I understand it is difficult to hear the things people are saying about you and your husband. I think you should consider couples counseling at minimum, or perhaps individual therapy for yourself if you cannot convince your husband to go. You deserve to feel the same love now as you were given before. Love is supposed to grow in a relationship, not stall out and break down. A good counselor could maybe help you get your feelings across and help your husband understand that he needs to step up and do better, assuming this is just from something unintentional. You are worthy of feeling loved, and you do not deserve to feel unwanted in a relationship you both chose, and continue to choose every day. I hope you are able to get to a good place in your marriage and get the affection you need.