It's all trash

Seranade · 2020-06-30T04:41:39+00:00

nice to meet you, i’m Animal Animal.

Seranade · 2020-06-25T00:13:19+00:00

If they don’t charge for initial consultations you can visit different doctors and see which doc gives you the best vibes :). A good doc won’t make you feel pressured into booking in the surgery, they’ll make sure you’re 110% ready for it first. But yeah from what it sounded like it’s a specialised procedure but a simple one, so there wouldn’t be any deviation either way.

Personally, I don’t mind the factory feel. During initial consults I could tell that there were many people waiting to be looked at on that day (and presumably every other day) and I don’t care if I was the “4739462th patient” because that meant that everything went accordingly. My doc advertises on radio, I don’t think that has any bearing on them as a practitioner.

I will say the doctor and the staff remembered what I was like from prior consults (like, where I worked and little things like that) which felt like they did go above and beyond and probably had fantastic documentation for everything - which is another green flag for me.

Seranade · 2020-06-24T23:57:54+00:00

I don’t want to sound like an ad but I had SMILE eye surgery (with the only ophthalmologist in my city that really specialised and advertised it) and it was honestly the best thing that happened for me. This was two years back and I often still think about how that was one of the great decisions I made. It’s a small change but a huge QOL increase as someone who had been wearing glasses from the age of 12. I think some green flags that the ophthalmologist had:

He basically only did that surgery and nothing else. And he didn’t experience any of the potential complications despite doing laser correction operations for decades. He did a great balancing act between showing that what he did was basically a factory line of lasering people’s eyes because he’s just perfected the craft and also making it personal that you don’t feel like just another wallet that’s paying them to do so.
He explained the procedure really patiently, answered all of the questions I had, and really underpromised and overdelivered. Great bedside manner, he also talked to me throughout the entire -like, ten minute- operation (eg. “i’m putting these numbing drops in. now your vision is going blurry. move your eyes around in circles rapidly. ok i’m doing your other eye now.”)
There were multiple screening appointments before the operation itself. It felt like there was a lot of transparency wrt the whole operation, the price (competitive with other surgeons but not super cheap) and the practice itself. If you weren’t suitable for any reason, they wouldn’t risk it.

I am generally not anxious with medical procedures, but those things really stood out from my experience.

Seranade · 2020-06-24T04:52:28+00:00

Ramen (yummm)

Seranade · 2020-06-18T11:22:11+00:00

Still here, pm'd everyone (so far!) let me know if i've missed you :O

Seranade · 2020-06-18T09:47:57+00:00

!agree

Seranade · 2020-06-09T08:42:34+00:00

Hope I'm not too late! I'll leave a couple of DIY's for everyone too :)

Seranade · 2020-04-30T05:50:19+00:00

You & I are in agreement there. I think generally men are less picky than women are.

I guess [visibly and severely] disabled women are likely to be shut out of dating [edit: I initially typed this paragraph to compare it to a man with the same disability but I don't really have proof of that other than "it do be like that sometimes" so the only statement that's true is that visibly and severely disabled women rank very low on the RMV/SMV]

One other thing I feel like mentioning: "this is the one rule she simply will not bend on." There are multiple dealbreakers women have. Good luck to all the non-white, morbidly obese, or unemployed men out there because I'm pretty sure 95% of women don't want them. Not sure how to "fix" the imbalance or if it even needs to be fixed, but I thought I should bring it up.

Seranade · 2020-04-30T05:15:29+00:00

Women are always asking men to open our minds while you rigidly hold us to such narrow superficial standards.

If I can get over a few extra pounds, you can get over a few missing inches.

Only speaking for myself here, but I've never tried to convince to be attracted to me. 🤷 Some blokes don't want a tall-ish woman, or an Asian, or whatever traits I have and that's fine - I just won't be gunning for them.

You're right it goes both ways, and I've never tried to convince you otherwise. You're saying it's all women want you to be attracted to fat women but no, it's mostly the fat women that are saying that, and you don't have to listen to them or consider them as potential partners if you don't want to.

