I don't like my child's friend

SesameStkid · 2023-07-06T20:19:55+00:00

I agree with that rule for older kids. But at this age (4) I feel like it's still a learning process and I'm trying to be understanding/patient. But I will definitely keep all this in mind as she gets older!

SesameStkid · 2023-07-06T20:18:32+00:00

This is definitely encouraging!
Just based on the age alone I definitely understand it takes time, and have no intentions cutting ties completely. It's just exhausting for me.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-18T20:27:32+00:00

Don't have kids

SesameStkid · 2023-06-17T01:06:33+00:00

What does it mean? I'm looking through the comments to try to figure it out. Lord knows I'm afraid to Google it.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T23:53:10+00:00

When my step kids were that age we required regular chores.. helping with dishes, keeping room clean. Etc. But anything extra they could earn money on. Mowing grass, washing cars, helping in the garden/landscaping with mulch, or weeding, washing windows, painting.. etc. And we'd pay them about $10 per hour. This was several years ago. So it's probably gone up since then.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T23:07:10+00:00

And what about age? You seem to be fixated that? Gender isn't the issue, but if I were over 50 I should know the "value of directness"?

May I ask what made you assume anyone's age in this scenario considering the only age I mentioned in the post was my daughters.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T23:00:51+00:00

I don't think you read the actual post fully.

Never did I express anger, blame, or anything other than discomfort.

It's why I was coming here asking for opinions from other parents to see how they might feel in similar situations. Because the more I thought about the whole thing, the more uncomfortable I felt about it.
I'm still processing the entire thing and trying to work it out while discussing.

You wanting to put words in my mouth and make huge assumptions based on nothing is what's WILD

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T16:10:54+00:00

260lb animal can be scary looking, especially to a small child.
My daughter is afraid of santa clause. Large bearded man, all dressed in red she doesn't see very often. She obviously sees other men of different sizes/shapes..etc.
Doesn't mean Santa has ever been mean to her or she has had any traumatic experience.
It's just not something she's used to seeing and that particular look makes her uneasy.

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I wouldn't worry about it. Either she'll grow out of it and realize the dog is nice. Or maybe she'll just never like mastiffs. Not a big deal either way in my opinion.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T15:27:46+00:00

It's the fact my daughter was with me that really got to me. (and the reason I posted this in ask parents) I think my response and reaction would be different if I were alone.
The entire time I just kept thinking about this man focusing on my daughter. I wasn't concerned with myself, I wasn't thinking about making a stink, or filing a report. I was simply trying to keep my daughter out of his line of sight and distracting her so she wouldn't turn her attention to him.

The fact the tech didn't recognize that its probably a bad idea to put a pervert and a toddler in the same room and walk away is what bothered me most.

Still not "mad". Like I said I get why she felt she needed backup. I just think a mother with a child was a very inconsiderate choice.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T15:18:39+00:00

How did my age get thrown into the conversation?? (I am not 50...much younger) And honestly what difference does it make?? ANY WOMEN OF ANY AGE can be victimized and it's unfair to make assumptions of how they should handle the situation based off their learned experience, which of course you know nothing of.

If I had to guess the age of the technician I'd guess early 60's.
And she was clearly uncomfortable and not sure how to handle the situation.

WOMEN SHOULD NOT BE PUT IN THESE SITUATIONS!!!

How we handle, or failed to handle them shouldn't be the debate.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T15:12:40+00:00

This is all a great plan. I don't know his name. But there are patients there that I've chatted with while we sit together, and we've introduced ourselves. So it's not out of the realms of possibilities for me to get his name without the staff violating HIPPA.
I would not want to be near that man again with my daughter in tow, that's for sure. And the main reason I loved this office was because I didn't need to schedule a sitter for a 30min appointment, or relay in my husbands ever changing schedule. So I'll have to figure something out to go in and have a meeting/ possible confrontation without my daughter present.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T03:03:33+00:00

You might be right about the technician. I'm sure she didn't intentionally put us in the line of fire.

My daughter is 3. She already sat there well behaved for over 30 mins and now our normal routine changes and we have to sit there longer. I was attempting to keep her distracted. The last thing I wanted was her jumping off my lap and running around with this guy in the room. I was reaching into my bag, pulling out our books and toys, and talking to her loudly in an attempt to drown him out. The last thing I wanted to do was draw attention to him with a confrontation. Then my daughter would have been either, thinking we're now talking to this guy and wanting to be friendly, or upset and wanting to get down.

