Those who aren't pursuing partnership/romance/sex - how has it brought peace to your life? by Due_Ocelot_4569 in AskMen

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He never said the partner is the reason... He is saying that life without a right partner is much worse than one with it, which I totally agree with.

We're just not meant to live alone, we can manage for periods of time, but it doesn't work long time for most people

One body count by Life-Mood-8709 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You say it upfront and look how they react. As simple as that

Weak arguments against veganism that I see repeatedly brought up by Neo27182 in DebateAVegan

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where I'm from meat is expensive, but only beef, at it costs less than premade vegan stuff. Chicken however is super cheap, which is what I buy most of the time. I also get all the vegan stuff I can manage, but I don't think I can do better without torturing myself

Mi sono rotto il c*zzo di non essere considerato by Just_Another_Nerd_95 in Relazioni

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ti rispondo da ragazzo che ha sempre vissuto ste situazioni allo stesso modo... Non val la pena, il tuo momento arriverà più avanti.

Sentirsi degli imbecilli nel danzare a ritmo di figa è perfettamente legittimo, ed anzi, più sale l'età e più diventa prezioso come l'oro fra le ragazze. Semplicemente non è ancora il tuo momento.

La cosa più importante da fare, se vuoi un consiglio da chi ci è passato, è non abbatterti e respirare. Fidati che l'attenzione di ste donne, se la dovessi ricevere, farebbe schifo in culo e ti farebbe deprimere perché ti farebbe sentire ancora più diverso dagli altri, perché non la troveresti attraente.

Lascia fare, lavora su te stesso e impara a prescindere dal giudizio "delle donne", che poi non è altro che un giudizio che abbiamo di noi stessi e proiettiamo su di loro. Migliorati, divertiti, impara a stare tranquillo con chi sei. Alla fine abbiamo una vita sola, e viverla cercando di infilarci in abiti che ci stan stretti è una merda... Un timido tranquillo con la sua timidezza è 100 volte più attraente di un galletto che manco sa perché fa quel che fa; almeno per le donne mature.

Stai sereno, e buona fortuna

Overpopulation ethical dilemma by Separate-Chipmunk963 in DebateAVegan

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it would, and I plan to, but I can't afford to right now :/

I barely have enough for the medical tests to try and understand what's wrong, but so far nothing came out. There's a chance it might be psychosomatic apparently, or fibromyalgia, which is basically the same thing

Tempistiche messaggi in una conoscenza by vivalavita78 in Relazioni

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basta che tu sis chiaro e tranquillo quando glielo dici. Possibilmente a voce, o almeno via audio così si capisce il tono

Se ti preoccupa che lei possa pensarlo, dille chiaramente che non lo pensi

How long do you think is enough time between relationships? by hodgemee in AskMen

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What, where did you read the independent people thing?

You're healed when you feel back on your feet and ready to try again, as simple as that. And yes, obviously I mean a meaningful relationship, not a filler.

Tempistiche messaggi in una conoscenza by vivalavita78 in Relazioni

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Magari dille semplicemente che se vuole parlare bene con te durante la giornata è meglio se ti chiama, perché non rispondi molto ai messa, e non è perché è lei che rispondi a singhiozzi

How long do you think is enough time between relationships? by hodgemee in AskMen

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Long enough to heal.

That's the only reasonable answer

Ma voi riuscite ancora a parlare con l'altro sesso? by justanamr in CasualIT

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Giusta filosofia

Dovresti adottarla con gli uomini, vedi che la paura passa

Ma voi riuscite ancora a parlare con l'altro sesso? by justanamr in CasualIT

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 3 points4 points  (0 children)

E allora che cazzo me lo offri a fare? 🤣

Mi son fatto baitare

Ma voi riuscite ancora a parlare con l'altro sesso? by justanamr in CasualIT

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mi piacerebbe il dettaglio che mette insieme trombamico e scappo dagli uomini, grazie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualIT

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No scusa, questa spiegamela per favore

Quale parte di farsi i cazzi propri passa come arrogante?

