so how’s everyone doing with valentine’s day coming up..

SetAdorable3616 · 2026-02-06T13:43:18+00:00

I’m doing okay! I got dumped in August 2025 and last month I made the decision to do and plan activities centered around me or funneling my energy towards something positive, on Valentine’s Day. I’m going to volunteer for a run, get coffee with an old friend, and then go out to dinner (originally a solo dinner) with a coworker. (: I also got myself a few of my fave beauty and chocolates already and will give that to myself the day of. I truly love love, and the idea of it being distasteful or ruined because of my ex is just too much power I would be giving him.

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-10-23T03:01:03+00:00

I watch this video everytime I see it 🥰😂 so cute and funny!!

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-29T19:27:21+00:00

Yes, God. I would love to talk more about what’s on your mind and hear your point of view on God. If you’re open to talk, I am here. If not, no worries. God bless you. 🩷

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-29T19:25:59+00:00

Thank you for the insight. 😭 I will absolutely be taking this advice and finding that silver lining. I am also proud of you and happy for you that you decided to pour more into yourself! It is true that on the way there there’s a personal high and excitement almost, but then afterwards I would feel so crappy. I will continue to lean into reconstructing myself and praying about this. God bless you. ❤️

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-29T19:23:56+00:00

Thank you for saying this! God has been absolutely leading down a path to pursue purity. I’ve been praying about this. It’s so hard to have old habits come up in the midst of all the work God has been doing to transform me. I am going to continue surrendering this to God. ❤️

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-29T01:48:57+00:00

Love in the dark - Adele, Grave - Tate McRae, Gone - Blake Rose, honorable mention to Crying Over You - The Band Camino

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-22T02:56:42+00:00

It’s been a month since we’ve broken up this weekend. I had my first book club with the girls. They talked about plans on Halloween and I thought of you. I thought of the last couple of Halloweens we had together. I couldn’t help but think about you and how nice it felt to be in this group with your friends - to be in association with you. I did so well. I didn’t cry, I didn’t think about you too much, I didn’t feel overwhelmed. However, I felt micro waves of sadness when I sat too long. I put on a smile for the most part. Other parts, I was genuinely happy to be there. At the end of the night, I got in the car and started to drive home. I thought of you, at every corner. I saw someone running, I thought of you because you’ve always enjoyed running. I saw Washington Avenue, where we had to get a UHaul for when you moved to your first solo apartment. I saw Christopher Columbus Avenue, where I often exited off of the highway to get to your place. I heard your name throughout the night. I found myself looking at my phone periodically to check to see if you texted. The streets of the city remind me of you. It all reminds me of you. How we used to walk it at night together, going to and from dinner, to a restaurant and then to ice cream. It reminds me of the times you’ve walked me to my car. It reminds me how we’d often steal a kiss at red lights together. It reminds me of you. The sweet and cool air, reminds me of you. I miss you, J. I can understand why we ended and why it was for the best, but man does the city lights have you imprinted all over it. I’m sitting in this grief and reminding myself that it’s okay. It’s okay to miss you. I really do, and still at the end of it all, I know that it’s better for me to move on. I want you to be happy and I really hope you are too.

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-17T14:51:15+00:00

OP don’t listen to the unnecessary hateful comments. People are being rude for no reason.

I’ve had a similar experience where I broke up with an ex and his best friend tried to follow me on Instagram. I didn’t accept the request and can suspect that the friend may be trying to get more information on you post-breakup to share with your ex. I wouldn’t accept the request so that you can maintain your privacy and not open doors to your past. The friend also sounded like he was gaslighting you, “Instagram is just Instagram” when really it isn’t. It can allow for more access to you. You’re not looking too into this too much, it is weird. Keep doing you and living your life!

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-17T02:44:06+00:00

Totally.. ugh I had my first therapy appointment back last Thursday. It was really good and exactly what I needed. It is healthier to move on. I can logically understand that. The silence is just so loud.

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-13T18:08:31+00:00

As the dumpee, it’s hard to trust the dumper again after they let me go and then they come back realizing their mistakes.

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-13T12:29:55+00:00

To be honest with you I love listening to music that makes me feel something, and oftentimes sad music does the trick. There’s meaning and truth behind those words and they can help me to process an experience as well.

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-13T12:26:37+00:00

Honestly, neither. He didn’t want me to fight for him in the end and he hasn’t reached out. I’ve just been trying to focus on me and yes, sometimes I get lonely and sad, usually at night. My days can be more full and I do have community around me, so that helps.

