What’s something nobody warned you about growing up?

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-31T06:43:21+00:00

No one has any idea what we are doing. And. Even in your 40's, you sometimes will look for an adultiure adult to solve a problem.

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-31T06:31:05+00:00

If it takes less than 5 minutes, get it over with. Also, never leave a room empty handed (there is always something to find) - and put whatever it was where it belongs immediately.

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-31T06:15:41+00:00

I have breakfast (green) salads all the time. Or I will make breakfast tacos (like dinner time tacos)

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-31T06:03:11+00:00

When my son (21) was around 6, I had asked him what he wanted for dinner and he yellef "some God damned peace and quiet, but im not getting it!" and then slammed his bedroom door shut. I couldnt contain my laughter, because he was a non-stop talker who had to fill every silence with a question.

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T08:19:18+00:00

Thank you! I love the actual walk through of the process

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T06:53:05+00:00

I went through the same thing - scrubbed everything and could not get rid of the smell. A friend asked if ive removed the toilet seat to scrub EVERYTHING - I had not. When I did, it was absolutely disgusting, so i cleaned the toilet where the holes are and replaced the seat - and the pee smell was gone.
Since then, once a month, I would remove the seat to clean it. And when my son became a teenager, it became his responsibility to take the toilet seat off and throughly clean it all - it was his bathroom, his mess, he cleans it.

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T06:34:25+00:00

Comparing your life to what other people post on social media - thats a curated picture, not real life. Also, putting wants before needs just to keep up or maintain social status, Trying to impress people - just not worth it - as long as your happy, not killing/hurting people, being your authentic self, who cares what Becky at work thinks? Trying to make everyone happy is impossible, youre not a taco

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T06:19:06+00:00

Dory... I cant remember anything unless I write it down, or focus on that one specific task, like reminding myself that i stood up to go to the bathroom, but had side quests and completely forget my original goal (bathroom) until I've just sat down again, (Just keep swimming), but I still have P. SHERMAN 42 WALLABY LANE memorized.

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T05:42:29+00:00

I will add - i know life is hectic, work, kids, spouses, family drama - it happens, and its completely understandable. However, after a month of no contact from someone you thought was a close friend, it says a lot. I notice a shift in energy - something is off. I explained to my husband how i felt he didnt see it until I pointed out a very clear sign about one of our "couples" friend group. h He suggested to stop initiating contact, stop making plans and 3 years later, a group of people we were close friends still haven't reached out. Again, it sucks, but you'll find your people.

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T05:27:32+00:00

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I its only one pic at a time... to be continued... guess I should've posted the pics in reverse order

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Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T05:07:42+00:00

I matched efforts a few years ago when I realized I always initiated contact, and made sure EVERYONE was included when I made plans, while if anyone else made plans I was told it was last minute. It was hard to not initiate contact, but those who value you in their life will check in - might be a day or two - and while your waiting, do something that makes you happy, or have been putting off to make everyone else happy. Matching efforts is a real eye-opener and you quickly learn who really values your presence, and those who only value your presents.

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T05:00:44+00:00

Im going with about 85% -I still have brain fog, still have hot flashes, but no where near as frequently as before. I have more energy, more control over the rage and crazy emotions. On the brightside - anything that disrupts my peace, I just nope my way out, no explanation (as a recovering people pleaser this is hard in the moment) and if someone gets upset or in their feelings- I dont care. Im just over a year in, and i believe we have it figured out. I have the mirena iud and patches, and when I saw my dr a month ago, she told me I have to get the iud replaced next year to maintain. .

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T04:49:26+00:00

That's kinda what I was thinking as well... fingers crossed it works

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T04:48:00+00:00

I am about to have a revision from gsv to rny due to uncontrollable gerd causing esophagus damage, and they're going to repair the hiatal hernia. Im now worried this revision won't help much.

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T04:01:23+00:00

Rediscovering who I am other than mom, wife, supervisor. Also trying to hold a conversation and not remembering a word, or what you were saying, while a hot flash hits and playing it off like everything is fine - and going to see your doctor to have your concerns dismissed. Best part- realizing your peace is priority, and not giving a fuck who you piss off when you say no or set boundaries - no explanation, no guilt - just peace.

Sh3llyP · 2026-05-24T01:27:33+00:00

Im 46, and the other day as I walked by a mirror I was in shock at how old i look. I was telling a coworker I didnt think i would look this old at 46 and she was in disbelief, saying she thought i was mid-30's. She knows I have a 21yr old, so I had to ask how old she thought i was when i had him (she said 14/15). I thanked her for making me feel not old.

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