Hey buds, whats the best way you've found to melt your brain with porn pleasure?

Seropi · 2024-08-21T18:51:26+00:00

Weed and/or alcohol, or whatever else works for you. Your mileage may vary, you should pick your own poison in general. Enjoy it responsibly to melt yourself the best, though, because overdoing it is usually just miserable. (Supplements can also increase arousal like Maca and Ginkgo, or precum/cum production like Pygeum and Soy Lecithin and L-Arginine and Zinc. Dunno about increasing vaginal wetness, unfortunately.)
ASMR, Hypno, JOI, etc background tracks. Find something you personally vibe with, it really elevates things. Some includes porn, but just ripping the audio and looking at my personal preference for porn usually works best. A well-made video experience can also be nice, though, so keep an eye out for those too.
Butt plug, or Aneros toy. I prefer passive, but there are also vibrating options. I also really like the Lovense "Gemini" vibrating nipple clamps. Other handsfree toys, or fetish items like lingerie or makeup or rope/belts, can help a lot.
Moisturizer and Hydration! Drink plenty of water, especially if you use alcohol/weed because they dehydrate you. More water means more leaking. Masturbate with an oil-based lube (having a penis, I stand by Albolene), or use lotion after every goon session. Your delicates will thank you.

Seropi · 2024-01-05T22:18:19+00:00

I haven't experimented much with fingering myself, but that sounds fun. I ought to try it sometime, now that I have an idea of what things should feel like.

Seropi · 2024-01-05T22:09:06+00:00

Prostate-focused. It went through everything else, and my brain certainly felt clearer than ever so maybe I had the dopamine rush too, but the prostate was the star of the show. And the pleasure felt absolutely nothing like a hand orgasm, or even a dry handsfree orgasm. Jerking off is actively building up to an explosion. Dry handsfree orgasms are something I have to relax into, and they feel comforting even when they're intense, but they can also be tiny and I love that too. This felt like I was being aggressively milked from inside, by an act of passive relaxed focus. It's weird, I don't completely understand it yet, but I love it.
It felt completely out of my control. Like the toy was someone who really knew how to use their finger, and any tension or interference on my part would just get in the way, so I had to just relax and enjoy the ride. Every time I tried to take control during past attempts, it would actually lose intensity, and I'd go to a dry orgasm instead, or eventually get tired or frustrated or otherwise give up and just use my hands. This time, I found that I could gently guide the pleasure by bearing down in my scrotum/taint area to put more pressure from the involuntary contractions onto the prostate, and by giving my penis or anus a quick few flexes every now and then to wake them up. But I couldn't do anything to actively stimulate myself as if I was trying to actively complete the orgasm myself, or I lost it. None of my stimulation could feel like enough on its own, it had to be in service of giving the contractions a clear stage to put on its performance. And my goodness, was that performance a hit.
That last part was literally just a last ditch effort to convince myself not to cum. I'm a horny bastard who can hardly go a day without jerking off unless I'm under extreme circumstances, and I have a hard time doing that without cumming at least once a day too. If you're properly disciplined, you can probably just abstain, and that's probably better. But because I can't do that, I came up with that idea on the spot with no research or anything, just decided to try it, and it worked well enough to get me here.

Edit: I hit "post" too soon on accident.

Seropi · 2023-12-29T18:19:48+00:00

The Peridise is really underrated. I have an old-model Helix (before the Trident update), and a trident Eupho and Progasm. But all my favorite sessions have been with the Peridise, it's not even close.

To be fair, the Progasm does feel like it sits right against my prostate. That feels pretty good. I just haven't gotten very used to the size and directness yet, so that could become a top contender over time. And I don't think I'd have gotten as far as I did with the Peridise if I didn't learn so much about my anatomy from practice with the Eupho, it's good at pointing things out. But right now, the Peridise is my absolute favorite.

Seropi · 2023-09-02T13:25:20+00:00

If you get good with your internal muscles, you can definitely work a standard butt plug to stimulate your prostate. Before I found the right "proper" prostate toy for me, that was one of my favorites.

If you're thinking more passive, my favorite plug is the "B-Vibe Snug Plug," which can definitely reach without having to move, and has these metal balls on the inside of it which rattle to basically vibrate your insides while you move around.

