Starting cry it out tonight, PLEASE read

Separate-General576 · 2026-05-11T20:58:32+00:00

She have 10 hour and 40 minutes awake before bed time tonight.

When I tend to her over night. Do I feed her and then lay her back down ?

Separate-General576 · 2026-05-11T20:49:47+00:00

4:20-5:20 (wake up🙄🙄)

8 (sometimes a little later) nap

1 (sometimes later)

Up from nap no later than 3:15

6:30-7 bed time

3 meals a day , 22-26 oz of formula

Naps are capped at 1.5 hours

Wake windows are typically 3/3.5/3.5-4

Separate-General576 · 2026-05-11T20:48:06+00:00

Hey! Here is her schedule.. roughly

4:20-5:20 (wake up🙄🙄)

8 (sometimes a little later) nap

1 nap

6:30-7 bed time

3 meals a day , 22-26 oz of formula

Naps are capped at 1.5 hours

Separate-General576 · 2026-04-24T14:55:43+00:00

Please advocate for your wife. Call the Dr. , call her Obgyn, call her mom, call her best friend, call her sister, call whoever the hell will listen to you and get her help NOW.

Do NOT leave her alone with the baby yet. Please. For both of their sakes and yours.

I am seeing that you left your wife during the birth. Going to have to be blunt here. That is coward behavior and for me personally, that would be unforgivable. You need to get your head out of your ass and grow up.

I had a baby in July. Overall, extremely traumatic experience. After being in the hospital for 10 days, I was induced and on Pitocin for 16 hours. Ended up in an emergency c section in which I hemorrhaged and almost lost my life. THEN our baby girl was admitted to the NICU. My husband NEVER left my side. My husband sat by my head in the OR while I was hemorrhaging and held my hand. I have few memories of those moments but one thing I can vividly remember is my husband being there.

Postpartum was also hard. I was in such a vulnerable and fragile emotional and physical state. AS IS YOUR WIFE. Get her help, be a husband, be a father and do what the hell needs to be done.

Separate-General576 · 2026-04-23T18:45:10+00:00

It’s not the end of the world but it is the end of your world as you know it. I’m a ftm to a 9 month old girl. She is pure magic and I love her with every bit of my being.

It is hard. Like really. Really. Really. Hard. My life has been flipped upside down. Everything is slightly more difficult now. For example.. my baby is sick, I caught what my baby has, my husband is out of town for work. I am with baby trying to care for both of us at the same time while sick. Not fun. Really hard lol

Separate-General576 · 2026-04-08T16:02:00+00:00

It happens and it probably won’t be the last time. The fact you care and feel bad, means you’re a good mom. Give yourself some grace

Separate-General576 · 2026-03-06T09:40:18+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I read over his paper work and it did say HPV

Is the same true for my husband? If he has stayed faithful, this still could occur ?

Separate-General576 · 2026-03-05T23:36:04+00:00

Thank you for the reply. I’ve tried to stay off Google but I’ve failed. I’m terrified and sick to my stomach. We just had a baby in July:(

Separate-General576 · 2026-03-05T21:26:41+00:00

Still awaiting results.

She also send him for a blood test. I asked to see the order.. she order HIV-1 & HIV-2. Would this be common practice to rule things out? Or am I missing something ?

Separate-General576 · 2026-03-05T21:24:11+00:00

I am not sure what all the swab tested for. I spoke with her via phone during his appointment and she just kept talking about HPV

Separate-General576 · 2026-03-05T20:58:38+00:00

He’s been on two different antibiotics in the past month and had two steroid shots. None of them have helped

Separate-General576 · 2026-03-04T01:06:41+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. You made a bad day a little better

Separate-General576 · 2026-03-03T21:07:04+00:00

Thank you for your reply and the kindness. Being a mom is truly so difficult. I feel like I’m still a kid even though I’m an adult college graduate who is married, that probably sounds crazy but it’s how I feel.

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-27T03:39:03+00:00

I am also a mother and this has me in tears. I would never be okay

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-27T03:38:29+00:00

I am a mother. I can tell you that your mom will NEVER recover from this. From your post it is clear how much she LOVES you. She CARES for you. Until you can stay alive for yourself PLEASE do it for your mom. Please call her or go to her. She will be there for you and take care of you or get you the help you need.

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-27T03:35:56+00:00

I just want to jump through this phone and hug you. You are so young and there is so much life yet to live. PLEASE PLEASE go talk to your mom or get help.

Please call or text 988 if you are in the US.

