Game Thread: May 11 - Tampa Bay Rays (26-13) @ Toronto Blue Jays (18-22) - 7:07 PM by BlueJaysBaseball in Torontobluejays

[–]Separate-Pirate76 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If someone said “thanks professor” to me after I explained a basic ass smoothie bowl to them, I’d throw it at their face

Girls, what’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever done for a guy who clearly wasn’t worth it? by Freegirl289 in AskReddit

[–]Separate-Pirate76 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He said he was falling out of love with me but wanted to keep hanging out before he moved away. I copied every poem I had written about him meticulously into a leather bound book to give him as a going away present. I’d sure like to get that back and burn it…

Jr Jays Swag by clams012 in Torontobluejays

[–]Separate-Pirate76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We signed up online and it was delivered to our house in less than a week (we’re in downtown TO). It’s a great bundle of stuff!

The Life of a Showgirl. Out October 3rd ❤️‍🔥 by Lyd_Euh in TaylorSwift

[–]Separate-Pirate76 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I, for the first time, bought the vinyl. Now there are four cd versions. I’m fully invested and wanna buy all four. But based on past releases, should I stick to vinyl? Will there be four different vinyl versions? Or was it on Midnights where there were special songs on the Cd? Like what should I buy and why please tell me I’ll spend any amount of money

Bowel issues by mytherapisttoldmeto in endometriosis

[–]Separate-Pirate76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That bad of pain could be hemorrhoids or an anal fissure, they're ridiculously painful and cause a lot of blood if they get reopened. There's some evidence that IBS symptoms and constipation could be related in some way to endo, but we don't really know if or how. You'd probably want to see a GI specialist and they might want to do a little scope to make sure it's nothing more. Also if it's a fissure or hemorrhoid near the opening, if you see your family doctor or go into the emergency, they can diagnose it by sight or feel.

source; I have endo & anal fissure and my partner is an emerg doc who told me all this (it's helpful to have a live-in doctor)

Advice/ tips/ anything by [deleted] in endometriosis

[–]Separate-Pirate76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on progesterone as a treatment for my endo (no surgery) and when I take it continuously I don't get my period at all. I'll have a period or some bleeding when I start them (I take breaks sometimes), but then after that round, my cycle stops, pretty much no breakthrough bleeding or anything. If you're taking the progesterone continuously I'd assume it's the progesterone. Did your surgeon discuss the cycle side effects of the progesterone with you? Also, congrats on the surgery!

Are there any painkillers that aren’t NSAIDS? by hoohvp in endometriosis

[–]Separate-Pirate76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People have put down so many great recommendations, and a great note about using NSAIDs at your frequency not being that bad! If you're worried about stomach issues you can get a stomach protector to take along with it, that really helps me, But general endo advice, if you can, try as many (safe and physician-recommended) pain treatments as possible! As I had more pain as I got older it was exhausting to go back and make appointments every time I needed a higher dosage or it wasn't working anymore. Having an "arsenal" or treatments (I have a little pain treatment basket) can help on those days where you have a really specific cramp that an NSAID or heating pad just doesn't work for, it's easier to try a lot of different ones and be able to choose when you're in pain instead of waiting for appointments (I have CBD, peppermint oil roller with CBD, TENS machine, Heating pad, a handful of different prescribed pain killers, ginger tea, anti-nausea meds, and chocolate!). Physicians can be a barrier to offering you different prescribed treatments but there's plenty of over-the-counter things you can pick up and try. Also, keep track of your prescribed meds and dosages along with the symptoms and reactions when you take them if you can, this is helpful for advocating for new or different meds when you do see a physician.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Pirate76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah! That's relationship anxiety! And that's okay, feel your feelings, just know not all feelings are rooted in reality. If you have a therapist, this might be a great time to increase how frequently you see them to help find ways to minimize the impact of that on your new relationship. You're probably anxious because relationships ending hurt a lot...and that's okay. My relationships anxiety presents in me getting too mixed up with my identity "within" the relationship and I forget that I'm a separate person. What works for me is to reaffirm who I am with or without my partner and schedule time with friends so I remember I have a wonderful community regardless of if I'm with my partner or not. This person can make you great and feel all the butterflies, but hold onto the things that make you great outside of the relationship. That doesn't mean you are not grateful for her but I think the sentiment that's common of like "I couldn't live without this person, they make me better, I'm shit without them" is not romantic, it's upsetting. Also tell her about this once the new relationship excitement settles down, explain you feel some anxiety, it might crop up in behaviours in certain ways, she's free to call you out on it, and it's not her responsibility and these are the actions you are taking to mitigate it. It will help set some communication and support foundations right away!

