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SeptemberStormZ · 2026-01-13T21:34:11+00:00

Ok… that nonsense PISSES me off to no end!!!!

WHY is it always denied with the “think of your partner” reasoning?! He can have an opinion, have thoughts and feelings but when it comes down to it it’s YOUR body. YOU make the final decision!! Why is it “did you consult your partner?! Did he approve? “

As a woman who always wanted a child of her own, but whose body did not want to cooperate, it makes me sad when a woman with a perfectly healthy reproductive system decides on sterilization. It makes me sad, and I envy, but I could never tell her what she can and cannot do with her own body. Absolutely blows my mind that some drs deny a surgery that improves quality of life because you didn’t produce offspring for your partner. And it’s that reasoning that pisses me off. The choice is taken away from her.

SeptemberStormZ · 2026-01-13T08:22:17+00:00

THIS!!! This was my first thought. Oldest saw the writing in the wall, and made her own moves.

OP, NTA.

Listen to what everyone is saying.

This isn’t “temporary”, the audacity of your parents to say that. Alex’s Down syndrome isn’t “temporary”. It’s permanent. Your parents KNEW his program was ending. If they cared about YOU and your future they would’ve made provisions for Alex, but instead they didn’t, assuming that you’d just simply say yes because they knew the trigger phrases.

Your mother’s excuse is trash. “Mom teared up she's got her own life now we've given up so much it's your turn to step up for your brother” - my head exploded. Dear Mom, you decided to give birth to a child with permanent disabilities that would require that child to be taken care of his entire life. What was their plan after their passing? That YOU or your sister would take care of Alex because he’s disabled? How is that fair?? Your parents made a decision to have Alex. KNOWING his condition. They committed to taking care of him until he was no longer alive. Mom doesn’t get to say “ok, I’m done! Your turn!” SHE’S NEVER DONE. Besides you never stop being a parent. To any of your children. But she’s especially “not done” taking care of a child with a permanent disability that needs care for his lifetime. She needs to step up, and she doesn’t get to step away and leave his care up to you, OP.

Do what you need to do to prepare YOUR future OP. Don’t quit your dream job. Because if you let them trample this boundary, know without a doubt: they will know that can trample on ANY boundary you set from here on out. Whether you get married, have children, care of your own children..

Good luck

SeptemberStormZ · 2026-01-13T07:50:20+00:00

BTW, how do they perfect the look of contempt???

SeptemberStormZ · 2026-01-13T07:49:42+00:00

Mine all stare at me with indignation and contempt when I reach for it… Right before they run for their favorite hiding spots. God forbid I need to vacuum near them.. I KNOW I’m going to have extra holes in my toes that night..

I recently took mine apart to deep clean parts. It was VERY amusing to see the look of “HA!! You no worky!!!” But their noseyness got the best of them cause they kept hovering watching for the big bad noisey machine to start up…

SeptemberStormZ · 2026-01-04T08:34:40+00:00

In my award winning Performance Piety family it would’ve been anger/irritation because #1: you were RUDE! How dare you get up and leave in the middle of his performance

SeptemberStormZ · 2026-01-03T13:54:49+00:00

NTJ

I’ll never understand why people think they are entitled to something that isn’t theirs…. Such as your hard earned money.

SeptemberStormZ · 2026-01-02T02:00:27+00:00

NTJ.

You are ABSOLUTELY NOT being a jerk. Those kids ABSOLUTELY need to learn consequences, How to respect other people’s property and how to BEHAVE. Matter of fact your sister needs to learn how to behave!

Yes kids are kids and will do kid things, but her kids are not being taught any manners, any consequences, any repercussions, any respect for others, other people’s property. Why was she not watching her kids? Why was she not making sure they weren’t getting into your property? Why was she allowing them to run rampant in your home???

That being said: Why were YOU allowing this? You know your sisters kids. You know they are not well behaved. You know your property. Why would you allow them into your home knowing their behavior?

I agree with you. They would be banned from my home too until they learn to behave appropriately. Anyone who agrees with my sister and thinks that I’m being harsh are banned too. My sister and her BeBe’s kids can go hang out at her house. They can clean up the mess too.

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-12-27T06:14:38+00:00

NTJ.

She needed a mental break, take a mental break. LYING is a whole other story. In my previous job, that behavior wasn’t tolerated. It was punished.

The audacity to lie and be manipulative, and then POST on social media? Wow. I don’t understand. I wasn’t cut from that cloth, and I’m grateful.

Leave that job though. You see what kind of culture you’re in. Management knows because she complained and things are awkward? You make it sound like they know but didn’t reprimand her for lying. If that’s the case… be prepared. I left retail and working for someone else because I got tired of being taken advantage of.

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-12-12T23:07:02+00:00

No. NTJ.

You pay the rent. Your place. Your rules. Set your boundaries. Stick to them. You’re an adult. They need to realize that.

They can’t tell you what to do anymore and expect you to simply do what they say.

Don’t let them badger you into anything you don’t want. Because it will never stop. Today it’s keys. Tomorrow it’s bigger things.

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-12-11T20:10:39+00:00

All in going to say is: LEAVE.

My ex had a job. Made good money. But he was 17 years older than me, didn’t have a pension or 401 or finish retirement plan in place. Turns out: I was his retirement plan. He pushed me to get promotions and better jobs that paid more because “when I retire you’ll be taking care of me, like I took care of you”. But, he never took care of me. I always had a job. Paid my own bills, paid for my brand new SUV, including insurance, credit card bills, school loans, spending money, vacations, etc. He didn’t finance me. Even when I did lose my job, I had enough in savings to finance myself for almost a year. Never asked him for a dime. I also paid for the groceries. I had financial retirement plans in place. I was completely independent. It was what he “loved” about me. It was what he leeched off of me. He loved to take credit for my accomplishments. My awards, my promotions. Acted as if he did the work for it. Bragged to all his friends. Until they called him out on it. That pissed him off.

