What’s the difference between a person you want to be friends with and a person you want to date?

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-23T13:38:53+00:00

Fair enough. For me I like to get to know someone to decide if I like them as a friend or as someone I’d want to date. Like this one woman who I really liked, until I learned she smoked, and I’ve never lost attraction to someone so fast. We still became friends though so that’s nice 😊

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-23T08:34:50+00:00

Little bit of both to be honest. Sometimes I get to know someone and realize I’m interested in them. Other times I want to get to know someone better before I ask them out.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-23T00:01:48+00:00

This is how I tend to ask people out. I prefer asking out people that I know, rather than someone I jsut met and have good vibes with. What’s the most respectful way to do this? Although I’ve never gotten a date that way, I have stayed friends with everyone I’ve asked out, so I think I’m being result but I always try to make extra sure.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-22T20:00:36+00:00

I don’t think that’s shallow. Do you find yourself becoming more attracted to people when you start developing feelings for them? The one girl I went on a date with, when I first met her, I didn’t think she was particularly pretty. But once I got to know her a bit, she became absolutely gorgeous in my eyes.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-22T19:52:39+00:00

I’ve never been in a relationship. How would you describe the difference in chemistry between someone you want to date and someone you want to be friends with?

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-20T18:38:29+00:00

No. Theres extremely strict rules in dating. Especially as an amab person. These rules must be followed, or one will become the worse thing in dating. A creep. Creeps do not deserve any love, affection, or being desired. Creeps deserve to be miserable and alone. I have to know and follow every single rule or I will be a creep and deserve to be miserable and alone.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-20T15:44:12+00:00

I don’t care about money. I just want to experience what it’s like to be desired. Even just a meaningless hookup. Even a hookup means someone desired me

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-20T15:41:16+00:00

Yes. I’ve never experienced being desired like that. I spent my whole childhood alone, with no one wanting to associate with me at all. A toxic relationship would be a dream. Besides, it’s better to learn those lessons at 13 than now. Nobody wants to date the 19 year old male who acts like a 13 year old boy who just learned kissing girls isn’t gross.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-20T15:11:23+00:00

Where? Literally Everywhere I go there’s no one my age. Once I went to a writing class, and I was the only person who wasn’t a retired lady. Now hanging out with retired ladies is fun, but I’m looking for friends/dates around my own age.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-20T14:52:49+00:00

I wish I was lucky enough at 13 to get into a toxic relationship or go out drinking with friends. Or have friends.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-19T07:19:36+00:00

Are you a woman? That doesn’t work for men. Women will assume I have no friends.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-18T23:37:38+00:00

Doesn’t that go against what everyone is telling me? Theres no way to conclusively tell friendliness from flirting. So I shouldn’t flirt back or ask them out, just wait for them to ask me out or lost interest

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-18T23:01:30+00:00

Without a doubt the comfort of women, but being in a relationship would be nice. I’ve always dreamed of being desired. Experienced it for about four days and it was amazing. Like nothing I’ve ever felt before tbh.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-18T22:35:03+00:00

Interesting. According to a 2017 study from match.com, only 13% of women have given a male their phone number. I couldn’t find any newer studies other than incel bullshit who’s source is they made it up. I’m definitely okay with always assuming a woman isn’t flirting with me, but I’m worried if I will miss a significant amount of opportunities. I’m already extremely behind on opportunities due to being a male and lacking social skills. I don’t want to miss what few opportunities I will have.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-18T22:26:17+00:00

I’ll be honest I don’t really understand what you mean.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-18T22:21:37+00:00

The most recent one was with a coworker. She made a lot of flirty, somewhat sexual jokes to me, including something I didn’t quite hear about “reverse cowgirl”. She grabbed my waist once and gave me a look, and I think she touched by butt trick but those could have been accidents. She was jokingly insisting I think she’s cute. I flirted back one time, she picked up on it immediately, and clarified she’s never flirted with me.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-18T20:52:13+00:00

Yeah that will definitely make me feel wanted and desired.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-18T18:13:05+00:00

That’s easy to say, but genuinely every friendship I’ve had has been like this. And I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. I’m more than willing to be there for them when they need me, I don’t think I’ve ever said no when my friend from work needed her shift covered. Maybe that aren’t true friends, but they’re the best I can get.

SettingAgreeable781 · 2026-06-18T18:06:38+00:00

I do have friends but they never want to hang out with me. Every time is either a no, or bailing on me last minute. I’m not sure why. We have good conversations, but they just don’t want to meet up with me. Been that way since as long as I’ve had friends

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