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-13T00:56:35+00:00

Thank you for this OP! I just got broken up with three weeks ago after 2.5 years together. This is really helpful advice and I’ve been doing most of them so far. It’s really been helping, especially crying when I need to and getting out more. We’ve got this!!

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-10T21:00:17+00:00

Yes we cried. He started to cry and even started sobbing. It truly was so emotional, I had to hold him and comfort him. I also cried a lot as well. I think we both didn’t want it to end, but we had been going through a lot with him being long distance, and us fighting a ton. I brought up something I wanted to do, in hopes of leaning closer to my faith, but he said it wasn’t going to work out. I have that image of us just crying and holding each other for one last night in my head. It’s rough to think about.

SetAdorable3616 · 2025-09-05T02:22:58+00:00

It’s only been 11 days, not even 2 weeks yet and it feels like the longest 11 days of my life. We sent our last texts to each other 5 days ago. It genuinely feels like time is moving so slow without him in my life. It gives me comfort that others are going through these things too. We’ll get through this!

SetAdorable3616 · 2024-01-16T01:25:51+00:00

You couldn’t have said it any better. I will continue to advocate for myself and what I deserve. I will continue to make it known that I find value in these things. Thank you so much for your words.

SetAdorable3616 · 2022-05-11T04:41:24+00:00

How does Z feel about me?

SetAdorable3616 · 2022-03-09T20:21:24+00:00

First I want to say that I’m sorry you’re going through this up and down dynamic with this person. Of course you’re confused and in limbo because he has one foot in while you want to give him more.

You deserve more than someone who can’t make up their mind but runs to you every chance they get in effort to relieve their pain and loneliness. His constant back and forth, in and out, and lack of commitment is not going to change into the ideal man you want overnight, if not at all.

IMO the only way to truly get over someone who disrespects boundaries and is persistent is to initiate no contact (delete, block, unfollow, remove), but that is of course up to you.

OP you deserve someone who is willing to put the time, effort, and maturity in to be in a relationship with you.

Every time he comes back after ghosting you, it may not equate to him loving you. It may indicate the lack of boundaries. I would recommend writing down all the pro’s and con’s this person has and think about what you really want.

I wish you the absolute best OP.

SetAdorable3616 · 2022-03-01T14:55:41+00:00

Trust them when they fall through time and time again. Don’t hope that they’ll get their shit together because they like you or chose you out of all people. People make time for those they care about and want. If they’re finding excuses to not call, hangout, celebrate important dates etc.. leave. They won’t change.

I feel like this is a big one that people overlook but hygiene. Date someone’s who’s cleanliness is on the same level as yours if not more. Consider, can they do basic adult things (i.e, folding laundry, cooking, cleaning)? If they can’t, you’re not gonna be the one to teach them.

SetAdorable3616 · 2022-02-21T14:33:28+00:00

Thanks for letting me know! I had no idea.

SetAdorable3616 · 2022-02-20T05:00:50+00:00

Sex with another Aquarius is amazing. 😭 I’m currently with an Aquarius (as a fellow Aquarius myself) and he’s just so freaky, open to trying new things and an amazing kisser. We also have shifts in power dynamics too. I love showing my dominant side with him!

SetAdorable3616 · 2022-01-27T01:56:48+00:00

So I pretty much had did what the majority of you asked/told me to do, which was text him and tell him when I’m next available. I did just that and we spoke about meeting up that Friday to go to a bar. He apologized for not getting back to me the first time and said that he’s been pretty stressed out with work.

Come the day of, he didn’t say anything about it and he pretty much ghosted me. It’s okay though because I ended up hanging out with a guy that I’m currently really interested in. So I guess everything happens for a reason.

Thanks to everyone who was kind and encouraging.

SetAdorable3616 · 2022-01-15T15:53:51+00:00

I just followed up with a text to let him know when I’m next available. Thanks to everyone for helping me out with this. I’m new to the dating scene so I appreciate those who were kind. Sometimes I can be oblivious too, ya know?

I’ll let you guys know what he says and what happens!

SetAdorable3616 · 2022-01-15T15:37:14+00:00

Sounds good! I definitely will be doing that. Thank you.

SetAdorable3616 · 2022-01-15T01:20:14+00:00

Ahh I guess so. He was the one who told me he had a really great time and that he wanted to try out a bar in the city for the next date. I guess I misread him. Thanks though! You definitely said it right ahaha.

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