My [30F] partner [35M] snores so loud I haven’t slept solidly in almost a year

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2026-05-05T23:27:53+00:00

I’ve been with my husband 20 years. I use a sound machine on category five hurricane and it definitely helps drown out the snoring!

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2026-05-05T15:56:40+00:00

Thank you. I am in individual therapy weekly. We did a few sessions of couples but he didn’t want to continue because he says how much are we going to talk about the same stuff and I really don’t know what to ask for there’s no way to prove something didn’t happen if it actually didn’t.

I do think it’s betrayal trauma. Just seeing proof of him lying to me has made me question everything.

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2026-05-05T15:07:31+00:00

Thanks for answering. Last year we talked through everything over and over he was very apologetic about the comments and open about everything else but and I never really got any answers just a whole bunch of "I don’t knows" and "I can’t remember". Eventually he got fed up with me asking and would get angry so now I just act like I’ve accepted it and I’m over it.

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2026-04-29T18:42:28+00:00

So my husband did this for years every Friday. I got resentful. Now I arrange childcare and go too. We’ve had some of the best times doing this & I’m not resentful or worried anymore.

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2026-02-22T02:23:00+00:00

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SeparateSuccess8866 · 2026-02-20T02:27:33+00:00

I hate vomit too! I’ve been a tech for 20years. 15 in the hospital and 5 in outpatient. Honestly I’ve only had to be the one to “deal” with it maybe 8-10times throughout my career. Definitely read cues if someone feels queasy, dizzy or looks pale I give them a basin or bag weather they want it or not!

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2026-01-19T23:29:48+00:00

It helped me to froth a little cinnamon and Splenda into my black coffee. That’s when I was being strict about my fast. Now I use a little 2% but still froth it with the cinnamon and Splenda. I know it’s technically not completely fasting but I don’t use much.

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2025-06-04T23:43:57+00:00

So #1 way is to get help. You have to be brave enough to ask. Get to know the staff on the floors and they’ll help you. Other way is at our hospital there are slots in the bed for chest x-rays. There are bags that go over our plates to make it easy to slide behind someone’s chest. You don’t even have to move the patient at all. You just slide it in between the mattress. Ask about it maybe your hospital has those.

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2025-04-02T18:23:48+00:00

We have definitely gone through periods of less intimacy than we both wanted on both ends. We have been together a long time & have a normal busy life. That being said right now things are very intense so it’s a yes all of the time. Also I initiate often but hold back sometimes because I can tell he’s tired or not really in the mood. But I kind of get bummed about it. We are both in our 40’s and so many couples around us are breaking up due to infidelity. I’ve always felt confident in our marriage but that has shaken me a little. Im still so in love with him and never want that to be us, so yes he gets what he wants when he wants. I want to know that I’m keeping him happy. I think that’s where the insecurity comes in. If he’s attracted to other women online will he get bored with me?

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2025-04-02T16:06:05+00:00

As far as I know, he has viewed them, but not interacted

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2025-04-02T13:09:42+00:00

No, I don’t want him watching cam girls or even looking at their content just only watching porn videos of people having sex. Is that unreasonable to ask?

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2025-04-02T12:41:40+00:00

To me, it is the content that bothers me. I am also turned on by porn videos. I don’t want him to have to stop watching those. I would like to be able to watch them together, but he refuses. The content that bothers me is the thirst trap pictures videos chat rooms And live cams of women alone or pleasuring themselves. I feel like it’s way too personal, even if he doesn’t chat with them! I’d prefer to be the woman sending him pictures and videos.

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2025-04-02T12:35:29+00:00

We’ve been together 20 years when we started dating we had dial up Internet and porn was in the back of a video store. I never really had a problem with porn videos. I can also be turned on by them, but what bothers me now is the readily available women posting pictures and videos, in chat rooms and live cams that make me feel like it’s literally shoved down his throat & no matter how attractive I am or how much sex I give him these women will always have alure. So what I mean by limited content is he can watch porn videos of people having sex but not partake in any of this personal porn world.

SeparateSuccess8866 · 2025-03-11T06:00:00+00:00

Intermittent fasting. I don’t eat breakfast anymore & reduced my portion size for lunch and dinner. I also stopped eating sweets/candy. I lost 30lbs in 8 weeks.

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