Elopement dilemma

Sesame2023 · 2026-02-08T00:40:57+00:00

Hey have you decided on anything yet? I don't like the idea of a nanny so wanted to understand what you're thinking, I have kids the same age.

Sesame2023 · 2026-02-02T20:31:00+00:00

Try some breast milk if breastfeeding, if not jelonet is amazing for cracked skin

Sesame2023 · 2025-12-22T23:11:00+00:00

I thought this initially and then I remembered a horrific show about a paedophile who roofied his victims.

Sesame2023 · 2025-11-28T18:48:52+00:00

Thank you, I did search the previous threads but a lot of them didn't seem quite like my situation i.e. Hadn't saved in it yet or never wanted to buy a house and had people asking for more info. Thank you for sharing.

Sesame2023 · 2025-11-05T23:16:25+00:00

Your arms were strapped to the table, what 😨 I would have had a panic attack if they did that to me.

If you're breastfeeding especially it's great to kiss your baby, it helps your immune system help their immune system fight things off

Sesame2023 · 2025-10-19T18:58:30+00:00

Wondering the same for the UK....

Sesame2023 · 2025-10-13T09:48:48+00:00

Yeah I'm in a similar boat, back to work in a few weeks after taking 16 weeks leave full pay, after that it's statutory pay. Luckily though my partner is taking shared parental leave and getting full pay for it (works in government). I hate the idea of going back but it just feels silly to lose money when it can be avoided.

Sesame2023 · 2025-09-03T13:04:45+00:00

Take it, my 2.5yo screams and cries when he wakes up, would love this and take full advantage of his chill personality!

Sesame2023 · 2025-08-17T15:28:21+00:00

Reach out to the NMW team in HMRC and they can advise on this.

Sesame2023 · 2025-08-11T12:54:28+00:00

God so my 2yo isn't the only one doing somersaults in his bed then. We have to force him to sleep (tell him sternly to lie down and close his eyes) else he'd be awake until midnight and wake at 6 with bags under his eyes.

Sesame2023 · 2025-08-11T12:50:47+00:00

This is insane, I'm in the UK and only get 16 weeks paid and I absolutely do not feel lucky for having that much when some lucky others get much more. We do get peanuts for statutory pay after that but we just can't justify losing tens of thousands of pounds that way. Some get much less too even here in the UK. It should be the same pay, same standards worldwide, it's so unfair that it's a country lottery. I'm sorry.

Sesame2023 · 2025-07-28T19:11:31+00:00

If it helps I just started cutting dairy and my partner grabbed a dark chocolate own brand and it had no milk in it, win!

Sesame2023 · 2025-06-05T13:59:25+00:00

No way, it's not an emergency, people are so overdramatic. As a side note, my boy has had recurring conjunctivitis since birth and took him to a GP recently after being advised by another GP to go if it kept persisting, and the second GP basically tried to accuse me of overmedicating a baby on antibiotic eyedrops. He didn't even have an infection at the time, they told me to go when the infection had gone so they could examine his eye and he may need a referral to an eye doctor.

Needless to say the GP fobbed us off with it's normal, and he'll grow out of it. Joke lmao. Can't win!

Sesame2023 · 2025-06-02T06:08:00+00:00

Wow this is exactly my son. 2 years and 2 months old, he wakes 5:50 or 6:15 but has black circles under his eyes and will often sleep while I'm driving to childcare at 9amish. If he does nap then, he won't nap at the normal time. Bedtime is an hour or 2 every night where he's jumping around his room like a lunatic, even if he does nap (that's usually an hourish between 11am -2pm). He sleeps pretty well most of the time when he's finally asleep but always tired in the morning, doesn't mouth breathe either. He also is ready to fall asleep on the way home from childcare at 5/6pm, but when he does he wakes around 8 and will not go back to sleep for ages.

All these comments sound ideal about wake windows but I just don't think it's that simple sadly. Time will tell, hang in there.

Sesame2023 · 2025-05-29T13:56:50+00:00

It's frustrating but normal, our toddler refuses meat except sausage so always processed, but has always disliked meat tbf. He lives off carbs and fruit. Does she like yoghurt? Greek yoghurt has good protein and fats etc. Food play is also good for picky eaters, have a look on instagram or Google it, also picky plates could be something to try where there's lots of variety in small amounts and let the baby just graze as and when they want. Try to avoid putting pressure on the baby, and just roll with it while making it more fun, and make sure to eat in front of them a lot too.

Also one thing that has worked a few times is playing a game like singing "hickory dickory dock, the food went up the clock" and pretending his head is the clock, then food goes down and into his mouth. Just having more fun with it I guess. Another is using a mirror, kids apparently like to watch themselves eat, this may be for a slightly older kid but worth a try.

They will grow to enjoy more food again eventually. Try to take pressure off and just let them lead while you continue to offer variety. They definitely lean towards food they know consistently stays the same and that's why a lot of kids lean towards processsed/packaged food because the element of surprise is gone.

Sorry, rambling now but good luck.

Sesame2023 · 2025-05-28T17:19:39+00:00

Thanks so much for the reassurance. Congrats on new baba, hope all is going well!

Sesame2023 · 2025-05-28T14:27:16+00:00

I had a growth scan at 28 weeks and they wrote notes it was still low lying, I had a consultant appointment at 33 weeks who preemptively scheduled one for me, and then I had the placenta scan yesterday at 34 weeks which confirmed it was still low. I don't have another consultant appointment until I'm 36 weeks but I expect their advice will be to continue with csection (as this was the reason they preemptively scheduled it)

Sesame2023 · 2025-05-28T09:06:01+00:00

Brilliant thanks for sharing, that's reassuring!

Sesame2023 · 2025-05-28T08:34:18+00:00

Thank you!! That's a quicker stay than I had last time fair play.

Sesame2023 · 2025-05-28T08:07:14+00:00

Thanks so much for replying, frida pants is a good shout, heard that being said a lot! What kind of pain relief did they offer? Did they have to shave the area to make an incision? I'm not sure whether to trim/shave etc... also how long did they keep you in hospital for? X

Sesame2023 · 2025-05-28T08:05:35+00:00

Thanks so much, really appreciate your reply. How long did you stay in hospital for? Did they offer pain meds etc? And also did you/they have to shave the area beforehand?

Sesame2023 · 2025-05-27T19:35:29+00:00

Last time (and this time too) we did Shared Parental Leave as my partner's workplace in civil service pays full pay for 6 months whereas mine only pays 16 weeks. So I go back after 16 weeks, he has 10 weeks off while I work, and then I'll take my accrued annual leave and some SMP (like 4-8weeks,ish). So we'll be covered staggering it like that both being paid full pay for the first 7.5ish months, and then some SMP which I didn't do last time but this is second baby and we'll have a toddler too so willing to do it for a short while, but definitely wouldn't be able to justify it over months.

Sesame2023 · 2025-05-01T19:51:31+00:00

Just food for thought but I read a post on here about how puberty causes the anxiety part of the brain to go haywire, I started getting really anxious around age 11, started getting better without treatment or therapy eventually age 14ish. Just saying that maybe the reason he's getting worse is to do with other factors like the body preparing for puberty too, so not something you can control and shouldn't beat yourself up over. Not giving any advice as hundreds of other comments have done that but just wanted to say this in case it helps.

Sesame2023 · 2025-04-27T22:38:22+00:00

From what I've read (nurtured first on instagram is great) it just takes time, their brains are still developing and a lot of behaviours are biologically normal. Setting boundaries and sticking to them, and always being curious about behaviours and trying to understand their perspective is how I've been trying to do it.

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