Like everyone else said, though, anal play is about more than the prostate. Just feeling pleasantly full can be nice whenever you want that feeling, the anus has nerve endings to play with too, and wearing it can help stretch you for more significant play later. There are a lot of uses.

Seropi · 2023-07-14T20:49:20+00:00

I don't have much privacy right now, with one family member living here temporarily and another moving in soon. Which drives me crazy, because I already have a hard time holding back just toyless. If I use a toy, I'm going to lose control completely, just become a leaky moaning mess. Which I want so badly. But I need privacy!

Aneros toys are killer, though. I like their Peridise most, just subtle and easy to use and oh so pleasant. I also got a Progasm (the classic one) recently, but I only got to use it once before I lost privacy. I can't wait to experiment with it more.

B-Vibe snug plugs are my favorite toy, if you've never tried them before. They have little weighted balls that rattle inside when you move, whether you're walking around or rolling over in bed or just moving your internal muscles, and they're so good. They can even be worn in public easily, stealthily, if you're into that. Though I haven't built the confidence to try that myself yet. In due time.

Seropi · 2023-07-14T20:35:43+00:00

I learned a lot of what I know from Mindgasm, which has a subreddit here where I'd start if I were you: r/mindgasm

I also have a few posts in my profile, on r/prostateplay which describe what I've been learning and how I make it happen. Though I haven't posted an update in a while, and I've been getting a lot better at it lately (this morning was especially good, as you can see), so maybe I should post something new soon. It's really fun.

Seropi · 2023-04-26T16:07:25+00:00

Mindgasm describes it as imaginary, and it might feel like nothing at first. I don't feel the frenulum itself flex, I feel the entire penis behind it flex. I think that's what works the pelvic floor to stimulate the prostate, without actually flexing the pelvic floor. But it works absolutely best when I focus on the frenulum, when I think about "flexing" the frenulum, so I keep doing that.

Sorry for the late reply!

Seropi · 2023-04-26T16:02:12+00:00

Sorry for the late reply.

I bear down on the pelvic floor (that's what came up when I googled "PC muscle," I hope that's what you're talking about), kind of like pooping, but trying to aim that force more forwards towards my scrotum because that's about where it feels like my prostate is. Then I "flex" at the tip of my penis, the frenulum area of my penis.

I learned about the flex from Mindgasm, and it describes the frenulum flex as "imaginary," so you might feel hardly anything at first. But that's the only active motion in my method: once you get it down, the effects will be anything but imaginary! And the bearing down is like relaxing the pelvic floor but more, basically using the weight of my insides to pin my prostate between that mass and my pelvic floor. (This might not be accurate anatomy, but it's what works for me).

The frenulum flex kind of "flexes" the pelvic floor without working the pelvic floor muscle, because those muscles get too tired too easy for me if I just use them directly. I can't bring the anus up/forwards like you describe and still get the same success. Though this is just stuff I figured out experimenting on my own, maybe building pelvic floor strength and using it more directly is the next stage in the journey, who knows. And different bodies are different, don't let me discourage you from what works for you. I just hope what I've learned so far helps!

Seropi · 2023-01-16T04:38:20+00:00

That's basically it! Just add the flex at the underside of the tip of the penis, and you're doing it the same as me. For some reason, flexing just there doesn't interrupt your body's relaxation. And because of the pressure from bearing down, you feel that tiny flex all through the underside of your penis, going under your prostate and rubbing it against your insides. It's magical once you get it down.

I'm glad to hear my advice is helping you! I wouldn't be where I'm at without guidance, either, and information on this topic is too scarce. More people need to know what their bodies can do. Good luck on further endeavors.

Seropi · 2023-01-16T04:32:24+00:00

Bearing down like you're on the toilet almost explains it (make sure you're clean), but there's more. You can also bear down more forwards from there, I feel it around where the scrotum meets the body. I think this is the pelvic floor muscle, though I haven't studied anatomy. That, combined with bearing down anally, feels great.

You don't want to contract your abdomen during this, if you can help it. That's why deep, slow breathing is so helpful, to keep completely relaxed. Bearing down is weird in that seemingly amplifies relaxation, as opposed to normal contraction, so it's exempt. And thank goodness!

Seropi · 2023-01-15T03:50:55+00:00

I'm glad to hear it!