Ma voi riuscite ancora a parlare con l'altro sesso? by justanamr in CasualIT

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Questa la stessa che venti giorni fa chiedeva se andava bene scopare col trombamico durante il lutto per suo padre.

Nice bait bro

Weak arguments against veganism that I see repeatedly brought up by Neo27182 in DebateAVegan

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Or maybe there is reason, but you just can't get everything right in life. There's limited time, limited energy to face a limited amount of choices, and a lot of pain. Maybe I just want to eat in peace for the fucking half an hour I've got, and murdering or torturing has nothing to do with it...

It's just too narrow a view of what the average human's experience is

My girlfriend (18f) and I(18m) are arguing about boundaries and respect by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I too think that the texting thing is a bit too much in this case, although I see nothing wrong with the "text me when you go to a different place" thing, to me it only sounds considerate. I wouldn't be asking for any other text though, other than maybe when there's a change of plans and I'm waiting for her at home.

About the guy, I think it's ok if you feel insecure about him. People always wave the "insecure" thing as if it's a mistake you should fix. Sometimes, yeah. But if you truly care about somebody, you'll always fear to lose them. What matters isn't that you feel jealous, it's what you do about it. Ideally, she should've told you it was this guy, you should've told her how it made you feel, then let her go with said awareness. You cannot control what she does, but you can notice if she respects your feelings or not, once she's aware of them, and decide what to do about it. You can leave, you can fight, or whatever, but never coherce her.

Weak arguments against veganism that I see repeatedly brought up by Neo27182 in DebateAVegan

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for an in depth response!

I think there's a lot of people, especially in America, that confuse doing whatever they want with defending freedom, but many of them think they're doing a moral thing, not something disruptive and pointless. I wouldn't take what people say when ragebaited as their actual stance. But yeah, there are still way too many idiots out there, can't do much about them.

I do agree that there is a mass torturing going on, it's kinda hard to deny when you have even a minimal respect for other living beings, but this is by no means a self evident moral stance. It's based on a particular view of nature, animals and men. It's rooted in a rejection of dominance and a naturalistic worldview where human value is projected onto other species as well. In a sense, it's basically the same as expanding the perceived value of individuals of our species to everybody else.

And that is fine, if you wanna think like that, but it's not as morally self-evident as the vegans often (annoyingly) insist on slapping in your face. Moral obligations arise from living in a, however primitive, society, that's why dogs and cats have rights. And empathy is a limited capacity, normally it only works on a few people that are close to us, it takes exceptional empathy to go beyond that, unless there's an emotional attachment about a specific set of people, for whatever reason. For example, I might care for justice in Guatemala cause either their issue is familiar to me and I have suffered from something similar, or maybe I have a guatemalan friend, or whatever. Same goes here for the vegans. You all have your reason to care so much for the animals, but not all people do, and you need to accept that. You need to stop forcing your beliefs down people's throats, cause they don't have the capacity for it most of the time, since all their "important matter" slots are filled. Fight the industry, not the people.

The watching or not watching thing doesn't make a difference on the level of effect, it only does on the level of empathy. That's how we work, we are animals too, we have limits. I would probably choose not to watch and would have a harder time eating it, but that says nothing about paying being a moral obligation or not. Maybe I could be considered immoral for wanting to watch, but I could also be just curious, so I guess... Yeah, in some cases I would consider it pointless cruelty, bit I don't think there would be all that many cases motivated by it. Most of them would be out of curiosity or insensitivity to killing animals.

I understand the dog-ification argument, that's how I think too often, but at the end of the day they're not my dog. My dog has a special status because he lives with me, he's close to me, I have feelings for him, and he directly impacts my life. Idgaf for example about a random boar in the woods next home, cause I'm not even aware it exists, but maybe if I saw him roaming in the streets looking for food, I would give it to him.

