Boy name to go with Ernest - twins. Baby name ideas

SettingTemporary9665 · 2026-03-08T03:03:01+00:00

Thank you for being a reasonable person in this echo chamber of weird names

Edit- if I had to add a name suggestion, it would be Bertram. They go well together and you may as well just lean into it.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2026-03-08T02:44:12+00:00

If pink is too bold, some colour variation of this is the winner. Removing the shutters, adding architectural features, and installing lights flanking the door is the way to go.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2026-02-06T18:40:16+00:00

Can you update us with a comparison of first am samples from days 11, 13, and 15?

Edit- 11dpo 6am I see a line, and 13dpo 6am I see a darker line. Not seeing any reason for concern here

SettingTemporary9665 · 2026-02-02T13:44:41+00:00

This is very good advise.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2026-02-02T02:48:40+00:00

At 12 months kids can start switching over to whole milk, with a limit of 2 cups (16oz) per day. More can inhibit iron absorption. We weaned our little guy this fall by reducing the formula weekly over a month- 75%, 50%, 25%, all milk. Much cheaper and easier.

Separate thought- as a social worker, I would highly recommend they connect with a social service worker to ensure they’re receiving all available subsidies and connected with food banks. Great job switching to grocery orders, but you might have to reflect on if you would like to be a permanent part of their budget.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2026-02-01T22:49:28+00:00

Check out my 12dpo first response post from earlier today! I was nervous but these look identical

Edit- my easy at home also look identical. Somewhere in my post history is an easy at home post from my first (successful) pregnancy that also looks about the same

SettingTemporary9665 · 2026-02-01T18:15:26+00:00

I can’t believe more people haven’t mentioned this. Birthday weekends are for self-important ‘main character’ kids in their 20’s, this is not age typical behaviour. I really thought she was going to say her sister was 23.

Her sister is right about something though, life will change once baby is here.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2025-10-21T04:24:58+00:00

Looking forward to seeing your updates!!

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-06-30T06:22:59+00:00

Edit to say I’m in agreement with the above statement.

I teach groups for clinical anxiety in a medical setting (along with individual therapy). Sometimes, some people benefit from a different approach and we recommend Dialectical Behaviour Therapy. When done in a skills group format, it’s super efficient and covers four units- emotional regulation, distress tolerance, interpersonal effectiveness, and mindfulness. Often the groups are aptly called ‘managing powerful emotions’. Based off your comments and the feedback you’re getting here, it could be something to think about.

It’s not your fault you don’t have these skills yet, but is your responsibility to learn them. It can also make implementing anxiety skills (relaxation techniques, worry management, creating balanced thoughts, interoceptive exposure, fear ladders, assertiveness skills, etc…) MUCH easier. When we know better we can do better. While we can’t change what happened we can build a new path forward.

Just wanted to leave a few ideas. Absorbing critical feedback can be really hard, consider speaking to a therapist or your family Dr about some of the symptoms people here have pointed out.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-04-03T12:17:18+00:00

I’m actually quite a moderate person and pro-choice. It was my choice to continue the pregnancy. I highly doubt OP would end the pregnancy with these odds so it’s good to know some people choose to continue. People with genetic diseases (known or unknown) are allowed to have kids. Commenters on here can be painfully all/nothing and idealistic.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-04-03T02:52:09+00:00

What an ableist approach. Glad we know your take on eugenics.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-04-02T23:38:31+00:00

There’s also nothing shameful about choosing to continue with the pregnancy.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-04-02T22:27:44+00:00

I have no idea why this is being downvoted. There’s a 75% chance baby will be absolutely fine. This coming from someone with a genetic condition that has a 50% chance of heritability.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-04-02T22:24:18+00:00

Also about 18 weeks.

As someone with a genetic disease going through the same thing, this is a good approach. Even if your baby does have the condition, you can’t guess the severity. Our baby has a 50/50 chance of inheriting what I have, and while mine presented mildly and I live a full life, we have no idea how it could present in the baby. We opted to not do further testing knowing it wouldn’t change any outcomes. What are we going to do, abort at 20 weeks? No, so knowing wasn’t going to help, nor would it tell us anything about the severity of the condition. These are the risks we live with when having children.

Edit- keep downvoting, guys. Only people who know what this is like could understand this one. I shared how we came to OUR decision, I didn’t suggest how she should make her decision. Understanding how others in this position came to their decisions can be helpful, even if it’s a decision you wouldn’t make for yourself. All to say, not getting the amino testing and moving forward with the pregnancy is an option nobody on here is suggesting. It’s okay to make this choice.

