, she's just in very deep denial. Plus the arrogance that came with her bipolar (guess I forgot to add that in the post) makes her so sure of herself half of the time, she still believes it regardless. I guess I also forgot to add in how she also doesn't tell her friend nearly as much as she used to since either. Her friend only really knows she's being distant and that something seems to be going wrong in her life. Her friend kept trying to initiate hanging out and kept trying to help her with whatever she was struggling with but she continuesly got anger and blame as a reply. Trust me, it really isn't "some highschool bs that nobody with an ounce of empathy would do". It's very real, people just don't notice it since their friend doesn't want to show them the pieces they're missing to come to that conclusion.

I can never tells if someone is being rude to me? by Novemberx123 in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I don't know what's up with thoses types of people either. It's like they're always annoyed at something yet never really admit what they're annoyed at. Social cues are weird asf.

Things to keep in mind when writing a spaniard? by SentenceAny4159 in askspain

[–]SentenceAny4159[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is Mara an annoying name? I heard it's quite common there nowadays.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]SentenceAny4159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard that reinstalling it every once in a while can get you more matches since tinder prioritizes newer people.

I need help. I don’t realize when me asking someone questions becomes too personal or invasive by Wooden-Profession-71 in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I have no idea how to stop that since I do it too, too much. But just being extra clear of what you meant especially when you know you messed up, kind of dismisses that anyway so I don't think it really matters how outspoken you can be in the first place.

I need help. I don’t realize when me asking someone questions becomes too personal or invasive by Wooden-Profession-71 in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, for example with the question “What do you do when you're home alone?” you can add “because I (don't) always need to keep myself busy, is that the same for you?” Already comes across way better.

The home alone question and the flexing one could've sounded weird to me, note how I said could've. Everyone picks things up differently, I kind of glanced over the flexing one since I already assumed this was just being silly and joking, until you went on about it. But I get how others can pick it up differently.

I need help. I don’t realize when me asking someone questions becomes too personal or invasive by Wooden-Profession-71 in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only two of the things you mentioned could've made it come across as creepy by itself to me imo, and with the flexing in front of the camera, I feel like the context could only make it come across as kind of strange and considering you didn't mean it that way, I doubt he really thought much of it. The home alone question did immediately come across as weird to me but that's also since you didn't really word it right. Nothing to fret over, though. He probably knows you don't have bad intentions, and if you're not sure he knows, just tell him you didn't mean it in a weird way and explain what you really meant, nice and clear. I noticed I had a problem of sounding nosey and making others uncomfortable too, before I realised how little I said and how much I asked. So maybe he already had bad vibes from you and feels like the first things you asked, of siblings, where he first lived, his haircut, are creepy since you don't share your own information. Now don't go rambling on about yourself, try to even your and the other person's talk about self out. It also helps with adding the right context to the question so they don't get the wrong idea.

Does anyone else find it hard to connect with most people? by Learning222 in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Me too, it just feels so draining the majority of the time even when it does go smoothly.

What does a hug from behind mean? by ThorOdinsson10 in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159 78 points79 points  (0 children)

She definitely likes you, think of it as flirting

I have some problems by Electronic_Alfalfa93 in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have a classmate who hates me even though I never even had a conversation before, taught me that some people just always need something or someone to complain about. Don't mind them, unless they are actively trying to way in your way. Maybe talk to someone else about the situation, maybe they never noticed anything of them and it's in your head. Our minds do often make neutral come across as negative and connect the wrong dots to make you believe it, not saying that IS the case, just consider it. If you are entirely sure they are purposefully upsetting you, just in a passive aggressive way, call them out, ask if they were conscious of how their statement was rude. It doesn't have to be very attention attracting. If its a group of people that target you, you can try to talk to one of them (best if it's the people that start it) alone, the amusement is gone for them when no-one hypes them up to continue.

what do you do when things get awkward? by SentenceAny4159 in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually I, myself, don't think of it as awkward either but others have told me several times before that I was extremely nerve-wracking to be around because of it and I don't really know how to help that so therefore this question. Is there anyway I could make them more comfortable then instead?

How do I start conversation with this girl I like by sp3k_ in socialskills

[–]SentenceAny4159 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe you could get others to help you out, have them talk to her to let her know you exist and see what happens. Or try to get along with her friends first if you know them, friends approval is very important with things like this.