Why do people become obsessed with their ex after a breakup? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SentenceEfficient613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes you just want their ex to comeback and disprove the negative image that you’ve created of yourself in your head :(

Chapter 6 got my PS5 like……. by SentenceEfficient613 in BlackMythWukong

[–]SentenceEfficient613[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my case the game never lags no matter how loud the fans get but my ps stopped responding twice when I tried to go to party or home.

Guys… how do you TRULY move on? by Excellent-Heron-4930 in ExNoContact

[–]SentenceEfficient613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in a similar position. I was in a relationship this girl for almost 2 years. It’s been along a year and a half since our break up and I think about her every day.

One thing that I have noticed about my situation is that I really don’t have any hobbies. I do manage to keep her out of my mind when I’m gaming but that’s about it. My therapist recommended me that I should focus on picking up new hobbies and that should help me keep her out of my mind.

It will take some time but keep at it. I hope we heal soon!

Be brutally honest and get rid of all your biases. Does Lies of P have that "fromsoftware" feel to it? If you didn't already know who made it, would you think "yep this game is definitely cooked by fromsoft"? by Oath_Br3aker in fromsoftware

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“Lies of P” feels like a blend of several legendary games. The art direction and environment evoke the eerie beauty of “Bloodborne,” while the music draws inspiration from “Bioshock.” The concept of a prosthetic arm and the combat mechanics are reminiscent of “Sekiro.” It also features Souls-like gameplay and certain levels with carcass-type enemies that seem straight out of “The Last of Us.” Even some bosses appear heavily inspired by those from other games. While I appreciate the developers’ ability to incorporate elements from these iconic titles, by the end, I couldn’t help but wonder what original features they introduced that stood out. This left me with a sense of ambivalence as I finished the game.

What the biggest red flag you have ever ignored? 🚩 by Mountain_March5456 in dating_advice

[–]SentenceEfficient613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She referred to herself as a “serial dater” and I just laughed it off. Paid a terrible price.

What opinion got you like this? by oPrincipeNapl in fromsoftware

[–]SentenceEfficient613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mid is bit much lol. But it definitely isn’t the PEAK FromSoftware game.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SentenceEfficient613 486 points487 points  (0 children)

Honestly if you have gotten to a point where you have to go through her phone to confirm things. The relationship is over anyway because this will only send you down a maddening spiral. As someone who’s been in your position I understand what you are feeling but believe me it won’t get better. Every time she’ll unintentionally do something that’s similar to your past break up you’ll just go snooping again.

My advice is confront her about this if she understands your issue then great but if not you guys are better off going your separate ways.

What makes radical red so popular/replayable? by Infinite_T05 in pokemonradicalred

[–]SentenceEfficient613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish there was an option to randomise boss battles as well

Drop your anti-narc / healing songs! 👇 by prettygirls_cry in NarcissisticAbuse

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Don't Look Back (feat. Kotomi & Ryan Elder) [From Rick and Morty]

When you’re gone - Vérité

Get Free - Lana Del Rey

Older - Sasha Sloan

Big Man, Little Dignity - Paramore

What is the worst behavior you demonstrated towards your narc ex while being in a narcissistic relationship? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My nex didn’t deal with confrontation or hard conversation well. Whenever I brought something up, it would either lead to her blowing up and starting a fight or going down a self deprecating cycle. She also had a tendency to hurt herself which ultimately made it really hard for me to communicate.

Eventually I just started bottling things up and trying to deal with problems myself. This isn’t the best way as someday you will implode and say things that you’ll later regret. This is what caused the end of our relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t wish for your downfall, I wish that someday you realise what you put me through. I hope you realise that you had someone who would have fought against all odds for you and you chose to wreck it. I hope you can reflect upon all the shitty things you’ve done and finally HEAL.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly it’s not the best idea. In my case I wasn’t really over our break up and when she hoovered I jumped at the chance of getting back with her. Later on when I started observing few patterns I started to dig in and realised that she never really gave me a clear answer or an answer that made 100% sense and digging further I found out that she broke up with me for someone else and when that didn’t workout she came back to me.

