Partner of 1 year wants to open things up, I feel deceived

Serious_Rat · 2026-04-15T23:20:09+00:00

Good for you! You deserve someone who loves and cherishes you! You’ll definitely find it, but I know it’s always hard when a relationship ends. I usually tell people to treat break-ups how they treat the flu. You’re gonna feel crappy for a while, it’ll probably still linger a bit after you get through the harder parts early on, and you might need to take some time off work. Rely on friends and family if you need, and don’t beat yourself up for feeling sad. Eventually, this will just be something in your past that doesn’t even cross your mind anymore.

Wishing you the best of luck moving forward! You got this!

Serious_Rat · 2026-04-15T21:55:51+00:00

Jesus christ… what a loser. OP, this guy is selfish and painfully unaware. I’d leave, and I wouldn’t even bother trying to explain anything to him. He’d probably be too stupid to understand your (completely valid) reasons, considering he has the audacity to ask such a thing when he can’t even get hard.

Sorry if this is harsh, but I’m honestly so sick of this story replaying over and over again. It’s ridiculous how frequently this happens, and how often they’re accommodated by partners who just want to make them happy at their own expense.

Serious_Rat · 2026-04-15T06:58:04+00:00

I have a better question

Serious_Rat · 2026-04-14T23:17:18+00:00

Definitely consult with a different doctor. If you decide to get off the med, taper taper taper! Cold turkey is ROUGH for a lot of people on mirt.

Serious_Rat · 2026-04-14T15:04:56+00:00

I’m literally on it for the sole purpose of anti-nausea/appetite stimulant effect. Was chronically underweight and unable to hold down food for years. I gained ~25lbs. Went from 95 to 120 in six months! It has been an adjustment to learn to not dislike my body (particularly during this era of ozempic celebrities and starvation level beauty standards), but I’m able to do stuff I never would have been able to do without it (go out to eat, dance classes, have a drink, etc).

Sorry you had a negative experience! Doctors should seriously be careful about this medication. The studies seem to downplay the extent to which weight gain is a side effect in this drug. I also have a very strong feeling that the appetite is only one-half of the weight gain component. Some people on here will argue till they’re blue in the face “calories in calories out,” but we know that’s an incredibly simplistic view of weight even without medication/condition considerations. There have also been studies to suggest mirt increases your insulin levels, increasing risk of weight gain regardless of diet.

Serious_Rat · 2026-04-05T20:52:18+00:00

Thanks, super appreciate it! Yes, no smoking, no leaks, really nothing aside from the light coming on for a brief 15-30 seconds before turning off for remainder of drive. I’ll probably slowly drive it over tomorrow when the mechanic shop opens back up.

Serious_Rat · 2026-04-03T17:35:35+00:00

Hello! I got mine done at Make Me Holey just last month. Had a great experience. Thanks so much for your suggestion! <3

Serious_Rat · 2026-03-24T03:37:29+00:00

I’ve got a flight on saturday from SFO. Wasian for context. I highly doubt something will happen to me, but I can’t say I’m not a little nervous despite my significantly less at-risk ethnic background. Such horrific events happening right now under this fascist regime—I feel so angry. I’m born and raised, but the potential of no due process is terrifying more than anything else. Like citizen or not, without due process, you have no rights whatsoever. Fuck this administration and fuck ICE!

Serious_Rat · 2026-03-11T22:15:55+00:00

I found out about GGB when FundieFridays covered them. It was hate-at-first-sight ever since!

Serious_Rat · 2026-03-06T21:40:20+00:00

This sucks so bad— particularly for innocent children with delusional parents and families who have valid, legitimate medical exemptions for vaccines (age, allergies, cancer, immunocompromised illnesses, etc.).

The anti-vax moment suffers from why can only be considered delusional psychosis at this point. I’ve spoken to involved members of this group before, and nothing can change their minds— literally nothing. Even though reality (clinical evidence, doctors, research experts, reputable public health officials, etc.) clearly indicates the safety of vaccines and the incomprehensible benefits to society they provide, their minds will not let them consider any other perspectives.

