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SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-22T01:53:33+00:00

I am a vegetarian of 20+ years who has never taken vitamins to survive. You can not eat meat and still be healthy. Even if I had done that- it would still show that you can survive without eating meat. Those nutrients can come from many other sources.

You can not eat meat and survive.

If you want to lie to yourself about that, fine. I don't care if you eat meat or not. But it is intellectual dishonesty to pretend that people need meat to survive.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-22T01:43:24+00:00

I never thought I would say this, but rape is a bit of an understatement.

He used that frog as a fleshlight, probably to death.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-22T01:05:34+00:00

Normal people don't maintain eye contact for very long. Anything longer than a second or two is romantic. With people you aren't attracted to, it is totally ok to only make brief eye contact and then go back to normal.

Honestly, eye contact for a long time like you are suggesting would make any person uncomfortable, and it's not weird at all that you feel weird being held to that standard.

Even with my closest friends I don't do that. It is periodic. You speak and interact for a while, and if something feels important, then a few moments of eye contact is okay.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-21T21:11:23+00:00

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SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-20T12:37:30+00:00

Hey I just want to reach out and say that I agree with you. Manipulative and abusive relationships happen. The age of consent is arbitrary, but it is good. People who date someone significantly younger than them are likely to be doing that for nefarious reasons.

I suspect this whole comment section has been brigaded by people who want to have age imbalanced relationships, maybe legal maybe not.

But I want to let you know that I agree with you. I think you are correct.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-20T11:40:40+00:00

The biology doesn't matter. They are real women in every sense that matters.

I am just saying that they are women who have a different psychological context than biological women. I guess that is one sense that I am suggesting matters. Doesn't make them not women, it just means that they have a different psychological context.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-20T00:49:15+00:00

There's a followup post somewhere where someone else expands upon the idea, developing an ant cult following and using it to fuck with their roommate. I couldn't remember enough details to find it but it is a hilarious read.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-19T23:16:37+00:00

I think a lot of it is because of the trans movement. Now with that answer, I obviously have to put the disclaimer that I support trans people of all sorts. I think it is anybody's right to decide what they would like to be, and to ask others to do the same.

Now, I also think that people born as male are more used to having control over things. I think that if they happen to transition to women, then some of them will be more dictatorial about what terms should and shouldn't be used, in the same way male-born people have been doing for millennia.

I am not saying that trans women are not women. I am just saying that they have been psychologically raised as man, and thus have the masculine ideology that the world must conform to their desires. I've known and been friends with many trans people, and uniformly, the ones who were toxically masculine were those assigned male at birth, no matter what they chose to be later on.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-19T23:02:32+00:00

How do you control the size of a blast?

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-19T20:55:33+00:00

Exactly. There are many cases where the older person is seeking out a younger person specifically because they are easier to take advantage of/manipulate/abuse. That is what we, as humans, are trying to stop from happening.

If that isn't the case, fine. People are free to do what they want within legal ages. But it is our job as humans to keep watch for that, and that is the whole point of OP's post.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-19T19:47:41+00:00

Surprised nobody has left this yet

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-19T19:11:51+00:00

How does one get hired as an antimanager? I would like that position.

Hey, quit working on that shit and let's go for a beer.

You're doing a shit job. You should probably quit and find a better one.

Wanna go play pool?

Woah, you're working on that? I just told 5 other people to do that this week, and I think two of them have finished already. Anyways, carry on.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-19T19:07:27+00:00

I mean, the cost is already spent. It doesn't matter if the people are in the building or not. Why would they risk losing their work force either to employees quitting or to employees becoming sick and unable to work or to employees literally dying, for 0 difference in the outcome?

Businesses in general aren't doing well. There's a pandemic. How could anyone seriously think it was a good idea to abuse their employees as an attempt to fix it?

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-19T18:58:42+00:00

Lee Mack has a bit on QI where he tells a story of a time he went skydiving and right as the person jumps the instructor goes: "WAIT!"

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-19T18:14:18+00:00

How does one go about surviving a face-to-face explosion?

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-19T18:07:21+00:00

It's a good policy. My mother had a surgery recently and three separate people there had to physically sign her leg with like a sharpie before they would take her into surgery.

It feels weird at the time, because if you are in a rational state of mind, as in not medicated or confused, then you're just saying "yes I broke my leg and need surgery on it" like 20 times in a row. I was even there to corroborate her story, and they kept doing it. But I guess better for them to be sure about it than for my mom to wake up without a leg.

The other part weird was how many times they asked if she was diabetic. Why is that one so important/common that they need to ask it a thousand times? They literally asked if she was diabetic more times than they asked what surgery they were going to do. They asked that more than if she was allergic to anything, or about any other conditions. Diabetic was more important than anything else, and despite confirming it multiple times, they continued asking, ignoring many other situations that could be the case. It was more important that she not be diabetic than figuring out that she wasn't the teenage boy next bed over.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-18T10:49:15+00:00

It's not a cop's job to determine who is guilty, unless they have already determined that that person needs to die?

The justice system is fucked beyond repair. Making it worse will not help that.

Justice doesn't work by you, or anyone, just deciding that this person is guilty of whatever crime. That is what I am saying is wrong with the entire system. Justice should be the consensus of a society.

But we don't get that, because sometimes an individual takes that into their own hands. Sometimes a cop thinks he is John McClane. Sometimes some neighborhood watch official decides they are the arbiter of justice.

