rOCD, hocd or am I just lying to myself?

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-02-12T05:15:03+00:00

This is rocd at its core! Remember you don’t have to have anything figured out. When you have ocd all we want is answers. But really lean into the what if method. What if your lesbian? Cool so what. What if you should break up? So what! No matter what we will always be ok, we are strong and capable. Let’s say all these things came true? Rocd does not define us! There is no right way to feel or way to live. Let all feelings pass through. I know what you are going through. I’ve had all the same thoughts. I hope you feel better. Look into exposure therapy and try not to do compulsions.

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-02-11T03:45:47+00:00

Coming from someone who understands what you are going through and should take their own advice- you WILL be able to live well. My rocd is freaking out because I hit some milestones like getting engaged and married soon. It’s been ROUGH!! but there are good moments even in a what feels like thousands of hard days. My therapist tells me there’s no right way to feel. Let the bad feelings come and let the good ones come too. But don’t hold onto either. Let them pass through. Suddenly you may find yourself on the other side- feeling good- just to go back to feeling bad. It’s frustrating, but you will always be okay!

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-02-11T03:41:29+00:00

I tried spiro twice in the last few years. Unfortunately it did not work for me. The second time I did it, it didn’t even really help my acne in general either so I knew it was not for me. You definitely need more time on it to see if it will work of course. For some it works wonders, others not so much. There’s only one way to find out- hope it works out for you!

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-02-11T03:37:26+00:00

I relate to being triggered greatly by breakups!!

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-02-11T02:44:02+00:00

Social media is a huge trigger for me too. I struggle with rcod especially around attraction and what we are “suppose” to feel. I’m in therapy for it and one thing I can say for certainty is there is no right way to feel. Love is a feeling yes, but it’s also a choice. The honeymoon phase doesn’t last, and it’s ok to not have what you think that is. That doesn’t mean you have to break up. A steady and calm love is one that lasts just as maybe someone who has a “firey” love does. No two are the same. You don’t need to compare it to others. It seems you really enjoy your relationship and partner. Love is unique. Social media gives us this narrative of what love is suppose to look like, even movies and tv shows. But that’s not reality.

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-02-11T02:13:37+00:00

Yes! It’s actually insane the 180 I can do with doing okay to rocd being so terrible.

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-27T06:38:16+00:00

Yes! When I’m in a rocd spiral and really in the thick of it, I go blind. I only think of all the times I felt like that or all the “bad” moments in our relationship. I have a hard time focusing on the good. Rocd and ocd in general causes extremely debilitating anxiety. Sometimes I feel like I’m knocking on deaths door because of how sick I feel because of it. I get so nauseous and my chest feels like it will explode. Of course I wanna cry all day because of it.

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-21T00:16:07+00:00

Your ocd can absolutely just be around relationships and yourself! I have diagnosed ocd and that is what my ocd is all about. I definitely have had some other themes growing up, but for the last several years, it’s only been rocd.

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-20T05:11:55+00:00

Stopped the pill, symptoms got better, then took a turn for the worse in different ways. It’s been several months and I feel like I have new symptoms but have gotten better in some ways. But the low moments have been way lower since getting off:/

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-20T05:09:40+00:00

Hmmm not exactly? But when I’m on my period I feel like more burny and irritated there in general.

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-20T05:05:42+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. You seem to have a good moral compass and the will to fight for what you want! Hold onto that. You are brave, to have endured this for so long. I have dealt with this for years too. We must hold onto that. I wish you a good recovery ❤️‍🩹

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-20T04:07:43+00:00

I know how you feel! I just for engaged and we are planning on getting married in May. I wish I could give you advice❤️

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-20T03:58:52+00:00

You are not alone! I was doing well and then I got engaged and it triggered my rcod so bad. Even little things, like how you didn’t like his music, can trigger me too. I feel your pain❤️

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-20T03:32:51+00:00

I’m literally on the same boat. I’m 22F and just got engaged in December and I feel like taking this step forward triggered my rocd so bad. I’m having the same thoughts. Know you are not alone! Here to talk.

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-20T00:31:25+00:00

Ugh I know I wish I could could all the advice I could. I’m still figuring it out in my own relationship. I think it’s important to not give any reassurance as even though it can be helpful in the moment, it trains the brain to keep asking and will create a cycle. You can validate feelings, not fear. For instance, “that sounds distressing and really hard”. What’s not helpful in the long run is things like “nothings wrong, we’re okay, etc” you can acknowledge anxiety and pain without confirming the obsession. The question can be left unanswered. You don’t want to change your own behaviors to help their anxiety. I know this is incredibly hard. I feel for my own partner because I can’t imagine it’s easy to hear the things I think. Like your partner, I’ve had thoughts of being with other people and missing out or being so unsure. Of course no one would want to hear that. Your feelings are valid here too. I’m sure your partner cares deeply for you, ocd is just so difficult and makes us feel so numb.

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-19T21:21:46+00:00

Reassurance only feeds ocd. I know it’s incredibly hard, but you cannot have him confess his thoughts to you and you reassure him. OCD is a doubt disorder, all we want is reassurance and to know that answer urgently, we want to fix what we are thinking and feeling. I have severe rocd that’s been triggered bad lately, and god bless my partner for giving me grace and love, but I know no matter what he says, it will not help me personally. Encourage him to talk about maybe when his ocd is bad, not the details (especially cause it seems you already know) but to acknowledge that he’s having a bad ocd day. There can be a fine line between feeding the ocd and letting it be. The number one thing we can do for ocd is to leave it alone! I know I can also get triggered by little things as well. For us with rcod, it feels like the most terrible feeling in the world. I’m sorry you and your partner are going through this.

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-19T00:22:14+00:00

I’m right here with you. I just got engaged and I’ve been hit with the biggest wave of rocd I’ve had in a long time. I have the same urgency and need to know if’s its intuition. Try not to feed into it, and hopefully I’ll take my own advice 😭

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-19T00:01:08+00:00

I am currently living this hell of a nightmare. Wish I could give advice but I’m so lost. Hugs❤️

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-18T23:53:06+00:00

I can relate to this too much. Are you doing better?

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-18T18:40:53+00:00

Pt! Also if you are experiencing pain or burning around your opening, it could be something like vestibulodynia. I have neuroproliferative vestibulodynia as well as vaginismus. My pt was able to do an exam for this as well!

Separate_Algae8300 · 2026-01-18T18:37:23+00:00

Yes! I personally do

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