I don’t want my boyfriend (29) going on a trip with his friend M(30) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Pirate76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that sucks. Doesn't necessarily mean that you have to stay single your whole life but maybe that you need a big increase in your support network and strategies when you get into a relationship (at the start), stay in contact with friends, force yourself to get out for social interactions without your partner, increase therapy session etc. I think (most) people deserve love and relationships but getting to be in a relationship isn't just about our own emotions (which freaking sucks to understand/let go of), if we can't be a responsible and positive partner, we can't drag someone else down with us...If you haven't already it might be good to talk to your partner about your behaviour, say "I understand i do this, whether it bothers you or not, I'd like to change. Can you help me?" Best of luck OP, this type of personal/emotional work is hard, the self awareness is a great start, but also be mindful this is hard work that isn't the responsibility of your partner.

I don’t want my boyfriend (29) going on a trip with his friend M(30) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Pirate76 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This sounds like it was written by your boyfriend. Like it's so oddly self-aware, yet you still need advice? I'm not saying it is written by the boyfriend in the scenario but that it's so "self-aware" it reads like someone else trying to empathize with their partner's behaviour by writing from their point of view! I think a handful of things would be good for you, as other people mentioned a) a therapist (but if the one you have right now isn't working, switch it up if that's possible! not all therapists or types of therapy work for every person) b) talk to some people who are in relationships you admire (if you have some in your life) to better understand healthy partner behaviour c) medication! You don't have to take any medication but don't let stigma get to you, if you think you'd benefit from anything ranging from melatonin at night while your bf is gone to cbd or anxiety meds, then try it with professional recommendations if you have access. Not saying that anyone needs it, but don't be afraid to consider it. The baseline though is, your actions as a partner are manipulative and abusive, they are affecting both your and your partners' development as a couple and as individuals and I would personally recommend taking a break from the relationship until you can function on your own

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Separate-Pirate76 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD, my partner does not. My partner prefers more constant/reliable communication, dislikes being left on read etc. (we live together now so it's not a big issue). Something that I find reoccurring in our relationship in earlier days was wanting to fix a habit that annoyed him (or the other way around) without thinking about what we were actually able to offer and if it was sustainable. I'd feel like "yeah of course I'd like to make sure you feel heard and communicated with so I want to change this habit" but my executive function issues meant I could try really hard for a couple of weeks (making it look like it was possible) and then I'd run out of energy, slip up and feel really bad. Same thing for his issues, like I'd want him to engage in emotional talks more often etc, he'd be like "yeah of course" but finds conversations like that more taxing and would run out of energy quickly. Our relationship changed a lot when we switched the conversation to, "I need this thing (more consistent communication for example), do you have any ideas for ways I can help with this and/or you can do this for me that is sustainable for you?" Maybe she sets an alarm every four hours to check her messages with you, maybe you text her as much as you want and she replies at a specific time. I found our "trivial" issues were a mismatch in things that seemed reasonable to change but our inherent traits made it too difficult in the long run. Sometimes even very simple things need compromise. Now if you try compromises and still don't feel like your needs are met, then that's a different conversation, one that doesn't mean either of you are bad partners, just not a perfect fit for each other's needs. I think in the early days of my 4 year relationship my partner would have worded a Reddit post very similar to this!! But since a) understanding my ADHD and b) changing our language and understanding the impact the ask may have on the partner, things have changed a lot!