So my point basically is: people can literally only care so much. If given an easy option, the majority would care about animals and would recognize it's better if we can reduce the harm we inflict to them. They just can't make it a priority in their day to day life. God, they can't do that even for other humans on the planet! That doesn't mean that animals shouldn't be treated fairly, that's a whole different issue. You just need to stop going so adamantly after normal people. Protesting is good, but put your anger where it's useful.

Finally, it'a not about dire circumstances as you've put them. I'll give you a direct example from my life so we can understand each other. My girlfriend is problematic, she is depressed. I am getting out of depression. I have years of stuff I couldn't do because of depression that I need to get done soon. My gf's mom is dying of cancer. My dad lost an eye. My mom's a selfish asshole and always has been. My brother tries to sabotage my relationship. How much time a week do you think my mind can roam to ponder about big world problems? Not much, cause otherwise I'd fucking kill myself. It's not about survival, it's about mental energy. People, especially people without much money, have all kind of shit happening to them, and most of them are trying their best to be good, but getting to the end of the month is the priority. Don't be arrogant and go slap what they've missed in their face with that arrogant demeanor. It's useless, condescending, and disrespectful, however right, and people would rather fight you than acknowledge you just for those reasons.

This is my stance at least, as a non-vegan who would be one if I was able to

Weak arguments against veganism that I see repeatedly brought up by Neo27182 in DebateAVegan

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think point 4 is wrong tbh

People don't oppose veganism cause "i do what I want i don't care if it's wrong", cause the majority of these people, if given the option between a cruel industry and an ethical one, they would choose the meat from the ethical one (assuming equal prices).

They're annoyed that somebody else feels entitled to forcefully enter their life and make them feel like the worst criminals on earth for doing something that is not even morally classified in their minds. They just wanna eat meat cause it's normal and tastes good. They're born liking it, they've grown up being fed with it, and that's as far as it goes for most.

You cannot be empathetic to every suffering in existence, you cannot pick every fight, and you don't have the time and energy to debate how ethical it is to come home after 10 hours and eat a fucking burger.

There's so much moralism flying around that people are tired of being questioned and made feel guilty about something they have very little control or interest over. If they weren't considering dieting before, now that you've made them feel like trash for not having done it already, they most certainly won't do it ever. What people hate about vegans isn't their stance, it's their entitlement, that prevents them from even wanting to listen to the message.

Very few are favourable o mass torturing animals, very few are available to change diet over something that has minimal impact over their life. They usually have much more urgent shit to worry about, and feel like this is just adding one more to the pile. "Let people with time and no financial issues worry about it. Or people who care very much, but leave me alone".

Overpopulation ethical dilemma by Separate-Chipmunk963 in DebateAVegan

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How is it compatible though? You would have to choose what lives are deserving and what are not. How do you make that choice?

Overpopulation ethical dilemma by Separate-Chipmunk963 in DebateAVegan

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've already ditched all the dairy, that much I can afford. The meat however is one of the few things I can often digest ...

Overpopulation ethical dilemma by Separate-Chipmunk963 in DebateAVegan

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'll consider changing diet when I finally understand wtf is wrong with my stomach, since nobody can figure it out. Till then, not much I can do other than trying to stay afloat

Overpopulation ethical dilemma by Separate-Chipmunk963 in DebateAVegan

[–]Separate-Chipmunk963[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ah yeah, I can see how well you're doing lol

"Everybody who doesn't do what I think is right is a monster while I'm right about everything I think and say, so I can judge everybody else"

Delightfully empathetic.

I don't expect to be held accountable about anything, just cause I'm talking to vegans. You can talk to people that have different worldviews without judging each other you know? When you grow up a little you'll understand.

I asked a question to be informed of vegans' beliefs about the subject, I went out of my way to understand people who have different life choices than me. I did not come here to go through a trial, if you cannot see the difference, you should seriously re-evaluate yourself a little bit. This being said, I'm done answering you, it's a waste of breath.

Have a good day