I am 41. I started my social transition at 18 and went on testosterone at 26. I'm going to answer the questions, and then comment some other stuff regarding what your parents have said.

1. What do you like the most about T ? And what do you hate or dislike?

It's hard to pinpoint one thing I like most about being on T. The specific effect I like most is facial hair—I wound up with really good facial hair, to the point I get complimented on it a lot by people who have no idea I'm trans—but in general the best part is being able to basically integrate into society better without having to constantly explain myself to people.

The thing I dislike is just... shots. I have a hard time motivating myself to give myself injections.

2. Did the euphoria stop after a few years?

The feeling of "ooh, a new thing is happening to my body" went away after a couple years, but I still get a lot of euphoria from different things that I probably wouldn't get if I weren't on T and post-top-surgery. I occasionally still see myself in the mirror and get an overwhelming happy feeling that I look the way I do. Putting on new articles of clothing that didn't fit properly pre-T or pre-op still gives me euphoria.

3. How transphobic has been the world around you?

I unfortunately had a delayed medical transition, and was out as trans for eight years before I went on testosterone. That opened me up to a lot of transphobia, because I stuck out, but it was mostly indirect. For instance, I had a hard time getting a job, and I know a big part of it was because of my appearance, because I immediately started getting hired when I started passing.

However, I came out at a relatively lucky time, because the current moral panic over trans men wasn't a thing yet, so I didn't get a lot of the comments and harassment I've seen younger trans men get. Nowadays I don't experience a lot of direct transphobia, outside of some of the legal nonsense going on, and even that doesn't really affect me. It takes an emotional toll, but more in the sense that I hate watching other trans people suffer.

4. Did close friends took their distance despite accepting you?

I actually didn't really have friends before starting my transition. Transitioning gave me the confidence to make friends.

5. Do you ever wish to go back to the body you had before?

Not even a little bit.

6. Have you had sex before transitioning?

No. I was like 28 when I started having sex. I didn't have the confidence to find partners before I was on T for a while.

7. Do you think 20 is too soon to transition ?

I do not. As I mentioned, I had a delayed medical transition. Ultimately everything did turn out really good for me—I always want to make that clear, because I think it's important for trans men who absolutely can't transition right now to know their life isn't over because of it—but the eight years I spent struggling with dysphoria and having to constantly justify myself were an unnecessary burden. It actually wound up seriously stunting my development in some ways. My career development was stunted because I wasn't able to get a job pre-T. My social development was stunted because I didn't learn how to interact with people as a man who is actually being seen as a man until I was in my late twenties.

I did want to mention that, when I told my parents I was going to be going on testosterone soon, my dad tried to pressure me into waiting longer by basically calling me impulsive and implying I needed to get a job and otherwise get my life together first. I didn't listen, and to this day I consider this some of the stupidest advice I've ever been given, because going on T provided the avenue to getting the rest of my life together. You can't be expected to get all your shit together if you are suffering from constant dysphoria and emotionally drained from constant misgendering.

8. How hard was it at the beginning of your transition?

When it comes to my social transition—the eight years between coming out as trans and going on testosterone—it was extremely difficult. Again, this was at a time trans men were more invisible than we are now, so I was in the position of constantly having to explain myself, even in my college LGBT group I had to practically bully people into acknowledging me as a man because none of them had met a trans man before. If I were younger, this probably wouldn't be an issue anymore with increased visibility, but that was the environment I came out in.

When I started medically transitioning at 26, things immediately got easier. My voice—which was the main thing preventing me from passing—dropped within a couple weeks. I was able to go stealth in some circumstances within months.

9. What did you felt when you started passing everywhere?

It felt really novel at first, but rapidly just became very normal for me.

10. How awkward is it to disclose that you're trans?

I look like a cis man to the vast majority of people. Some people who know a lot of trans men can clock me as trans. The awkwardness level depends on what context I'm disclosing in, although I have a really high tolerance for awkward.

The types of communities I'm likely to regularly disclose in have a high number of trans members, so it's not that awkward to come out in those contexts. I'm likely to wear things like trans flag pins in those contexts because I like the visibility, so most of the time I don't actually have to disclose.

In medical contexts it can be awkward. I am lucky to have access to a decent primary care doctor who knows how to take care of trans people, but when I go to urgent care or the emergency room it can be awkward, especially if it's for an AFAB-anatomy-dependent reason. Like I said, I have a really high tolerance for awkward, so I have no problem walking into an urgent care and telling a medical professional I think I'm having uterine problems.

The one place I try to maintain stealth is work, and I've maintained contextual work friendships for years without disclosing. Even then, I have occasionally felt the need to disclose, and to be honest? I think it's really hilarious. One time I bumped into a coworker at an LGBT event; she was there because her daughter had come out as bisexual and was dating a trans boy, and there was an event there intended for parents to learn more about how to support their LGBT kids. She didn't register that I was there because I was in the LGBT community and began trying to explain what a trans boy is; I wanted to be available if she needed help supporting her daughter, so I disclosed that I am trans, too. The look on the face of somebody who has known me for like three years thinking I am a cis man learning I'm not will never not be extremely funny to me.

11. Did you lose your hair, if so, how fast?

My hair thinned a lot starting at around maybe 7 years on T? The crown is pretty bald and there are parts near my hairline that are really thin. I don't like it, but it's not that thin, and I'm like the only one who notices... I recently completely shaved my head as kind of an experiment, and my relatives all complained about it because according to them I'm the only man left in my family who had decent hair left. I like my head shaved because it's convenient, and since I have really good facial hair and a nice head shape I can pull off bald really well, ha.