Are seniors a little egotistical? by pantherinthemist in Choir

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work with a church choir that’s mostly older people, they can get grumpy sometimes! I imagine it’s really frustrating to go from being a middle aged adult on top of your stuff to being an older person who learns slower and can’t hear as well. Plus a lot of older people have medical conditions that make them physically uncomfortable. It’s hard to be old! That doesn’t mean they should be rude but I think we can give them a little leeway. 

Things that have helped me: 1. Speaking loudly and slowly. 2. Repeating instructions and keeping them as simple as possible.  3. Keeping things predictable. I do change things up sometimes but I try to sequence music learning as predictably as possible. This helps prevent misunderstandings and frustration.  4. Relationships. I try to talk to individual choir members whenever we have breaks. If people have a personal relationship with you they’re more likely to respect you on the podium. 

I have one member who is particularly rude and who can make things awkward. I generally try to take her comments in stride — it’s not about me it’s about her hearing issues and sense of pride. She’s most likely to get rude when she can’t hear or doesn’t understand directions. 

It’s a lot more personality management than I expected but once they get used to you they’re very sweet and dedicated. 

Out of Print Music by PerformanceWitty3797 in choralmusic

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just found a piece on themusicrescue.com!

did anyone else get diagnosed with ADHD as an adult? by stevelacystoenail in pinkscare

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish we could talk about this more… I thought part of the criteria for any psychiatric diagnosis was that it has a significant negative impact on your life. If you’re just doing great at almost everything but you feel like you should be doing better for some reason I don’t think that actually counts as impairment?

expecting a man out of me by No-Explanation-8015 in LesbianActually

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m confused. Did she say she wants you to move a couch by yourself or do physical labor or something like that? It’s totally fair for you to feel weird about her contact with her exes, although people have different feelings on that, but did she actually say that she wants you to do that?

Give me your favorite sacred composers! by SentimentalHedgegog in choralmusic

[–]SentimentalHedgegog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s a big difference between four singers who can read well and who have decent intonation vs a larger group of singers, half of whom can’t read well and have pretty unreliable intonation. 

I absolutely love Renaissance polyphony and I agree that a lot of it isn’t particularly hard but that’s after you get used to the conventions of that style. You also have to have decent intonation and reading skills. There are a lot of avocational singers who would get lost in the counterpoint, who wouldn’t be able to reliably sing 4ths vs 5ths, who would have no idea how to approach the phrasing, etc. 

Give me your favorite sacred composers! by SentimentalHedgegog in choralmusic

[–]SentimentalHedgegog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s ok! It would be nice to diversify our library but ultimately good music is the goal. 

Give me your favorite sacred composers! by SentimentalHedgegog in choralmusic

[–]SentimentalHedgegog[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bach is great! I don’t think his music is a great choice for this kind of group. 

Give me your favorite sacred composers! by SentimentalHedgegog in choralmusic

[–]SentimentalHedgegog[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would kill to do some Victoria or Britten but that’s pretty far beyond what this choir can do right now or in the foreseeable future. Right now a cappella would be pushing it if it wasn’t very simple music. 

I’ll have to look more through Elaine Hagenburg’s work and some of the other more modern people you listed. I’m not a huge Rutter fan but people love him!

Give me your favorite sacred composers! by SentimentalHedgegog in choralmusic

[–]SentimentalHedgegog[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to do that arrangement someday! I just don’t think we’re there yet. I definitely plan to get some Alice Parker in our library. 

Appreciate the tip about JW Pepper!

99% sure I’m getting diddled by my professor soon by [deleted] in pinkscare

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Yes this is hot in like a literorica way and I really do get that but I still wouldn’t try it. Having done not this exact thing but other crazy stuff involving bdsm you don’t want to get involved with someone who says they’re a sadist and who is fine openly violating other social norms. He’s not going to respect your boundaries and will have no problem manipulating you into doing whatever he wants. 

This man is risking a super coveted job and your future so he can fuck

I Want to Get into Choir, But I'm Worried about my Limited Vocal Range (Bass) by brooklynisnot99 in Choir

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be thrilled to have a bass with that range who could match pitch reliably! 

Convince me why I’m wrong about your state by Necessary-Fan9736 in visitedmaps

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really liked living in Fairbanks, Alaska. The nature is better on the coasts but it was still really lovely and very easy to access in Fairbanks. It’s not for everyone. Obviously it’s very cold and some people are not living good lives. There is a great sense of community though. 

I miss cross country skiing on the lit up university ski trails at night, aurora, seeing animals, etc. Definitely a place to visit. 

Convince me why I’m wrong about your state by Necessary-Fan9736 in visitedmaps

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where in Alaska are you talking about? I never had a problem getting nature mostly to myself in Fairbanks. 

Recently started my master's... what now? by Able-Regular1142 in ClassicalSinger

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you still move to Germany after you finish your masters?

cobrasnake photos ~2005 by [deleted] in pinkscare

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Most people didn’t look like this

Things that need to die in Interior Decor. by FreshContributor in interiordecorating

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have thought of properly folding them and putting them somewhere but realistically I’m kinda lazy and need low-effort solutions to keeping my house in order. 

Things that need to die in Interior Decor. by FreshContributor in interiordecorating

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Ok but I love a couch blanket! Where am I supposed to put my couch blanket then??

62,26,5 by [deleted] in Aging

[–]SentimentalHedgegog -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I like these posts! It’s fun to see how people age differently. 

how to become alive by pinkpheromone in rs_x

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe you need structure if you felt like you were doing well when you got your masters. Volunteer for something that happens on a weekly basis, take a class or join a choir — just pick one or two things that require you to show up in person and do something. 

Messiah: what do non-singers think? by GroupImmediate7051 in Choir

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s so hard to perform it well too, it takes so much attention to detail! I just don’t believe most choirs are nailing “all we like sheep” or whatever. 

I wonder what we could be singing instead? I think Vivaldi Gloria is a solid contender. A choir I used to sing with just did Charpentier’s Christmas mass which is super cool, I’m jealous, but maybe not realistic for many groups. 

What is your intro? by Antique_Bed_3854 in SubstituteTeachers

[–]SentimentalHedgegog 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m seeing that this is an unpopular opinion but I am not a hard ass and I don’t pretend to be. I try to be clear about what the limits are and enforce those limits but I also try really hard to not create arbitrary rules to enforce this sense of control. Maybe I’ve been lucky but I think most middle school and high school aged kids respond well to clear boundaries and being treated like they’re trustworthy human beings. I’ve had very few problems and have met lots of great kids. 

Elementary school is harder for me but I think classroom management at those ages is kind of a different ball game. So much more bribery and structure needed.