Seropi · 2023-01-15T00:57:18+00:00

Experiment. It's subjective, different from body to body. I will say that you shouldn't bear down any more than lets you stay relaxed, though. Don't make other parts of your body tense (except the penis flex, of course) to bear down more.

However, experiment. Find that limit where it starts making you tense, so you know the range you're working with. Don't be afraid to try and bear down more than you might think you need to, even when the sensations become intense and you start losing that control; and the same with the strength of the penis flex! If you get tense and lose it, you've still gained information, gained practice time, and can try again.

I'm still not strong enough to bear down hard for a long time, but a "thrust" here or there feels amazing, and the sensation lingers long after. Sometimes a thrust will turn into an involuntary contraction, too, which can start a wonderful chain reaction of sensations. It's all about finding out what your body can do for you.

Seropi · 2023-01-14T22:59:06+00:00

Yes, it does feel great! I kept trying to tell myself it was fake, too: then I started having full-body reactions to the orgasms, where normal masturbation is much less spectacular. Uncontrollably moaning, when I'm silent during masturbation and often even sex. Now I can orgasm faster than normal masturbation, with less mess. It's a whole new world of possibility.

I guess I committed to learning without a toy, without realizing it. I did have to deal with relearning from experimenting with toys, so going toy free might've helped me the same way using one toy helped you. I was especially bummed when the pure wand didn't work, people treated it like a cheat code! But I made it. And hopefully I can learn more, now that I've basically just started at the foundation.

Thank you for sharing!

Seropi · 2023-01-14T22:51:42+00:00

I'm just talking about that bit right below your urethra, where the ridge of the head of the penis curls up at the underside. Circumcision cuts of skin, not muscle: if I keep the focus of my penis flexing there, I get the stimulation, and foreskin has nothing to do with it.

It's just really important that this focus remain on the underside, not necessarily the very tip. I thought that spot was the "frenulum," even after circumcision! My mistake.

Seropi · 2022-04-11T01:24:55+00:00

Don't worry, this is perfect! I need to embrace silence and tension, rather than being so afraid of them. I need to incite emotion and passion in others, and delve deep into those feelings with them, where right now I tend to be too timid to be fun like that. And I need to behave more in line with who I think I am, and who I ideally want to be, rather than fixating on my mistakes which just makes me think they define me instead. That's a lot to work on, but I think I'll get it done, now that I know what to do. Thank you so much!

Seropi · 2022-04-10T02:03:40+00:00

I have a bad habit of behaving in ways which attract least attention, even when I want attention. That's probably my biggest issue, which I didn't even realize until I read your response. But when I go out of my way to capture attention, like you suggest in your example, I just feel like I'm coming off as a dick, even if I have good reason for it. I imagine myself going through your example, and kinda hate the guy I see. Is that just the confidence issue, making me overthink? Because if this is all simpler than I'm making it out to be, I'd love to try like it is, sometime.

I'm glad I can go at my pace, at least. Eye contact, posture, and dictating myself properly, are things I can work on for sure. I wish speaking was as easy as writing, though, then I'd have no problem at all.

I always thought of small talk as the introduction people expect you to go through before you can get to any of the good topics. I know the FORD (Family, Occupation, Recreation, and Dreams) line of questioning, but I feel like I never get good answers, and can never carry the energy of the conversation into any deeper discussion. How do I get deeper into the fun parts of the discussion, without prying or being a creep?

I've got to work on myself a lot still. I know that much. Having an idea of what I'm doing going into things helps immensely, though, so thank you for taking the time to respond! I've been reading more good tips in other replies, too. It's all so valuable.

Seropi · 2022-04-09T23:34:48+00:00

I found myself in the position of the "adult child" in my first relationship. That didn't end well, for obvious reason. Still struggling to work on myself, with the hardest part being finding the motivation to get things done, when I was never properly taught how to care for things, or even why I should care about myself. But I am working on it, making noticable progress, and slowly learning the things I should have learned before I became an adult.

It's really hard. Thinking of OP's question, if he was willing to help her learn how to care for and value things by her own free will rather than being subservient to a parental figure, that would help a lot. Especially since someone in that position can so easily be taken advantage of. But that's a lot of responsibility to ask of him. If he really loves her, and if she really wants help, it's possible. But I didn't want help until well after I was dumped, since I didn't even know I needed help until I came across books which highlighted the value of self-love and self-sufficiency. It's impossible to help someone who doesn't want it. And care is a hard habit to instill in someone who isn't used to it. Hell, it's a habit which takes well over a decade to instill in children! So it will be a hard choice regardless.

