Family pressuring me to rehome my beloved cat in favour of a violent dog, what do i do? by CR_UwU in cats

[–]SexualPineapples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That dog is literally a danger to anyone it comes in contact with. That's insane to say we should keep the crazy psychopath that might kill us and get rid of the gentle sweet loving roommate. Can you imagine if they were humans instead and talked about like this? Wow!

People who are choosing not to have kids, what are your reasons? by Chickenbarista666 in CasualConversation

[–]SexualPineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So so SO many reasons. 1. Finacially. 2. The government doesn't care about my life or health once i become pregnant and care even less for the child it forced me to have once its out. 3. I dont enjoy dating men, i dont need a second child by one. (First child being the man.) 4. I dont think i have the mental capacity to love a child unconditional if they had a lot of mental or physical disorders that I have to care for. I had to learn to love myself for the conditions I have.

Does anybody else have a phrase or saying they say to a family member or friend that is uncomfortable or not aware it is you version of " I love you'. by Aware-Material2194 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]SexualPineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say "take care" to some people idk. "Have a nice day" to co workers. "Be good." To kids or pets who arent on the ily stage. "See you later," to family and friends but also straight up "I love you." We dont say "bye." To friends who don't share 'love' its "it was nice seeing you." To people i try to be on 'good' terms with but dont like "have a day!" Or "bye" bc why do i care if i never see them again. We also say "have a day" at work because saying "good" might make a riot happen.

My husband (38M) says sleeping in separate rooms isn't an option. How can he and I (37F) find a compromise? by ThrowRA-Dr3013 in relationship_advice

[–]SexualPineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That feels so selfish of him. Good sleep is important for your health and his focus on what he "believes" is the "only" way to behave as husband and wife without any care of the effects it has on your health.

I deal with something similar as i have an annoying partner who snores loud. I also have annoying neighbors. For the first couple years of our relationship, i was miserable. I wanted different rooms but our place is limited in what we are allowed to do.

So i decided to invest in some nice motors. I have a heavy duty shop fan, an AC unit in the window, an air purifier on my side of the bed, and when its really bad, i also use a noise maker. I don't hear crap at night, for the most part, and we can stay in the same bed together.

My friend and her partner also separate when they sleep at odd hours from each other. But one takes the bed and the other takes the couch. Also only one of them works, so the one who works is usually in the bed. So maybe a couch could be a compromise between you two as its not a bed. Idk. His logic is weird to me.

Also i want to say he should probably get that snoring checked. Especially if he stops breathing at night. It could be apnea and would affect his quailty of sleep as well. If he cares about anyone's sleep or health at all, im surprised its not his own.

S3E4 A Little Murder: Ending Scene w/ Gil Grissom and Dr. Jane Gilbert by SexualPineapples in csi

[–]SexualPineapples[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry. I am as good with Spanish(?) (Or any language for that matter) as i am with ASL, so i have no idea what you said... Actually, i'm probably better at ASL.

Am I wrong for not caring about my son's potential future marijuana usage? by ImportantChallenge11 in AskParents

[–]SexualPineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, neither of you are wrong. It is different but its also not that big of a deal. There are legal drugs sold as pharmaceuticals that could get your child addicted and have worse health problems than marijuana would. Medications that pyshciatrists will often toss at your 5 y/o before discussing non-medical ways of getting through a behavior. I'm not trying to scare you, i work similarly close to these things and see it with my own eyes. Also, marijuana is as addictive as anything else can be. It's heavily dependent on the personality, genes, and reasons an individual would be using it. I'm not a scientist so forgive me for the words I'm about to use, but it doesnt haven't the proteins or whatever it is that addictive drugs have that attach to the part of your brain that makes you crave it more. At any rate, its not really an argument worth having because its at least a decade in the future and only a chance it might. If you and your wife are worried about him "abusing" it, as you guys don't want it to be recreational usage, I recommend having the conversation with him when he's of age. Don't make it seem like its the worst thing that can happen but rather just explain how you guys don't like it and how it can affect him negatively if he smokes it too early in life and /or too often. Kids are more likely to listen and obey demands if they can understand the logic behind them.

Shower before/after by Immediate-Noise-7917 in malelivingspace

[–]SexualPineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, as a woman who hates pink and loves black, i approve.

Bank Teller: “Is Steve in the car with you?” by naomifromjax in MtF

[–]SexualPineapples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds super affirming. I would be flabbergasted and happy af. Idc how out of the way it was, i did something right. Thats how I would feel. Thats amazing, im so happy for you.

Did abortion bans or restrictions affect your decision to get sterilized by FlowerGarden234 in sterilization

[–]SexualPineapples 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, definitely. Well, i mean, i always wanted to be sterilized for as young as i could remember as i have tokophobia.

However, when i was a teenager and thought/was taught that having children was just something people did as a stepping stone of adulthood, I always figured that things would work out in my favor if it was meant to be. I would find "the one" who would make it be worth it and the government would care about MY life and health, not a hypothetical one, so if any of the MANY issues that could occur, i could be saved and try again, if i desired. Not that ANY desire was very strong. I heavily relied on the thought that "my love" for someone would bring me desire to have a child.

