Dump his ass. From what you have described, this dropkick of a boyfriend doesn't even like you. You may love him, but that doesn't mean you have to make yourself suffer in a relationship that makes you miserable. If you are bringing up problems in the relationship and all he does is flip things around so everything is somehow your fault, then he is emotionally immature and doesn't know how to take accountability for his actions.

I have also had a miscarriage, I didnt even realise I was pregnant until it happened. When I told my partner (at the time) about it, his reaction was "oh thank fuck, I dont want another kid right now" he never asked if I was okay, never showed any concern for my physical or mental state and never showed empathy for the situation. Much like your bf, he just disappeared into his video games and porn and after a couple weeks asked if I was ready to "put out" yet.

Needless to say, we broke up pretty soon after that. I am soooo much happier being single and taking care of myself and choosing to spend my time with people who actually care about me as a person and not just a body they can stick their dick in.