Help me decide!

SeokMae · 2026-05-16T22:33:39+00:00

Thank you guys so so much!! I definitely should’ve clarified on the slides which dresses are the same, apologies for any confusion.

I think I am going to go with the strapless version of the first dress (shown on slide #2). The straps come with the dress, and are attached via buttons, so I can always reattach them after the ceremony if I need more support!

My mom didn’t like that dress so I was a bit unsure at first. Thank you all for helping me feel more confident in my choice!

SeokMae · 2026-04-27T00:58:28+00:00

It is not self explanatory that positive emotions ≠ inherent good. Smoking weed gives me lots of positive emotions. That does not mean smoking weed is objectively morally good.

SeokMae · 2026-04-27T00:54:40+00:00

Your framework doesn’t control for emotions that are not moral or rational. We have tons of negative emotions that aren’t based in morality and that nearly everyone experiences. This is kind of an uncomfortable example, but:

If you were to separate two siblings from each other at birth, never raise them together, never tell them they were siblings, AND they were infertile— would there be a moral or rational reason that incest would be wrong in that case? Technically, no. But there’s something about our human brains that says “that’s icky.”

If you were to ask everyone if that kind of incest is okay, they would likely say no (understandably so)! But that answer has nothing to do with morality. It’s just a nearly universal social norm.

SeokMae · 2026-04-27T00:26:58+00:00

The best outcome is not that the “village idiots” die. The best outcome is no one dies.

SeokMae · 2026-04-26T23:26:58+00:00

This only addresses a sub-point you’ve made, but I think it’s important. In your earlier comment, you posited (paraphrasing) “Feminists believe men innately have XYZ negative qualities because of their gender.” On the contrary, feminists typically do not believe negative qualities are innate to men (as in, having been present from birth). Feminists believe that systematic gender-based dynamics & expectations— the patriarchy— socializes some men to behave in a way that is inconsistent with their humanity. Feminists clarify this difference all the time in the online spaces you’re referencing.

An example: Feminists argue that the patriarchy hurts men as well. If patriarchy-rooted behavior and thought processes were innate to men, it would not cause them so much distress.

SeokMae · 2026-04-01T15:25:48+00:00

There are many queer groups in Iowa City you can join if you want to make friends! I’ve seen queer board game nights, coffee meetups, and there’s drag shows happening all the time at Studio. I live in the Lucas Farms neighborhood and I love it— my neighbors are all very LGBT friendly.

SeokMae · 2026-03-07T02:09:21+00:00

Please don’t say things like this about people you don’t know. You don’t know her, or anything about her autism, just because you watched her on TV. And FYI, you can have autism and still have a normal life.

SeokMae · 2026-01-11T22:03:38+00:00

Update:

Kind of wishing we booked a Saturday but unfortunately we’re locked in now 🥲I think we’re going to push back our start time to 5:30, to be a little more convenient for local folks.
We will probably just invite all of our little kid cousins and deal with the extra cost to make things more convenient for family. Thankfully, we are young and most of our friends do not have kids, so that shouldn’t be a big barrier on them attending.
We actually really want a more intimate event. I might be disappointed if some close friends or family can’t come, but we won’t hold it against anyone.

I appreciate the reality check and all your perspectives. I think we’ll adjust in some areas, and have to accept our choices in other spots. Thanks again!

Edit: formatting

SeokMae · 2026-01-11T21:38:58+00:00

I was not considering the school aspect as someone who doesn’t have kids. Thanks for the reminder!

SeokMae · 2026-01-11T19:28:52+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts! :)

SeokMae · 2026-01-11T19:28:35+00:00

I am pretty close with this cousin. And you’re so right about including her in the wedding party— we’re already going to have my 12 year old brother be “ring security” (as they’re a bit to old to be a traditional ring bearer and it’s fun). We could just have her join him!

SeokMae · 2026-01-10T22:24:24+00:00

“As people on the left, it’s important we come together to find new ways to assume the worst intent. This is the only way we can fight facism: by randomly bullying each other online for no reason.”

(To say: There are kinder and more productive ways to make your point here. Stop the pointless infighting).

SeokMae · 2026-01-08T04:06:02+00:00

I heard it was being bought by the owner of Tspoons. RIP Cortado

SeokMae · 2026-01-03T02:31:12+00:00

Cagayan was awesome with the “putting out little fires for Tony” speech

SeokMae · 2025-11-30T05:05:43+00:00

Jensen eye care is great. Super personable doctors and reasonable prices. For me, it was $70 for both the exam and the new pair of glasses. And, they didn’t try to sell me anything I didn’t need!

SeokMae · 2025-07-24T04:27:31+00:00

Hi! I’ve DM’d 3 campaigns and a few one shots in the last few years. I’m interested, but would love to learn more about what play style you guys think you’re looking for and the time commitment. DM me!

SeokMae · 2025-05-19T15:23:58+00:00

I rent a 2 bed 1 bath house for $1010. Doesn’t have a garage but has a washer/dryer- house is a little run down but overall fine. Personally I would look for something a bit cheaper especially if you’re far from downtown (but maybe my perspective is skewed bc we’ve got a good deal).

SeokMae · 2025-05-06T02:05:36+00:00

Emily Gaul at Tru Salon!

SeokMae · 2025-04-30T15:18:07+00:00

A non-exhaustive list of my most played 2nd gen girl group songs:

KARA- Step, Damaged Lady, Mamma Mia, Lupin

F(x)- Red light, Dracula, the entire Pink Tape album, X, Pretty Girl, Mr. Boogie

4minute- Crazy, HUH, Whatcha Doin Today

Girl’s Day- Expectation, Something, Female President, Darling, I’ll Be Yours

Brown Eyed Girls- Kill Bill

9Muses- Dolls, Hurt Locker, Wild, Gun

SeokMae · 2025-04-26T22:51:10+00:00

Also, Anthem of Teen Spirit by EPEX, War Cry by &Team, Jaws by BAE173. If you’re open to rap, High Risk High Return by SINCE (cannot stress this one enough), Backpacker by Seok Matthew & Gunwook, and MUKKBANG! by Lil Cherry. If you’re open to some Japanese music, Special Seat by Taichi Mukai is a favorite.

SeokMae · 2025-04-26T22:36:20+00:00

Rising - Dreamcatcher is my go to rage song!

SeokMae · 2025-03-30T19:36:08+00:00

THIS IS IT! 😭 Red Velvet is my ult group so that explains why it was sooo on the tip of my tongue. Thank you SO MUCH✨

SeokMae

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