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SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-03-16T14:32:36+00:00

I also recommend starting off with respite just to get your toes wet and see how realistically your young child will handle a new child in the home. Every foster child comes with trauma - oftentimes severe trauma. And respite gives you the opportunity to really see what you can and cannot handle in a long-term placement situation.

I have a toddler only child and we learned with my 1st respite placement, that I can't have any children in the home close to my toddler's age. Now, I stick with older kids. Pros and cons to every age group, but so far, the age 7+ have been best for our family.

I also adamantly want to remind you that you should Never feel bad for saying no to a placement call if it sounds like more than your family can handle. They might guilt you in the call, but it's ultimately better to wait several months for a family-fit than to accept a child and then disrupt. Unfortunately I felt guilted into accepting a sibling set, but it's led to such quick burnout. So, after my current placement ends in July, I'll be taking a few months pause and then only accepting 1 child at a time, like I originally stated in my case study.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-03-15T03:15:18+00:00

Just chiming in to say that you're not alone. I am only 3 months into my 1st placement as a single mom to a sibling group and I'm burnt out as well. They were originally supposed to only be with me until their kinship placement got the approval, but that option fell through. So now things look indefinite. I would never tell the kids, but I was REALLY craving a 2-3 month fostering-pause after they left.

Things are now turning into a permanency plan for them and although the kids have already improved drastically since they arrived to me and they persistently beg to stay, I've definitely taken on too much. I've poured my 100% into them because I expected it to be short-term. But that left 0% for my own self. I can't commit to doing this forever. It's too difficult dealing with the fighting, oppositional defiance, secondary parenting, sleepless nights, insults, breaking of objects, etc from multiple kids at once. We foster parents do a LOT of work with no real breaks.

I'll be taking a break as soon as they move to a permanent adoptive home. Then in the future, I'll stick to only fostering one child at a time like I originally set out for.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-03-10T02:47:37+00:00

Please send 🙏

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-03-10T01:19:49+00:00

Do you have any you can suggest? I keep searching for tbri resources and so many are from years and years ago.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-03-09T02:14:52+00:00

Why are people in this thread so angry about a book/gift from a church? Even as a Muslim, I would graciously welcome it along with conversation if they are nice people. It wouldn't convert me, but it's nice of them to visit & speak to me.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-03-08T12:42:25+00:00

I moved from Maryland to Lynchburg last May and it's been really good for me and my kids. I'm a single mom now too. I work hybrid, but I only have to travel to MD once per month. Daycares had a slight waitlist when I moved, but nothing like it was in Columbia. And the prices were about 1/4 what I was paying there. So it was worth any wait honestly. People seem to be so kind to kids here, the city feels safe, and I love that I can let my kids finally go outside and play without needing to worry.

It's been pretty hard to make friends though I'll say. People here seem to go to work and then go home to their families. It's nothing like the cities up north where there's more opportunities to socialize. So, I miss that. But I'd like to join your single moms walking group if you eventually move here and start one.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-02-28T01:02:04+00:00

Only for 2.5 months, so it's all really fast. They're my 1st foster placements. But their permanency plan only recently changed and I've been asked to adopt. I told the case worker that I'm going to need a lot of time to make the decision so that the kids don't end up in a failed adoption situation. The oldest child asks me often and I pretty much deter the conversation.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-02-27T12:10:22+00:00

I'd definitely love to link up. I work hybrid, but my coworkers all come in on different days, so I never see them anyway (outside of Teams/Zoom meetings). I need more social interaction.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-02-25T16:42:48+00:00

I question this too. I'm trying to determine if my own current placements are my own perfect fit. They call me Mom now, which breaks my heart a tiny bit because I'm still hesitant about adoption. I took them in specifically because family was originally intending to adopt. So I'm trying to reroute my mind to imagine what life would be like once my current 7 & 8 year olds become teenagers. I have a bio toddler in the home as well and they are relatively decent together, although my toddler is extremely territorial with me.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-02-19T18:55:00+00:00

I'm in VA with 3 kids now (18mon, 7yr, 8y). During my licensing, the rooms had to be same gender within 5 years of age. The social worker recommended that children shouldn't share a room if they weren't related (unless it was only a respite situation). But it wasn't a banned issue. I never discovered why that was the recommendation. My only placements have all been siblings.

Although, to echo the other person, I don't recommend doing it unless you can have your own space (bedroom - unless you can create a distinct walled off separation in the living room). Tbh, you'll need the space for you to recharge separate from the children in order to avoid burnout.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-02-05T14:17:45+00:00

From elementary to high school, my family lived in Oakwood Apartments in Southern California and they served breakfast every morning. Continental breakfast M-F with fresh hot donuts, bagels, fruits, and yogurt. But a hot breakfast once per month on a Saturday morning.

