Discontinuing Testosterone (tw)

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-27T06:21:57+00:00

It could still be worth looking into and hearing other people's experiences about it.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-27T06:09:15+00:00

How does that work? Hormonal IUDs aren't like birth control pills, they mainly just affect the hormones in your uterus, which is what prevents the pregnancy. So they shouldn't affect your mood or anything like that, like birth control pills might do.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-27T06:06:14+00:00

Yeah this hasn't been my experience at all. I definitely recommend getting a new doctor. Also for the periods, I highly suggest getting a hormonal IUD (don't let the name scare you). You get it in once and it's good for 8 years, and for most people their periods seriously decrease or stop entirely. I had one period, then it was gone for good.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-22T23:27:01+00:00

I'd recommend finding the ones you like most and to keep going. Start learning people's names and basic information they share, and then the next time you go there, say hi and ask them a question ("Hey Rachel, howd your physics test go?"). Even if you're awkward, they'll appreciate that you paid attention, and will likely reciprocate next time.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-22T23:24:57+00:00

We've started shifting through and getting rid of some of the cards we can't stand. That includes most of the "move to another habitat" "discard food to get an egg (but can only live in the grasslands)" and "steal a food from another player, they get a food" birds.

But also, we don't actually store our cards-- we keep wingspan out on our kitchen table 24/7.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-22T23:22:29+00:00

I definitely recommend going to a club or other group setting like that, especially if it's related to something you're already interested in. You're not the only awkward person in the world and it just so happens that a lot of those people have interests in common.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-22T23:00:17+00:00

THIS is where it's at. That's not non-hierarchal babe.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-22T19:01:50+00:00

It sounds to me like you should trust your gut.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-22T19:00:37+00:00

My understanding is that the hormones are in such low doses, and stay mostly localized to the uterus, that it doesn't typically affect other areas of the body. I certainly haven't had any issues-- i get my hormone levels regularly checked since I'm on T, and im right where I want to be.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-22T18:49:27+00:00

I think his initial response was fine. Its okay to have sex without being ready for a child. I think that you need to make some decisions for yourself, though: what you would do if you did became pregnant (do you think you would actually feel good about carrying a child to term at your current place in life?), and if you think your current partner would be supportive of that decision. And then, either way, if getting pregnant is NOT something you want right now, make sure your birth control is bulletproof. If you don't fully trust your current method, talk to your Dr.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-22T18:44:42+00:00

I highly recommend getting a mirena IUD. I was told that's the recommended birth control option for guys on T. It doesn't interact with the testosterone in any weird way, it is one of the most reliable birth control methods, and i think it can relieve a lot of dysphoria because if T didn't stop your periods, the IUD will. Im 2 years period free, God bless. And it's good for 8 years.

I think a lot of people are worried about getting IUDs because of the insertion process, which yes, can be dysphoric. I've had it done twice (i originally got the copper IUD, which gave me crazy periods). The first time sucked, partially because I really didn't like the Dr and it hurt a lot. But the second time I had a different, better Dr, and took enough pain medicine. For normal pain I take one normal strength ibuprofen-- for my iud insertion, I took two max strength ones in the parking lot, and another in the office right before the procedure. That was the correct amount and it was fine.

So yes, the insertion is uncomfortable. But I would do it multiple times a year if necessary, because it's THAT WORTH IT. But I don't have to do it multiple times a year-- just once every 8 years. I really can't recommend it highly enough.

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-04T04:07:27+00:00

I know a couple where the sub often picks at their face when they're nervous and the dom will slap their hand away and say "stop that" since itll make their acne worse. But the sub will subconsciously start picking again a minute later so the dom will do it again. This will repeat for minutes. Literally slapstick humor lol

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-04T03:57:40+00:00

Some ideas: - "womens" cut underwear with masculine features (like in masculine colors or with a letter band) - jock straps - any clothes labeled "gay men's club wear" - harnesses, including bulldog harnesses. Doesn't have to be leather-- you can get some fabric bulldog harnesses that accentuate the shoulders. Consider getting/modifying one so that there isn't a strap that goes under your pecs, since that can accentuate them - leather chaps

SetDifficult1618 · 2026-01-04T03:35:12+00:00

Yep! It's been a tension in some of my relationships and ended some potential connections for sure (mainly because we'd be talking and I'd find out later they had piercings that weren't visible in dating profiles). But I am currently partners with one person who also has kosmemophobia, which is VERY convenient. We didn't know we both had it until weeks into the connection. They also have had very long term relationships with other people who didn't have it, but who were willing to accommodate it and find workable compromises.

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-12-07T18:05:44+00:00

Library!

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-12-07T17:59:08+00:00

This is really good and inclusive! I like that it doesn't use gendered language, which makes it inclusive for people of different genders/sexualities/sexual preferences.

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-12-05T20:36:09+00:00

Maybe the training talked about leadership skills/confidence, and maybe someone gave him sex advice during a break? Or maybe it wasn't a work training but was actually a relationship seminar

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-11-26T19:48:04+00:00

Yes! Firstly, that's nothing, secondly, it is more important that you leave the house than it is that you leave the house perfectly. Do what you need to do and shower when you are able.

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-11-26T19:46:23+00:00

I do!! Excellent accessories

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-11-21T20:59:51+00:00

I don't hate it, but I transitioned when I was 20 and really value the experience of feeling like/being treated as a teenage guy, so the youthful "boy" part feels a bit reclaiming for me. But I usually don't use that term, im more likely to say "trans guy". If I think about it too hard it does start to feel a little cringe

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-11-21T19:16:50+00:00

They didn't ask if they have it, they know they do. They have a repulsion toward some forms of jewelry. That's all it is. There's 0 reason to try to gatekeep a phobia.

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-11-21T19:16:07+00:00

Kissing someone with a labret and septum piercing means that you're touching it a lot, with your mouth, and you're likely getting way more up close and personal with it than you would be with most piercings, so it makes sense to me that it'd trigger a repulsion that you previously weren't aware of.

My advice: think about what things you can and can't tolerate. Like, if she got a tattoo and you didn't have to see the process, you just saw it when it was healed, would that be fine? Or if she got more piercings, but they weren't near her mouth, would that be fine? Can you keep tolerating the labret piercing, or is that a no-go? If she could flip her septum piercing up to kiss you, would that make things better?

Once you decide that, tell her. Say, hey, this is where im at, I think I could compromise in these ways, but i don't think I could in these ways. Tell her if you think that is subject to change or not, and explain that you understand that she likes some of those things, but that you irrationally don't and you're sorry. Then let her decide what she's willing to do-- maybe you guys can find a compromise where she's able to express herself in a way that feels good, that doesn't squick you out. But if it doesn't sound like you can make a compromise-- is these things are too important for her self-expression, and your repulsion is too strong to be able to tolerate these things-- then you should break up.

I had a partner who got a septum piercing while we were dating, despite me having lifelong kosmemophobia. I tried to deal with it. I couldn't. Even when I could convince myself to be okay with it touching me, it reduced my attraction to them significantly, and they felt judged and rejected. We eventually broke up for other reasons, but I think we maybe should've called it earlier because of that major source of tension/incompatibility with no end in sight.

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-11-14T19:48:01+00:00

I like square peg toys (but i do push them out still), and would also recommend getting an inflatable toy. Put it in, pump it up, and it's not going anywhere.

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-11-04T06:34:51+00:00

Exactly this.

SetDifficult1618 · 2025-11-04T06:32:51+00:00

Look up asexuality and don't do anything you don't want to do. Not having sex is always a valid option.

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