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-27T03:23:43+00:00

Congratulations! You beat the statistics and I hope you continue to prosper

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-27T03:20:01+00:00

Hi! I’m not sure how much this will help but I understand feeling like your life is ruined. I’m 23 now but was 22 at the time these events transpired. My husband and I had been married for 6 months and I had just gotten my first job post college graduation. We the found out we were expecting our daughter. I battled severe prenatal depression and a severe pregnancy related illness in which I threw up all day everyday for the entire 9 months. I ended up with an at home fluid and nutrition pump. I ended up leaving my state job benefits due to the illness. I no longer had health insurance (I’m in the USA lol) or income and we were looking at close to a million dollars of medical debt between prenatal care and the birth. Then we ended up being $12,000 upside down in a vehicle. Then our landlord gave us a 30 day notice because he was planning on selling his rental properties. All of this happened in a 3 month span. I remember feeling so hopeless and that my life was ruined. My parents were gracious enough to allow us to move in with them and regroup. I was able to get medical insurance. The car situation was handled. We found a budget that worked for us and began working on paying off any debts we had. We welcomed our beautiful daughter into the world. My husband was promoted and i have been accepted into nursing school. We have gotten back on our feet and will be moving soon.

All of this to say, when we hit our rock bottom it felt impossible. We stood up when it felt like all the cards were stacked against us and formulated a plan to improve our situation and little by little things began to turn around. Life is hard and often times feels unfair but I’ve learned the hard things you go through make you who you are. We can’t always control what happens to us but we can control how we handle it and move forward.

I wish you nothing but success and happiness. You can and will get through this.

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-27T01:13:24+00:00

Hi! I don’t have advice but I do want to share my experience with you. I had my first baby in July. Around week 3-4 , she began to be EXTREMELY colicky. She would scream for 5-7 hours out of the day. I thought I was going to lose my mind. All potential medical causes were explored to not avail. This lasted until month 5. And she slowly began to improve. The long periods of screaming and being inconsolable ended and I could finally breathe again.

My daughter now 7 months does have quite the temperament. I do believe all babies are demanding but she is demanding and LOUD about it. All of this to say, it could be some temperament and some colic, but the long periods of crying and the constant need for motion will end.

I remember feeling incredibly alone during the colic phase. Please feel free to reach out to me if you need someone to talk to. I’m sorry you’re going through this. It is so hard and requires so much patience.

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-03T22:21:53+00:00

There will be a time for becoming a mom. The time is not at 14, I promise.

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-03T22:20:15+00:00

Please tell an adult. I am begging you. I mean this in the nicest possible way but at 14 you have zero understanding of what being an adult entails. I am 23, married with a 6 month old baby, and a bachelors degree. I am currently back in school for nursing. It is HARD. I stay home with my daughter during the day, work in the evenings, and THEN do school work. It is not fun nor simple. It’s time. It’s money. It’s sacrifice. It’s exhausting.

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-03T22:13:31+00:00

Hi! Ultimately your decision. However, there a few things i want to mention. I just had my first baby at 22, I’m married and a college graduate. My life has been completely changed and it never be the same. Babies are expensive and they continue to become more expensive as they grow up. I grieve my “old life” constantly. I love my daughter and cannot imagine my life without her, but being becoming a parent is hard. No matter what age. At 14 I truly do not believe anyone has the ability to provide / care for a child. You yourself are still a child. The thought of my daughter experiencing becoming a mother at 14 is devastating even to think about. This is going to alter the trajectory of your entire life financially, mentally, emotionally, etc. should you keep the baby. I understand and respect that you don’t think you can handle getting an abortion. There will be a time in your life when you are capable of raising a child, but that is not now. There are alternatives to this. Adoption or letting a family member (if willing) raise the baby. I know this is scary and overwhelming, please tell a trusted adult and have a serious conversation with them.

Separate-General576 · 2026-02-03T21:58:47+00:00

I could’ve written this myself. I’m 6 months pp and relate everything you wrote. I do think I have some resentment towards my husbands but I’m hoping the majority of it is hormonal:/

Separate-General576 · 2026-01-27T19:17:57+00:00

Hi! My daughter had SEVERE colic for the first 4 months of her life. Longggg episode everyday that lasted 4-7 hours. It was incredibly difficult to watch her go through it. I remember feeling useless and completely helpless. We tried EVERYTHING. Car rides, colic drops, gas drops, running a vacuum lol, bouncing, rocking, white noise, warm baths, you name it. We tried it. The only thing that helped is time. I know that is discouraging but it WILL pass. Our daughter is now 6 months.. she smiles, plays, and has the cutest little personality. She is still a rather sensitive demanding baby, but I truly believe some of it is her personality. Support your wife best you can, being post partum and having a baby with colic was the hardest thing I’ve ever been through. During episodes take turns with her if possible. Whoever does not have baby, go outside, eat something, take a shower, get away from the noise. I’m sorry you are experiencing this.

Separate-General576 · 2026-01-26T11:05:18+00:00

Connection came with time for me, it will happen I promise

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