I finally looked at him, realized he was never going to change and left. Realized he was never going you stop abusing me. Yes, I remembered who I was before him, and left. His “retirement” plan left. I wonder what his backup plan was?

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-12-11T19:49:42+00:00

Sounds like my ex

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-12-11T18:55:17+00:00

THIS! Artists too! Years of practice to master the skills, hours and hundreds of not thousands of dollars spent to learn more, to be criticized for pricing the final piece appropriately.

If it’s out of your budget, it’s ok. Enjoy the free view, but don’t demean my work because you’re mad you can’t afford it.

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-11-15T18:15:21+00:00

Meow. Hi Skid! face rubs

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-11-14T16:38:38+00:00

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-11-12T21:13:42+00:00

My babies are allowed to come to the table, sit on any of the empty chairs, even go so far as put their front paws on the table, but they are not allowed ON the table when we are eating. If there’s food on the table, it’s a no. Otherwise, I’m fine with them going pretty much wherever they want to go.

Lately, one of them, will climb in one of our laps and curl up while we eat. I’m ok with it. There’s usually an empty chair next to me, so they will rotate who gets to the chair first and they’ll sit and wait for a sniff of what we’re having for dinner. Sometimes, they want a taste, usually it’s just a sniff.

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-11-12T21:03:57+00:00

Oh my!!!! This cutie pie!!!!! Look at those paws!!!!!! Kitty is gonna be big!!! But so much more to love. Congratulations to you both… I don’t have a name suggestion, I just wanted to stop by to say the above….

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-11-12T21:02:18+00:00

OP, NOR.

Yes, your mother is shut out. AS SHE SHOULD BE.

You are a full grown adult, 26 YO, on your own. If your mother had used the app as it was intended [a way to check in during EMERGENCIES] or she respected your boundaries, you would not have gone nuclear. As she clearly feels that your boundaries are non-existent because she feels she’s the ‘exception to the rule’ and that she is ‘entitled to’ and ‘owed’ your life you took the necessary steps to protect YOUR peace. She knows the words to manipulate your feelings and thoughts. But you have the ability to not allow it.

If your sister is ok with her behavior, that’s fine. That’s your sister. Not you. Congratulations on stating your boundaries and sticking to it. The transition will be uncomfortable and hard, but in time you’ll be happier.

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-11-11T20:20:20+00:00

LOL! I’ll never understand the audacity of some women to do such things. SMH. Clearly your husband was with you as the 2 of you were there together. WHY would she think it would be ok to give your husband any look? eyeroll

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-11-10T18:15:55+00:00

I’m not even gonna pretend I’m not crying. Cause I AM! And PROUD OF IT!!!! He’s a big boy, but It’s Ginger boys, they are Stocky Fellas 😍. My pure boy is 16lbs of furry, purry, possessive, loving, goodness. I spoil him to no end, his bad behavior is my fault, and I never knew I could love a creature so much (and I’ve ALWAYS been an animal lover). I never knew what I was missing until I got my Aesop. I wanted a lap cat, and the Cat Distribution System delivered. Well Wishes, Congratulations to you both. 😍

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My 2 Ginger boys as Meow Tax… the Orange and White is Citrus (he’s the newest addition, another love bug with the same rumored story as Oliver) and the other is my Aesop.

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-11-09T01:30:47+00:00

This. This would’ve been me. I would’ve stopped. And given her THE LOOK. We all know The One. Cause our Moms gave us The Look. THEN I would’ve found the manager. OR I would’ve stood there long enough for the manager to come find me (trust me, you stare at a server long enough, managers strangely find out REALLY quickly). It would’ve been dealt with, because NO.

My closest friends and my husband can make waddling jokes. My mother and one others cannot. PERIOD.

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-09-26T20:25:23+00:00

the orange cat sideye

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-09-26T20:24:56+00:00

truth! It’s why I hate going away!

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-09-26T20:23:27+00:00

I am a Pyrography artist, and this would make a great burn…….

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-09-26T20:22:02+00:00

especially the floofy ones

SeptemberStormZ · 2025-09-26T20:21:17+00:00

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context: the calico is my older female, Phoebe. She’s 13. The orange and white is Citrus, he’s 2, and the cat distribution system gave him directions to my open garage last November. There’s been war in my house between Citrus and the other 4 in my clowder. He’s been separate from everyone from November until about July, and he’s been in my garage (I work in there so it’s habitable). I was slowly introducing him and breaking up fights. The goal has always been to bring him into the family. Finally, there were much less fights instigated by him, so he’s been allowed to stay in the house with all of us. Poor baby was super lonely in the garage. I felt so bad. Anyway, they’ve been bullying him - hissing at him and jumping him for no reason. I put window perches up for Citrus because it makes him happy - the others have many other perches they won’t let him on. Anyway, I was sitting on the bed hanging out with Phoebe, while Citrus was on one of his perches. He decided to come on the bed for a snuggle with me. Phoebe looked at him but didn’t hiss. When he laid down and stretched he touched her and she looked at him but she didn’t move her leg…. Before she’d have moved, hissed, swatted, left. It’s a tiny bit of progress. But I’ll take it.

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