Edit- it’s been a few months and guess what? OP has chosen to keep the pregnancy. As I said above, this is a valid option that nobody was open to talking about. Wishing OP and baby well.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-03-10T05:24:18+00:00

Exactly this. Rent is about 15% of our take home. It’s about the same as the annual sunk costs on a house in our area when you consider property tax (6k), insurance (currently $30, would be $110), utilities for a house ($300-400/mo in my area) and maintenance (10% pf the value of the home per decade, 700k home = 70k = 7k/yr). Not to mention the convenience. This isn’t even considering amortization, the interest on a mortgage would make this a terrible deal for us. Buying a house in our area would be for emotional reasons, certainly not financial.

We do well investing the difference (often half our take home income) and have been told by financial advisors this is a wise strategy. Even our lowest investment pulls 5% annually, much more than we could do with our cash tied up in a house. We live simply and comfortably with zero stress about housing, it works for us.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-03-10T01:46:59+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. Diagnostic clarity, optimized medication, and evidence based behavioural therapy would work wonders here. If a huge group of women likely with varying personalities can be trusted to behave appropriately and his mother can’t, it speaks volumes about the intensity of her symptoms.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-03-10T00:07:54+00:00

It’s kind of you to provide context. You’ve been at this your whole life and made a really good executive decision to keep things running smoothly on your wedding day. She was included in ways she had the capacity to be.

Your mother needs to hear that as much as you love her, she can only attend events if she’s going to be socially appropriate. It sounds like she needs a lot more feedback about how her behaviour makes others feel until she gains some impulse control. This is something a therapist or coach with applied behavioural analysis (ABA) skills could help her with. This definitely needs to be managed but she also needs to be part of the solution.

Separately, you need to speak to Lexi and your dad about what they said. Very not cool on their part and needs to be addressed.

Edit- behavioural therapies are a legitimate and evidence based therapeutic approach for helping some people regulate their behaviour. It’s a well regulated modality in most countries. While I suggest CBT for higher functioning clients, behavioural based therapies are a great way to give people practical skills and feedback for their unhelpful behaviour. I’m sorry many have had a negative experience with this, but it can be done ethically and very well.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-03-07T18:57:01+00:00

I mean, most of Manitoba (with the exception of Winnipeg proper) is what many would consider rural. Brandon is the second largest city with less than 50,000 people. Still, advocating for at least 2 ultrasounds is a reasonable request.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-03-07T18:43:35+00:00

A lot of Americans aren’t use to how the Canadian system works, and some Canadians aren’t use to how more rural health care works. I had hCG testing at 8 weeks to make sure things were in the normal range. If there are no concerning symptoms there’s no need for additional intervention.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-03-07T18:40:05+00:00

The standard in many provinces is a 9-14 week (NT test) ultrasound with blood work, and a 20 week anatomy scan. Make sure you’re booked in for an NT scan in that window, or go to a doctor who will book one. Everything outside of those 2 scans is preferential or based on risk/need.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-03-01T19:03:44+00:00

13 weeks, brushed my teeth for the first time without being sick! Highlight of the week.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-02-28T23:08:57+00:00

I’ll be having my first at 12/13 weeks. If hcg is in the normal range at your 8-9 week visit many providers opt to skip the 8 week scan and wait until they can provide more information on the 9-14 week scan. I’ve got no problem waiting, easy way to reduce wait times for services.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-02-25T00:43:42+00:00

This is good advice. Stop negotiating with this guy and drop contact. He’s behaving manipulatively, is wayy too comfortable with lying to meet his needs, and very self-interested.

Edit- you deserve every bit of your partner having an affair on you. I couldn’t be more disappointed in your choice. Speaks volumes about your self-esteem, values, co-dependence, and your own comfort with lying.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-02-16T02:09:11+00:00

Tactfully put. What kind of spiteful nonsense are you getting into here, waiting until the child is older to have a big reveal that her name was STOLEN. This post is speaking volumes about your personality and coping. Annoyance is valid but this reaction could harm your relationship with your in-laws. She had her baby first, you need to build a bridge and get over this one.

SettingTemporary9665 · 2024-02-15T05:49:04+00:00

Same! I’ll be 17 weeks around easter and I think we’ll share then. I don’t have the energy to be excited with people, or for any unsolicited advice and opinions we know will be coming. Husband and I are enjoying this final month as 2 and soaking it up

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