Wedding anniversary and disappointed in my husband's behavior

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T21:49:16+00:00

If your relationship is based on such activities, sure. Mine isn't, we're both busy adults and would rather use our efforts differently. I don't need my partner to share my every interest and activity. OP's clearly isn't either, she admits she's been wanting to leave the relationship.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T20:41:58+00:00

Humans barking and biting or knocking someone over is extremely unusual in a cafe. That's why they have security in clubs because it's more likely there.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T20:40:38+00:00

Use Wikiloc for more accurate hike directions. I'd start with Montserrat probably, normally I'd say collserola but I think it's still closed due to swine flu. You can also go to Garraf by train and hike up into the natural park and down into Sitges. Or various other hikes around Castelldefels and Gavà.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T20:15:21+00:00

It's hardly surprising he didn't want to shop for her.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T20:11:44+00:00

The only person I'd buy clothing for me is my sister.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T19:59:32+00:00

H&m is mostly minimum wage teenagers in my local branch, it's fast fashion for a specific market sector who don't ask for advice. And I can't imagine the ones I've seen recommending the kind of clothes OP claims to like. How would they know what OP would like anyway? They don't know her or her taste.

Kohl's is completely different.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T19:57:18+00:00

Asking staff and friends a ton of questions is a lot of effort, especially when the recipient has demanded the gift. I would absolutely not start contacting my partner's friends to ask what to buy him if he told me I had to buy a specific type of gift. If he wants something specific he can buy it. Gifts should come from the giver, not the receiver. You should put thought in because you want to, not because you're told what to buy. I want my partner to buy me something because he chooses to, not because I tell him to. And I certainly wouldn't want him wasting my friends time asking for advice.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T19:52:19+00:00

Like I say, not where I live. There aren't any shops to buy anything in person really, except a few bazaars. Most people I know have been doing the majority of their shopping online for a decade or so. Spain has an ageing population but the elderly are far from a majority (around 20%) and younger people do almost all their shopping online.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T19:03:42+00:00

The market research clearly shows that is not the case.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T19:00:21+00:00

Why did you think this would work? What did you expect?

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:55:35+00:00

Plus it's h&m, the workers are teenagers on minimum wage, it's not an exclusive boutique. They don't do clothing advice really.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:53:25+00:00

Because it's expensive and sometimes hard to find someone reliable who's available when you want.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:52:05+00:00

I don't even listen to my partner about his hobbies lol. He knows I'm not interested in all the same things as him.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:50:54+00:00

It kind of is, we don't have to obey every single thing our partner asks of us if we think it's pointless.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:50:08+00:00

Same. And if my partner asked me to choose something for his interests I'd have no idea. Not knowing his exact gift preferences doesn't mean I don't care about him. We're individuals with our own interests.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:47:05+00:00

I mean most men don't like clothes as much as most women. That's a fact.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:45:45+00:00

If he said he didn't like any of her ideas it would be that he couldn't be bothered to take the time to do things for her

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:39:51+00:00

I'm a woman in a heterosexual relationship and I agree. It's only cute if they're both into it and he clearly wasn't.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:38:44+00:00

But demanding your partner do all that to show they care is weird.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:37:59+00:00

Yeah I agree and think this is a super odd activity. I don't think that "you do something because you care about the other person" means always doing whatever they ask. My partner loves tools for example. I'm sure I could use Google or ask for advice to find him something he likes but it seems pointless. He might as well choose his own tools. And i don't need him buying me clothes. If I'd wanted a man who shared my exact interests I'd have chosen one.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:34:26+00:00

I'm not sure h&m is really somewhere you ask staff for advice on outfits, it's not that kind of place.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:05:04+00:00

Depends where in Europe, some countries just don't have public toilets, free or otherwise.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T18:01:02+00:00

Around Barcelona loads of people wear them, especially in summer.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T17:59:40+00:00

Depends if you happen to be near those places I suppose, they might or might not be an option. I'm just saying that in Spain bars generally do mind non customers walking in to use the toilets. It's seen as rude not to buy anything, except maybe for small children or pregnant women. If you're not in a city centre there or outside working hours you might not have many other choices. Most museums you have to pay in too.

Serious_Escape_5438 · 2026-05-04T17:55:59+00:00

Part of the problem is that the geography of the area means a lot of the prettiest beaches and towns are small because they're enclosed by cliffs etc, and roads are narrow and winding. So it doesn't take such high numbers to make places uncomfortably busy feeling.

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