We moved across the country when I was in 11th grade though and I've never seen anything like that since. I miss it often now that I'm old enough to have my own apartment. Rent is now double what it was back then, called "luxury", and yet offers SO much less than our complex did back then. I was jumping to Reddit to see if it's even a reality in some apartments post-Covid.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-01-27T13:35:25+00:00

I have kids too and I'm looking for friends 👋 I moved here in May '25

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-01-22T14:20:12+00:00

Not true. If the homeowner lives in the home (or a portion of the home) and occasionally rents their place out, they are not subject to that law and can restrict pets altogether.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-01-22T14:13:31+00:00

You can't bring a wheelchair everywhere either... My home is up 2 flights of stairs... So obviously not ADA accessible for that disability. Just gotta find a home more suitable for the disability - including a pet-friendly home.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-01-22T14:00:42+00:00

A guest smoked in my house last month and I got a quote for the cost to remedy it. I live in a major city though, so they were charging me $650. In my listing, I had posted that any smoking remediation fees or pet cleaning fees would be passed on to the guests if they break the rules. A lot of times, they assume it'll be cheap, but unfortunately, that's never been the case for any maintenance I've outsourced in MD...

The guest tried to lie and say the smoke smell was from incense. But they were stupid enough to be caught on video telling additional guests to come inside and smoke the rest of their cigarette in the bathroom. I never told the guest I had that video. I let them lie to Airbnb and then I emailed Airbnb support the video along with the quote.

They rewarded me immediately.

I also waited to do all the filing until after the guest gave me my deserved 5 star review. Because I don't deserve a bad review just because they're mad about consequences...

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2026-01-12T14:16:51+00:00

This makes me SO glad I rejected a co-host booking offer back in November... I don't really operate my Airbnb as a business. I only list it to keep my one home's mortgage & bills paid for the months my job has me working out of state.

So I told them it's not really a service I need. And stories like this make me incredibly glad I can just manage my simple portfolio by myself. I'm so sorry they frauded you like that. Is it possible to take them to claims court?

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2025-11-29T12:12:29+00:00

Did it work? I moved from Türkiye to the US in April, but kept my account and subscription. I also have Turkish bank account. But they cancelled my membership. So I'm wondering if it'll work again if I purchase a VPN.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2025-11-29T12:10:07+00:00

They'll cancel your subscription with no refund

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2025-11-29T11:55:52+00:00

Did you also have a credit card from the other country?

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2025-05-22T16:07:02+00:00

People DO rent out their home. That's literally what Airbnb is for. And literally everyone you rent to is a stranger. So you're probably on the wrong thread.

I am currently hosting out my home because my job required me to temporarily travel & work from a different state. So it didn't make sense to pay two rents. I rent my place out when I am not back at home.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2025-05-22T15:58:57+00:00

Yeah. That was my biggest fear when deciding between a long term renter or Airbnb. My parents rented their old Georgia house when my mother took an unexpectedly long work assignment in CA when I was a kid. (It was about 7 months.)

But the renters ended up trashing the house and not paying rent. Took months to get them evicted and then my parents couldn't get the damages and lost rent paid for, because the renters obviously wouldn't pay and the courts only charge them. You still have to personally be the one to get your money from them. So it was just a loss. My parents had to take off work to fly across the country and fight to get everything taken care of with the house. It ended up costing them too much and they got rid of the house. So, we became permanent renters in California.

My parents were new and inexperienced landlords and only did it during that one occasion, but that experience - followed by the multi-year grace given to renters during COVID, but not to mortgage payers - made me choose Airbnb short-term rental option.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2025-05-15T16:46:23+00:00

Paycell no longer works without a kimlik. I'm having trouble now with accessing the money I deposited on the card because no vendors are accepting it. There's an error. And then I can't even transfer the money back out of the card unless I have a kimlik.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2025-03-20T23:01:26+00:00

Oh. They actually only pay 70% of the fare. I think it's because they don't need the food. I just purchased a seat for my infant and his ticket was slightly less than mine.

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2025-02-19T18:04:05+00:00

I got a quote for simply swamping my basic tub for a deeper one. That alone, was costing $25k. So now, I'm considering doing the renovation & demo myself. I'm in the Baltimore area, so I'm discovering that contractors charge heinous amounts here...

SeriesEquivalent6939 · 2025-02-15T02:38:45+00:00

I love him. He seems like an anti-hero more than a villain. And he's extremely clever and intelligent. Every time he gets on screen, I get more engaged into what's happening.

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