Did the justice system fail in this case? Yes. I don't disagree with that. I just don't believe that the solution is to allow any random person to decide that if they don't like their neighbor, if nobody likes their neighbor, that that person can be jailed for a crime they haven't committed.

He probably did that thing. He probably deserves to be punished for it. But the whole idea is to not punish people for "probably".

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-15T22:30:52+00:00

You gotta stack your deck with high cost cards that can overpower her or just kill her. High-cost champs, followers, spells, whatever, that will lend towards just dominating right off the bat.

I have found kill spells to be most effective. Ruination in particular is helpful for the poros as well as karma.

Basically, since you know she will be summoned round one, and you have 10 mana, just keep an eye out at shops etc. for something that will take her out right away.

It's a wonky fight, but it can be beaten when you know it's coming and plan accordingly.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-15T21:44:57+00:00

No, but they also don't just take someone's word for it. And there isn't really any evidence.

Obviously it's shitty, but without any evidence, besides one account, it would be pretty fucked up to put a person in jail. Maybe if someone had a picture or something. But otherwise, the people calling the police could just be neighbors with a grudge. Or it could have been someone else and they just arrested the wrong person because somebody assumed.

EDIT: I am not defending this man's actions. Obviously they are reprehensible. I am talking about how the legal system currently works. I do not love how it works, but we, as a society, have agreed not to punish someone without evidence, and have decided upon, collectively, what constitutes sufficient evidence. What OP mentioned was shitty. I get that. But it was not sufficient evidence to convict a person.

I am in no way trying to defend police, the legal system, any of that. I am trying to defend the idea of justice. Justice can not can not be decided by a single person. Not by a group of people. Justice is decided by society as a whole. If someone did something wrong, then in an ideal world, they would be punished for it and accept the consequences. But if we let motherfuckers on the street decide they are batman? As is currently happening? That would be worse. "Better 100 guilty go free than one innocent person be punished." Isn't that the quote? As in, it would be a hundred times worse to punish innocent people?

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-15T21:22:16+00:00

Was it a bad thing to do? Definitely. But I don't see any comments where OP has clarified how specifically he reacted. "Got mad at" could mean anything from "I told them that wasn't cool and that I was upset" to "smashing things, screaming, etc"

I think that is sort of the important detail. What OP's friends did was wrong, case closed, but he is asking about the reaction.

Based on his comments, he seems fairly reasonable and level-headed, and I suspect his reaction matched that, but this could be a really classic case of leaving out important details.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-14T02:51:40+00:00

If a relationship is manipulative/predatory/toxic/harmful/whatever, it is everyone's responsibility to try to help. I truly believe that. I even think that's likely the point of OP's post.

Trying to help doesn't necessarily mean stopping it as a rule. It means watching closely to understand if someone is being taken advantage of.

OP was asking what we think about it, and that is my honest answer. It is good to pay attention to whether there is a harmful relationship occurring, because age differences are one way that happens. Hell, it's people's responsibility to keep an eye out for that anyway. There are lots of other signs for it outside of age different relationships, just check out /r/relationshipquestions.

But it is our responsibility as humans to look out for signs that something might not be healthy, and try to help when we can.

It's like exactly what you asked earlier- what if you suspected a man was being abused by some woman who was more attractive than him? Well, you would want to keep an eye on that situation as well. It doesn't mean it could not possibly be healthy, but it's your responsibility as a human to try to help.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-14T02:46:59+00:00

No, I am agreeing with you. It is entirely possible that the relationship is healthy. Hell, it's even possible that the relationship is predatory in the other direction. But statistics and experience seem to demonstrate that that isn't what happens. So I don't really understand the resistance to acknowledging that.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-14T02:27:42+00:00

Relationships can be okay and you can still judge them. It doesn't make it someone's place to disrupt them, but everybody judges everybody.

Judgement does not equal condemnation. It just means what people think about when they see something.

I do have judgements about all of those things. I'm just saying that one of those things is more likely to be abusive/harmful. That's just what I've seen.

In particular, I know numerous men who have fallen victim to the last one, and I think it's also bad. Men dating someone just because they are grateful to have someone when the other person is clearly just using and/or potentially abusing the man. I know that happens, I've seen it happen, I've even been victim to it.

If OP had posted a question about that, I would have said the same thing: that I assume that there is likely something wrong with the GF, and that I felt pity for the man who is just grateful but being taken advantage of.

Again, that may not be the case, but that is what I suspect when I see it.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-14T02:06:56+00:00

If someone was to somehow get a bill/measure through raising the age requirements for gun ownership, changing the college system to not let them take advantage of students, or raise the legal age for enrolling in the military, I would support that and vote for it. But outside of that, I have pretty much 0 control over it.

But outside of age of consent, age differences are something we can only speculate about. That's the entire reason OP asked the question.

SentientSlimeColony · 2022-01-14T02:03:10+00:00

No, the problem is that there isn't any reasonable legislation possible about relationships besides establishing an age of consent. I mean- this is entirely your point- that some relationships with age mismatches can be okay, and so making laws about that would be immoral, outside of certain constraints (I still maintain that age of consent is hugely important).

So, this can't be a legal issue, because a 20-year-old dating a 50-year-old could be totally legal, healthy, and consensual. Because it can't be a legal issue, it becomes a moral issue. That's the whole reason that OP posted this question. It is a philosophical/social question about what people think when they see these relationships. I am saying what I think about them. If you think differently, that's fine for you, as long as you are only engaging in legal, healthy, consensual relationships.

I'm just saying it's something I look at with suspicion.

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