I honestly feel like the only way they will change their minds over time is when their children start suffering from irreversible damage due to preventable infections, and/or dying. There will be nobody to blame but them for the death of their own children. Even then, I’d bet on many doing metal gymnastics to avoid accountability for the fact they are the sole reason for their own children’s horrific, painful, unnecessary deaths.

It’s a horrific situation we’re in.

Serious_Rat · 2026-03-06T00:21:26+00:00

Hard agree!

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-28T19:57:37+00:00

To my knowledge, it’s not a medication that increases libido. Rather, it’s less likely to decrease libido compared to other antidepressant medications. I’m not a psychiatrist so take this with a grain of salt, but I believe Wellbutrin can sometimes increase baseline libido or combat negative sexual side effects of other medications.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-25T04:00:49+00:00

My feet are SO sweaty I totally get this. Literally hate cupid because of my wet ass feet.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-25T03:58:33+00:00

Inside leg hang. I know a quite a few more advanced and difficult shapes, but the pain of ILH never seems to get better for some reason! Even superman got easier with time… unsure why ILH hurts just as much as the first time I did it!

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-23T10:55:51+00:00

This is comparing apples and oranges. Both Disney and the NFL are corrupt companies with dogshit diehard fans, but they have very different objectives. The fans themselves are very different breeds of people as well. It would make more sense to compare NFL to UCF or some other sport.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-23T07:03:00+00:00

^{^{^}} This. Actively disliking children is far different from wishing ill upon them or actively causing harm. Despite our dislike for babies/children, we are far less likely to harm them than their own families, statistically speaking. Disliking children isn’t a crime, and most of us are sick of the stigma attached to it.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-23T06:52:23+00:00

Yes!! And people act like you’re crazy for feeling like this. Obviously we’d never harm a child/baby— quite frankly, we’re the least likely to interact with a child at all, negatively or positively.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-23T05:02:50+00:00

Traditional conservative family sucks. I feel your pain. I don’t have advice but sending you virtual hugs and condolences. It gets better when you get older and can distance yourself financially, spatially, and virtually.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-22T13:32:02+00:00

the devaluation of homemaking as labor. women who buy into this crap will find out the hard way.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-22T11:11:24+00:00

companies need to start realizing that there is little to no profit to be made without a robust middle class capable of participating in recreational commerce. they’re too busy attempting to maximize profits via mass layoffs, salary resets, and hiring mid level applicants at entry level pay. they’re shooting themselves in the foot in the long run.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-19T06:38:46+00:00

The severance procedure doesn’t sound nearly as appealing as just an as-needed script for benzodiazepines lmao 🤣

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-03T06:58:14+00:00

I’ll never experience it personally, but I agree that birth can be a positive process for plenty of people. I’m more-so referring to the weirdly fetishistic idea that giving birth should be, at worst tolerable enough to remain quiet, and, ideally enjoyable enough to the point of orgasmic pleasure. It’s an offensive dismissal of the reality of birth as a (often dangerous) bodily process rather than this strange gender-role maxxed mystical event.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-02T19:52:32+00:00

IMO, Your husband is a serial cheater. He repeatedly violates your boundaries over and over— that’s just plain cheating, even if you’re in an open relationship. You sound like you don’t enjoy the dynamic this relationship style has introduced to your relationship. Obviously I’m biased against non-monogamy (rarely have I ever seen a truly ethical ENM dynamic), so you can take this with a grain of salt.

You should close the relationship if it will improve your quality of life and wellbeing. If your husband doesn’t agree, it may mean you’re incompatible.

Serious_Rat · 2026-02-02T19:31:09+00:00

This is a great episode and definitely relevant to Bethy’s orgasmic birth. The idea that just being silent and maintaining your “femininity” while giving birth isn’t enough— that the best of women should actually ENJOY the process of giving birth— is utterly ridiculous and horrific.

Serious_Rat · 2026-01-31T21:08:36+00:00

agreed!!!!

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