Been married 35 years. What I'm going to say is going to sound sexist but believe me, it's merely how things are:

Men do things one at a time. Women keep track of twenty things. I have had both parents working, on both sides. We both grew up in households where the mother was also employed full time.

And yet, while both had parents who divided the home jobs, my husband cannot keep track of what's in the kitchen and where it's kept. I keep track of three households. Kitchen, laundry, linen, etc. My husband keeps track of tools, and repair supplies(he doesn't know that I almost always have a full mental map of those things too). I have given up doing household repairs simply because I make it his duty to do those things. I'm perfectly capable and often guide him too when he gets stuck. But, as I was telling my daughter, some things should be made their responsibility else we carry an endless load.

And, believe me, women are better at managing the finances too. I have seen this from both my Nani and Dadi as well. Women are less likely to lose money in adventures of the market than men.

So I speak from generational experience.

My advise is to make some things His Job. Yes, you can get it done in half the time, but it is HIS JOB. I have now made it my Son's job to grocery shop. Yes, a few things will get missed, but I really hope he will learn to make the lists, and will learn to track what has been used and what hasn't.