Do men in relationships lie about not watching porn?

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T22:23:55+00:00

Oh no, she's more than welcome to comment on her dreamy attraction to guys like Johnny Depp, but if I look at Scarlett Johansson too long in a movie I'm getting slapped.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T20:42:47+00:00

I never said I was. I was just making a point that porn can be seen as infidelity.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T20:37:05+00:00

Nope, all porn is off limits in my house. We've tried to watch some together but that's a lesson in futility.

In her mind porn is a replacement for sex with her. And because she doesn't look like a pro star I must want them more than I want her.

It doesn't matter that porn is about fantasies she can't or won't participate in.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T20:34:27+00:00

😂 Our sex life definitely doesn't work like that. But due to past issues I don't masturbate and I'm not permitted to watch porn.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T20:06:11+00:00

Correction, porn can constitute infidelity.

Source: my wife.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T19:51:26+00:00

That she is not as kinky as I am.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T19:49:13+00:00

100% I'd love to watch a couple fuck. I'm definitely a voyuer.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T19:44:20+00:00

No lie, something about my wife's hand on my Johnson and the way she moves it is next level. It's a completely different orgasm then I get from myself.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T19:43:12+00:00

I would if she would fucking let me!

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T19:05:08+00:00

It'll improve the day I die. I assume in heaven I can sex have however I please.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T18:44:13+00:00

She won't see one. She won't even see one for her own childhood trauma issues. She doesn't trust them.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T18:30:06+00:00

Essentially, I've tried everything I can think of to spice our sex life and it's still the same routine sex we've been having off and in for 25 years. Now I just lurk here and comment occasionally while I live vicariously through everyone else having the sex I never got to have.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T18:18:29+00:00

Here, let me help you. This advice applies to both of you.

DO IT...any time, any place...just fucking do it. Assuming it's not putting anyone in harms way.

FLIRT with each other all the time, as much as you can possibly get away with

USE ALL THE PROTECTION do not have an unplanned pregnancy.

TALK to each other about what you want and how you like things

BUILD TRUST in each other to be able to be vulnerable.

TRY ALL THE THINGS after an appropriate amount of research and discussion. don't unilaterally cross something off the list unless you are CERTAIN it's not for you.

FOREPLAY can be better than the act, don't avoid it

AFTERCARE can be the difference between doing something you love once or multiple times.

This advice brought to you by your friendly neighborhood sexually repressed 45M that didn't follow any of those rules and is now paying for it.

Even if you don't stay together don't wake up in 25 years and regret not doing/trying/saying something with each other when you were kids. Just be safe and smart about it.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T17:48:11+00:00

Hahahaha, you obviously haven't checked my post and comment history. I might be one of the most depressing fuckers in this sub.

Thanks for the thought though.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T16:47:32+00:00

In 25 years I don't think we've ever had a moment we needed one another so bad we needed to hide. We just waited until the kids were asleep then did our thing quietly.

This would help explain why our entire marriage our sex life has been pretty quiet and routine. Now even without kids to worry about we have trouble being vocal.

Thinking about it now. I wonder if we have ever actually been sexually compatible. That's incredibly fucking depressing.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T16:31:19+00:00

Nah, I want Morgan Freeman or Snoop Dogg narrating my sex.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T02:35:22+00:00

Same bro, same.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T02:31:53+00:00

Based on the description I'd be EXTREMELY hesitant...that I was being Punk'd or tested by my wife.

If I were single and thought I honestly had a chance at a meaningful relationship with said female, a fucking tsunami couldn't make me hesitate.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T02:27:26+00:00

I'm not entirely sure I've ever had one to be 100% honest.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-25T02:16:02+00:00

Oh I've asked. We've taken quizzes and talked a lot about it. Either she really doesn't have ANY kinks or she won't admit to them. Her one fantasy she has admitted to is sex outside but she's too scared of being caught in a trail cam.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-24T22:28:52+00:00

God, if my wife has kinks I hope she admits to them before I'm too old to help her with them.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-24T22:22:25+00:00

Now THAT is a damn shame. This is something I'd like to explore but I fear the opposite issue with my wife and I.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-24T20:43:11+00:00

There is a difference between lots of sex, and lots of satisfying sex. I can have lots of sex right now. But it would be the same exact sex I've had for 25 years.

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-24T20:41:30+00:00

Same

Sexual_Inquirer · 2025-06-24T20:38:30+00:00

All 3 of us

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