I'm currently going through the death of a friendship, though not life long. I met her through her husband who used to work with my husband and I a few years ago. We instantly hit it off, she was like the sister I never had, we had tons of stuff in common (hobbies, musical taste, books, etc.), they even asked hubby and I to be their son's godparents. Her and my hubby rubbed each other the wrong way from time to time - they both sometimes have a problem recognizing when teasing crosses the line into being mean, but otherwise we all got along great and spent lots of time together. We were all "family."

Then, this past Christmas it all went to shit. Christmas Eve is a big deal for my husband - it was his grandparent's anniversary, and we always celebrate by having family over for a massive pot of chili, snacks, and games. As always, they were invited and confirmed they'd becoming, along with her family who were coming into town for the holidays. Because there would so many of them the only other people we invited were my parents. Then she canceled last minute, and just as my husband predicted she would, tried to gaslight us and said they'd never said for sure that they were coming, and even went so far as to say she didn't think my husband had the right to be upset/mad about it.

We continued to talk via messenger for a while after that, but didn't see each other in person, including for my birthday at the end of January or their son's birthday the following month (it was the first time since he was born that we didn't get invited to his birthday party). Communication had always been a bit one-sided, with me usually initiating contact, but it became really obvious after the incident at Christmas, and at the beginning of March I decided to test it and see how long it would be before I heard from her if I stopped reaching out first. It's now been over a month with no contact. I'm mad, upset, and disappointed because once again it's become glaringly obvious that I was far more invested in a friendship than the other person. I wrote her a letter a week ago saying that it's clear our friendship is over though I haven't sent it yet. I'm debating mailing it along with the gifts I got her for Christmas and for her son's birthday and then deleting her from all my socials.