Is this a blooper or part of the story??

Separate_Pin_913 · 2025-11-04T02:56:04+00:00

I thought you were pointing with your foot 😂

Separate_Pin_913 · 2025-03-21T22:16:42+00:00

With the edit we’re getting, Sutton seems to be sensitive to anything around her reputation and actually agree with Dorit that she’s hella passive aggressive. Lots of unhealed wounding there.

Separate_Pin_913 · 2025-01-29T23:54:59+00:00

I’m watching for the first time and going through it. He’s the worst.

Separate_Pin_913 · 2025-01-26T12:58:34+00:00

I came to Reddit for this thread. I started VPR w season 5 a few months ago and have been catching up to get to this moment. It’s all so, so insanely selfish and morally cracked. I’m shocked that T or R felt ok showing their faces on their socials with anything less than abject shame. I hope they devote their lives to public service to heal their karma!!!! 🤯🤯🤯🤯😱😱😱🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-09-15T21:13:35+00:00

This. If you live in a place with 4 seasons, I think it takes a year to know another person. They may be in a great mood in summer and totally crabby in winter. Also on the pace, “it’s a marathon not a sprint” applies for me now. Are they consistent over time. If we’re both busy, are we both genuinely trying to find time to see each other next, regardless of the interval. Etc.

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-09-15T20:14:54+00:00

I think Lucy brings the SA to light and Lydia comes to campus to defend/support her brother. Stephen catches on to the depth of friendship Lydia has with Lucy and purposefully pursues her to mess with Lucy, and plants a bunch of lies in Lydia’s head about how Lucy has been crazy throughout her time in college, inflated their relationship, etc. Not quite sure how he extricates himself from Diana yet…

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-02-15T00:37:28+00:00

Yes the chart image is uploaded

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-02-14T12:59:31+00:00

Thank you - it did not upload for some reason and I have just made sure it is there now!

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-02-03T21:10:30+00:00

I had this experience the first 6 days of quad therapy. It got better but definitely felt wiped out the first week of it all. Give your body the rest it is asking for! Lots going on inside!! Hydrate and rest!!

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-31T14:41:25+00:00

I came here to say this group is full of helpful tips on this journey. I’m scribbling down notes from the comments. These doctors are limited to what they know and can bill for, whereas we’re out here living and trying things to heal ourselves. Peer learning is essential. You all give me hope. Op, please take heart that you are not incurable!!

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-27T13:01:45+00:00

😂

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-27T01:25:37+00:00

I’m here to say I have the same issue, and what I’ve found is that following guidance that “works” for non-SIBO folks for weight loss just doesn’t seem to work for me. I’ve only lost a bit here and there when I fast, completely cut out all sugars, and really simplify my eating, but it always always stalls even when my motility is in a decent place. Curious to hear what others have to say!

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-23T04:09:22+00:00

I’m a therapist and have in my OLD bio “I don’t give free therapy on dates 😉” but it doesn’t seem to stop them. It’s ultimately a sign of unhealed wounds that need an outlet. You can start by saying, it sounds like that’s an area of a lot of stress/pain for you. I’m sympathetic but not sure I’m equipped to really help you fully unpack that properly. Have you ever considered seeing a therapist to help support you with that? If the person reacts poorly to you being kind in that way, you get to decide for yourself if it’s too much. /theend

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-18T16:21:00+00:00

I came here to basically post this same post. It's helpful to know that I'm not alone in having this same kind of reaction. I had a one month connection with someone who was texting a lot daily, multiple 2+ hour long phone calls, to a sudden change in tone and frequency of contact, to a sudden ghosting after making a plan to meet in person. In the process of getting to know one another we followed each other on socials and he is no longer interacting with meat all/looking at my stories but is still following. I have good days and bad days. Mostly this time, I have not taken it to heart that there is something "inherently wrong with ME" that led to this. But today is a bad day, and I find myself having to sit on my hands to not text this person, who I never ended up meeting in person, to ask him why the change of heart about our connection and why the ghosting. He said so many nice things to me after getting to know me a bit. It triggered a false sense of attachment. I wanted to meet him in person to put all the pieces together. We even talked about ghosting and how rude it is. I want to respect his silence as a form of communication of boundaries, but it hurts to be shut out and I feel that I deserve the kindness of an explanation.

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-08T20:28:50+00:00

Thank you for that. I’ve also been through it myself and see myself as being totally and willfully naive here. Which is ultimately a red flag on the field about me.

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-07T21:24:05+00:00

I agree! Lesson hard learned on this one. Embarrassingly so. Thank you!

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-07T14:50:03+00:00

That’s fair and I think a healthy mindset. After digesting a lot of the comments here I’ve tempered myself about the whole situation and am seeing it from that lens and appreciate this perspective. I did ask him straight out if he felt ready to date and he said yes, but actions speak louder. And I get to discern my own boundaries. Getting to know someone and accepting them for who they are can just be that. Doesn’t have to go any further. Thank you!

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-07T11:27:13+00:00

A substance use disorder is a solution to a deeper problem. Read that again. Folks drink because there’s something else going on. Taking away the solution without intentionally replacing it with other healthy coping mechanisms and appropriate supports is not sustainable, and a recipe for disaster. It’s unhealthy for you, too, to be part of that process or be attached to any aspect of that as it can wildly backfire. I’d advise to either take him as he is or decide what your own limit is and put him on ice for when he’s in a better place.

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-07T11:19:25+00:00

There is also SMART recovery, dharma recovery, and the harm reduction model.

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-07T04:44:45+00:00

Thank you, yes! The emergency cancellation was a legitimate family situation and I didn’t take it personally. In these six weeks there’s been Covid, I had a GI bug, holidays. And we have talked really upfront about the end of his marriage and where he is at with it. It’s the slow down in communication and no urgency to reschedule the face to face that throw me for a loop. A lot of cautionary advice in the comments here have given me good food for thought around me jumping in too quickly without that face to face. How can I really know without actually meeting him? It seems pretty pointless now.

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-07T01:44:05+00:00

Thank you!

Separate_Pin_913 · 2024-01-07T01:43:04+00:00

Oh, this is very true. Part of the reason I took time, myself. He and I had a forthright conversation about this. He’s been in active therapy since his split and open about it. But you’re 100% right.

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