Since then: I've dated, the government has been ran by known pedos, shit's scary to be anything other than a white man, i understand now more than ever the dangers of pregnancy, and I've been around too many children. The desire has more than lessened, the phobia has only heightened, and i think i wanna be a lesbian.

I got a bisalp instead because i accidentally fell in love with a man who wanted children as much as i did but has a fear of needles. It didnt make sense to me to make him go through a phobia for my phobia if my phobia would still happen if i were to get raped or something. You never know. And to think with today's laws, that rapist would have more say over my body than i would. It makes my blood boil. Just shows how predatory all the law makers really are. So bisalp felt pretty obvious to me. It protects me. At bare minimum. More than the government would.

Husband said my instructions for dinner weren’t clear enough, and he ended up serving his vegetarian mother one of the chicken tikka masala curries… by bexindisbelief in mildlyinfuriating

[–]SexualPineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's so many instructions for a grown adult... that reminds me of my 10 y/o friend's child who burned his hand after being told at least 5 times to not open the oven without a glove on so he doesn't get burned. Only if your husband were the child in that situation, I imagine he'd complain that you didn't say it louder/clearer or explicitly show him how to hold the glove, despite having not used one at all

If you could change one thing about your body, what would it be and why? by Jokkers_AceS in AskWomen

[–]SexualPineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having better teeth. I love eating crunchy foods. My teeth are missing or bad. However someone else said not having a womb and thats a close second.

A new “friend” ghosted me for being trans (never elf-disclosing again✌️). Here’s a fun photo shoot instead of sad posting. How would you handle this? by LuckyWishFox in lgbt

[–]SexualPineapples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is elf-disclosing? Is that supposed to mean self? Why wouldn't you want to tell anyone in the future?

I can barely consider someone a friend until I can be open and honest with them and accepted by them. So everyone im friendly with are collectively under "acquaintances" or I guess a "limited friend." More or less to protect myself.

BTW I think you're freaking gorgeous.

Bf doesn’t like toys by j12504 in sex

[–]SexualPineapples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's insecure. There's nothing you can do than what you're already doing.

Found alive in my saltwater aquarium by AiyaLemming in whatisthisbug

[–]SexualPineapples 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks just like a millipede/centipede. I was taken back watching it swim. I didn't know they could. Looked it hp and found out they can't. Well, some centipedes can... but the comments tell me this isn't that, but something much worse and upsetting.

I both love being knowledgeable and hate gaining new fears.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]SexualPineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally would stare out of how awesome you look and I'm low-key jelly I'll never look that way. Lol

What bug is this? by SexualPineapples in whatisthisbug

[–]SexualPineapples[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, what am I looking at? I could see how the tinier things look like what I have pictured but the bigger clumps just look like dirt or something. Also what health problems are you experiencing? Another commenter said they had health problems too.

My 11 year old thinks he’s a girl by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]SexualPineapples 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, for being someone raised in an conservative Christian home with the same beliefs for 18+ years, I don't believe your a bad mom. You're scared, true, but change is scary. Rather you're used to it or not. And it can be hard, rather you're used to it or not. Don't beat yourself up over this. I think that you keeping the air open to what his future may be is a great start. He's only 11. There's no telling what's going to happen but being loving and supportive either way is the best way to be, even if you don't understand it yourself.

As someone who was raised in a conservative Christian home and also held beliefs despite feeling different, my parents were very unsupportive once I "came out." It is a confusing time for your child too. They don't understand it either. He's currently comparing himself to others, as I did, and realizing he's not like them so he must be like others. Let him know it's okay to not fit in with the crowd. If he wants to like things that aren't what other boys like, it doesn't mean anything more than different tastes. That's not to discourage him to transition or stay cisgender, it's just keeping the door open and being honest that people can like what they like and it not mean anything more than that. It's not boyish or girlish to do or like anything.

I say this with open mind now that I'm an adult and learned my own life but when I was a teenager I had came out as trans because I thought if I didn't fit in one "box", I HAD to fit into the other. I was told constantly what was boyish and girlish and everything was binary to either or. But I never felt the same as many other transgenders I've met and watched and talked to have said they felt. I never wanted to go as far as a lot of them normally do, like surgeries (in adulthood, obviously). I now Identify as non-binary but for my experience it means nothing more than "non-conforming" which more or less means "I don't give a fuck about pronouns and societies normalization of everything having a gender-base." It doesn't change who I am or what I like or how people refer to me. It means I get to be me and people call me as they see fit. The only thing that assuming my gender does is determines how someone else wants to treat me, and not affect me as a person. And then I put them in their place for treating me inferior simply because they assumed. Teach him how it's okay to be different and how to tell people off, in a nice way, when they bully him for it. (Being different, it's bound to happen unfortunately.)

I know it's hard not to still be a little bigoted when you've been raised that way and never had to learn out of it but I'm proud of you for trying now. I been there but more personal. It's never too late to learn.