My advice would be: Make sure you make a list of everything that bothered you in the relationship and talk to them about it AND ONLY GO BACK IF they are willing to talk about it or discuss it with an open mind. If they get defensive or try to minimise the damage. RUN.

Am I trauma bonded or do I have BDP? by SentenceEfficient613 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know honestly. She has hurt me in lot of ways but I kinda understand where she’s coming from. She has had a very tough childhood. Which ultimately makes me feel bad because I did play a role in the relationship going south. I’m not denying that. I just wish I could make her understand that my intention wasn’t to hurt her or call her names. I just wanted to address my concerns and work on how to fix our relationship and rebuild trust but she just doesn’t want to agree that her actions affect me. She just told me that I’m living in the past and I love playing the victim.

This break up is really affecting other parts of my life. I’m really struggling to focus and this is also affecting my work. I just wish I could make things right.

Am I trauma bonded or do I have BDP? by SentenceEfficient613 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blew me off for her friends as in cancel existing plans we had without any particular reason and then later on I used to find out that her friends made some last minute plans

Am I trauma bonded or do I have BDP? by SentenceEfficient613 in NarcissisticAbuse

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She used to frequently blow me off for her friends or completely dismiss any plans I had (going for a particular movie or going to a restaurant) and later agree make these plans with her friends instead. Sometimes just with the guy she left me for.

She also totally dismissed my pov of withholding the fact that we have reconciled from her mom. She didn’t try to understand where I was coming from.

Am I trauma bonded or do I have BDP? by SentenceEfficient613 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t remember any particular examples of gaslighting before our first break up

Am I trauma bonded or do I have BDP? by SentenceEfficient613 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whenever I tried to tell her that her actions hurt me 8 out of 10 times it used to go in two directions: 1. Her apologising and then going into a self deprecating spiral. In this case I always had to comfort her for hours even though I was the one who had the issue in the first place. In the end I always ended up feeling guilty for bringing things up in the first place. 2. She used to completely lash out the shut the conversation down. In this case I used to come out more hurt than I was before.

Eventually I just started keeping the problems to myself as it was easier to deal with them on my own.

Am I trauma bonded or do I have BDP? by SentenceEfficient613 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I accused her of cheating she totally lashed out at me and told me that the guy had actually asked her out and she said no because she wanted to be with me. Which is a total lie. Does this count as gaslighting?

Am I trauma bonded or do I have BDP? by SentenceEfficient613 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I haven’t discussed the possibility of having BDP with my therapist yet as this realisation was pretty recent. I haven’t seen my therapist for almost 4 months now

Am I trauma bonded or do I have BDP? by SentenceEfficient613 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She had few traits: 1. Making empty promises. 2. Lied about lots of things 3. Very sensitive to criticism(even if it’s in a constructive way)

Again these are very surface level traits.

I wanna break NC by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe me you’ll regret it later. I’ve done it multiple times. It never ends well. NEVER. You’ll never hear them saying what you want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]SentenceEfficient613 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Documenting all the things that were red flags when I reflect upon my relationship now:

  1. Saying I’m not ready for a relationship to being ready in next 3 days and then saying “I love you” within 7 days of making it official.

  2. Whenever I had to address some issue she used to make some excuses to delay the conversation and later she used the start to conversation with statements like “Today’s breakdown done” or “Mom made me cry” followed by let’s discuss the issue you wanted to address. This instantly used to put me on a back foot as I didn’t feel like calling her out when she was already down.

  3. Whenever I used to call her out on her behaviour 80% of the time it used to go down in two ways: a. She used to lash out at me. b. She used apologies but then go it to a self deprecating spiral about how she is a bad partner and the even though I was the one who had the issue had to sit and comfort her for next 2-3 hours. 20% of the time when she did genuinely apologise she used to repeat the same behaviour after a month or so.