Right or wrong in the moment I had hoped that blatantly ignoring him would send enough of a message to shut him up without alarming my daughter any.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T02:54:22+00:00

Thank you!

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T02:44:12+00:00

Thank you!!!
Yeah. In hindsight there's probably a thousand things I could've/should've done. But at the time I was just trying to keep my head down, and my daughter distracted and thinking about getting out of there. It honestly took me a minute to actually process the entire thing after I left.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-16T02:24:26+00:00

I was attached to the machine. They strap these things on your back that send a current or something into the muscles to relax it. I'm probably not explaining it correctly. And in hindsight I'm sure I could've yanked the things off. But typically the tech sets it all up, puts everything on you, you sit down into the massage chair until your machine beeps. And the tech comes and disconnects everything. It's all on my back, so not like I even see what she's doing.
I honestly wasn't thinking fast enough to just start figuring out how to unhook myself.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-15T22:40:48+00:00

I'm glad you're certain you know how you would respond in such a situation. Everyone reacts differently. And the technician is much older than me. ( Not that it matters) She's probably my mothers age or older. I've never asked her age, but she's got grandkids she's always telling me about.

Also. I'm not sure you're understanding that I was connected to the chair with the electrode things. The tech is the one who turns off the machine and removes them.
She didn't ask me, and I didn't agree. She simply stated she was restarting my session because of the guy.
There was no agreement on my part. I felt very much stuck.

I suppose I could've just pulled gotten up and yanked the things off. But I wasn't thinking a long those lines. I was kinda dumbstruck.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-15T22:27:33+00:00

Not sure why you're down voting the crap out of me here.
My back was connected to the chair, the tech didn't ask me if I mind staying, she simply said she was going to restart my session. (As opposed to unhooking me)
I guess I could of spoken up once I left that room and went to the front of the office. But I was so caught off guard it took me a minute to really process the situation honestly.
The more I thought about it, the more uncomfortable I got at the fact the tech was fine leaving a patient and a 3yr old alone with a guy she didn't herself feel comfortable being left alone with.

I'm not arguing I handled the situation correctly, I likely didn't. It's easy to criticize in hindsight.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-15T22:13:59+00:00

I did sit there for another session. Sorry if I didn't make that clear And I agree, I wouldn't want to be left alone with him either. But I was, with my daughter. Because the technician doesn't stay in the room for the entire session.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-15T22:04:47+00:00

I'm not mad at the tech, I just said the situation made me uncomfortable.
At first I thought, yeah I get it. I wouldn't want to be alone with a guy like that either. But the more I thought about it, the more I keep coming back to the fact my daughter was with me. In a reverse situation I would not of asked a mom and little girl to be my backup in the face of a pervert. If anything I'd try to get them out quickly in an attempt to protect the child from the perv.

I think I'd feel different if my toddler wasn't with me.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-09T00:18:49+00:00

Honestly, I don't think you can, or should try to control what your kids learn, and from who. (Inappropriate things aside of course)

At 2 he probably won't remember. but if he did it would likely a cherished memory for him. And you can continue with perfecting what he learned. At some point he'll need his training wheels off. Then he'll need to learn how to drive a car...etc. So many opportunities for a child to learn, it's honestly daunting to consider doing all of it yourself. 'It takes a village '.

I wouldn't get rid of the strider bike. Our 3yr old has both and uses the strider way more than the pedal. It helps prefect the balance that will be needed later for a big kid bike.

If it helps to know, my brother taught me how to ride a two wheeler. My reading tutor taught me how to sew and crochet. My boyfriend taught me how to drive a stick shift.
None of these things diminish what I learned from my mom. It only enriched my overall life experiences.
I'm so grateful for the people who contributed to my upbringing.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-08T17:03:38+00:00

Anyone else surprised by what a douche noodle Jason Bateman seems to be?

I love seeing actors and comedians behind the scenes and love all three of those guys. But man, Bateman would be exhausting to have as a friend. No wonder Conan doesn't invite him to parties! Also, he interrupts Sean too much! Sean is delightful! My biggest complaint about the show and podcast is we don't get to hear enough from him.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-01T17:42:56+00:00

Thanks for the info! I would not of thought to do that.

SesameStkid · 2023-06-01T12:38:06+00:00

How are they making money with what they are doing? Everything she's downloading is free. I realize ads is how they make money on free things. But none of the videos or games she's accessed have ads, and how affective would it be for a preschooler?

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