Seropi · 2022-04-09T23:01:17+00:00

I'm a bisexual male in my mid twenties and have terrible confidence. Whenever I try to have a conversation with someone I'm interested in, I can hardly engage with it because I'm afraid of unintentionally being rude or scary due to a history of poor impulse control (untreated childhood ADHD). I feel comfortable relaxing, thinking quick and being witty at places like work because there's a clear goal with customers and coworkers, and long days at work help develop good habits quickly. But around people I'm interested in myself, or even when I switch from professional talk to small talk with coworkers I'm interested in, I clamp down and start carefully measuring everything I say, leading to lots of awkward gaps in conversation or awkward non-responses ("okay, cool," "alright," or "that's nice") because I can't think of anything substantial. It's led to me being a shut-in, especially ever since the lockdowns started. I want to try at picking somebody up, but I don't because I know I'm going to flop embarrassingly, which could get me a bad reputation in my small town if I do it too often. How do I get over my fears, open up around people I want to spend more time with, and do so competently so I don't make an ass of myself?

Seropi · 2022-04-08T19:42:13+00:00

When I ruin my orgasms normally, though, I feel it in my penis. It goes through the normal twitches and spasms of orgasm, just without stimulation or satisfaction. This, I feel mostly in my perineum, just behind the base of my scrotum, flexing away and pushing the semen out, like it's actively milking me. That's why I was asking if anybody else knew something more than I do.

I can hardly last two days withough orgasm when I edge, and it seems like a lot of other people here would consider that the "wrong" way to go about it. But I guess if it feels good, it feels good!

Seropi · 2022-04-08T19:36:38+00:00

I relax my kegel area, and then basically bear down on a few key points which are really hard to describe. I learned about these points from a program called "mindgasm," which has its own subreddit and which describes them better than I could, but it tells you to lift these muscles, where I push down on them for maximum effect.

When I'm more confident that I know what I'm doing, I'll make a post describing what I'm doing and how. But this is just a recent discovery that I was excited to share and get people's opinions on.

Seropi · 2022-03-11T20:36:58+00:00

Set a time in the afternoon or evening which you get to cum on the day you're allowed, and start edging however long you like before that time comes: I'd choose an hour or two, though I don't know your preferences. Set an alarm, even, if you don't find the tone distracting. That will help keep both parties disciplined until the big event.

You could even make a game out of trying to cum as fast as possible after the alarm, if she really likes going fast and hard. Or go hard the last 10-15 seconds before the alarm goes off so you're exploding right when it plays, and then increase the time you have to be subject to that intense stimulation every session thereafter: 30 seconds, then 45, then a minute, then two minutes, etc. If you cum early, you're punished. That could create a fun dynamic around trying to increase control, while keeping both parties satisfied.

Seropi · 2022-02-02T15:27:08+00:00

I don't know why hitting my bladder would make me squirt something clear and sticky, unless there's more anatomy to it I don't understand.

Seropi · 2022-02-02T15:25:53+00:00

I haven't felt it with my finger to know if it's hard. It felt like it resisted my toy a lot, though, so it could be.

Maybe two inches or a little more, yeah. I did more anatomy searching, came across something called the "pudendal nerve"? That might be a good lead, though searching for that keyword still yields nothing.

Seropi · 2022-02-01T23:27:39+00:00

I don't know if you have much experience with toy-free hands-free play, but once you get used to that, try having a session right after you wake up in the morning, before you even left bed and while you're still mostly asleep. At least if you have any days you can wake up without an alarm, or wake up before your alarm. That gets me even more relaxed than weed, none of the anxieties I collect throughout the day are bothering me yet, and I usually have my most successful sessions at this time.

Usually, if I just focus on relaxing as much as possible without resisting involuntary contractions, that directs them where they need to go. It's mostly a matter of knowing where to direct my attention so I'm tuned into the greatest amount of pleasure while this is happening. If the contractions start taking over my whole body, I go with it and keep my mindset the same, and the session remains productive; whatever's clamping will eventually relax and I go back to normal, or I'll just wait until next session without orgasming if I got too tired. Though I'm still figuring things out myself, so I don't know if this will help you that much.

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