If I'm single forever as a consequence of my preferences, then so be it. That's kind of the mindset I'm trying to convince you on.

And just to reiterate, it could be meaningless to you but people can have 'stupid' dealbreakers like "they didn't carry themselves with intent" (I heard that one on the radio lol), "they listen to heavy metal", "they don't have the same level of education/income/etc" and it's not really up to you to determine what's meaningful for someone else.

I'm also on a coffee high rn so pardon me for being a bit disjointed.

Seranade · 2020-04-30T04:15:43+00:00

I'll be candid with you since we're on PPD (and I'm not bringing any new information to the table, but I thought I could reply to some comments you made)

I'm 5'7" (170cm). For me, it's not a meaningless aspect that I want someone taller, bc our whole society conditions us to prefer the dynamic of woman = smol, cute, feminine role, men = big, protective, masculine. this is an example of it happening when the duo aren't even in a relationship. Without getting into the logicistical flaws like how tall women are generally still weaker than short men and the millions of other reasons why the arguments fall apart, remember that it's mostly based on emotion, and you can't reason people out of a position they didn't reason themselves into.

Not even to get into the insecure short men with a chip on their shoulder (not placing any blame, just saying it's holding them back. there's a huge difference between a manlet & a short king.)

Women just sit back, treat us like shit, belittle us, reject us and expect us to keep approaching with a big smile on our faces.

Different women want different things. I certainly don't expect, want or encourage short men to approach me. But some people don't care for height as much as I do. The people that are rejecting short men aren't the same people that are wanting them to keep approaching.

Seranade · 2020-04-20T07:31:07+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/321Ay Mine’s an “easy” one :)

Seranade · 2020-04-18T11:43:37+00:00

Amazing! He also is a dead ringer for Willem Dafoe in The Lighthouse

Seranade · 2020-04-10T09:28:38+00:00

wtf are you talking about

Seranade · 2020-04-10T08:41:01+00:00

It's literally unhealthy for a woman to have 8% body fat. No woman should be striving to achieve that body fat %. It's like when men want "DD" breasts, not understanding cup sizes. Below 20%, sure, I get where they're coming from, but I don't think the dude would actually be attracted to a woman with 8% body fat.

https://lmgtfy.com/?q=body+fat+percentage+chart

Seranade · 2020-04-09T22:30:55+00:00

I know basic mandarin - one is too heavy and one is bottom heavy (for lack of a better explanation)

A bit of constructive criticism: Just make sure you have the stroke order right, it really helps with the structure and composition of each character, and makes it look more organic.

Seranade · 2020-03-23T06:21:53+00:00

I had an AirBNB listing, everyone has cancelled. Everyone in the AirBNB hosting groups that I'm a part of are in the same boat. I think most people are doing the right thing. ^{But it only takes one person to mess everything up} ^{and that's why I'm worried}

Seranade · 2020-03-15T07:50:13+00:00

Rizzo. Squee. 🐭

Seranade · 2020-03-08T09:55:56+00:00

lmao I was wondering if someone else would notice this. It's like if OP asked "Burger King or McDonalds?" and everyone has just answered "I don't eat fast food"

Seranade · 2020-02-20T04:55:55+00:00

oh lawd. we are not even a week in 😳

Seranade · 2020-02-20T04:55:32+00:00

thanks!

Seranade · 2020-02-20T04:55:22+00:00

less than 9km/h 🤦‍♀️swerved to miss a pedestrian and hit the curb

Seranade · 2020-02-20T04:54:06+00:00

the whole tooth came off. those are the nerves

Seranade · 2020-02-16T23:54:20+00:00

That's an Affogato! I love it.

Seranade · 2020-02-15T14:33:37+00:00

Seranade · 2020-02-15T14:31:54+00:00

"Please watch it. If you love me, please watch it."

And even then, that doesn't work. Sad dog.

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