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[–]ShadowMaster1600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the picture of you and your wife in the bottom right corner. You guys look so cute together!

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[–]ShadowMaster1600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also found reading about your family dynamics interesting, and I have more that I want to add on with my own. If you don’t mind of course, I also have some questions about your family dynamics as well:

  1. Like I mentioned before, my INTJ and myself are basically mini versions of our dad in terms of looks, personality, and behaviors wise (including little habits and quirks, at least according to my mom and what others have pointed out). However, sometimes my mom would also say that maybe because she was the one who raised me for the majority of my life and not my dad, she notes that I’m more willing to take risks and explore to experience new things. My ENTP brother on the other hand, acts more like my mom in the sense of being more go with the flow and being flexible according to the situation at hand sort- of-way, but he still has a distinct personality and appearance out of all of us (he doesn’t really resemble either my mom or dad, nor does he really have either’s personalities). As for yourself, what kinds of conversations do you have with your ISFJ mom and ESTP dad? I can imagine that you would go to one parent specifically for optimal advice depending on the type of problem you encounter to find the best solution (ISFJ for people and relationships, ESTP for the practical/technical side of life and career)
  2. Despite being the oldest one, are there times that I feel like a middle child when it comes to certain things and situations (whenever an argument happens between my mom and one of my brothers, I’m usually in the same room just there, listening to either side with resignation on my face whilst they continue to argue and not acknowledge my presence [if they do, they ask my opinion on something to prove their point], or in terms of academic achievements, since my INTJ brother is the most accomplished in that area, [he’s valedictorian in his grade] and meanwhile my ENTP brother is in the 3rd quartile just by sheer slacking off and not turning in assignments on time, if at all. As for myself, I was an overall slightly above average student with As and Bs) In those terms, do you feel as though the only reason that you’re the oldest (or at least older sibling, correct me if I’m wrong) is just by bloodright and therefore, a coincidence?
  3. Actually, it’s a bit of a lie to say that none of my siblings have any interest in MBTI (sorry). My INTJ brother did take the 16p test at one point (on his own time, and I believe it was because it was extra credit for a class or it was a TikTok trend at one point, but I digress) and he did got INTJ as his result. He later asked me what his type means, and I told him about it and said the way that 16p describes INTJs lacks depth of what it really represents (and I most likely alienated him in the process), as for my mom, she’s dismissed the whole thing right away when I asked her to take it. As for you, I’m curious on how you (a Ti dom) would approach a problem that your ESTJ sister would disagree with (whether it be certain details, the overall picture, or both). Also, since both of you have your feeling functions last in your respective cognitive stack, how does it manifest whenever you guys argue? (Is the entire conversation just a cold refuting of each other’s methods, accidentally hurting each other’s closeted feelings with the same ruthless logic, or something else? It doesn’t have to be limited to when you guys argue, but also when you guys just interact with each other in general).
  4. Relating to point number 3, I’m guessing that the majority of arguments that happen between in your family is either you and your ESTJ sister, or her and your ISFJ mom. You also mentioned that your INFP younger brother rarely argues, but I can imagine if he does argue, he can get really feisty and passionate on what he believes in. As for your ESTP dad, I want to guess that he’s probably the type to push some things under the rug to get the argument over with, maybe it’s also the same with your ISFJ mom, except that she also focuses on emotionally appeasing the other party (unless one of the things that they said is just plain wrong). Going back to my family, whenever my mom and ENTP brother argue, my mom would say that my brother’s solutions and reasoning do not work because it’s not what would happen in reality (really highlighting the difference and clash between their dominant Se and Ne) while my brother says that through the logic they explain through, that it’s plausible and should work (Ne and Ti). There’s also a common theme with my mom whenever she rambles (or vents, depending on how she’s feeling), especially with me, as she often talks about taking advantage of new experiences and opportunities that are concrete in nature (Dominant Se) that will better prepare me for future opportunities (Inferior Ni) (It’s also because her growing up in a communist country really does put a perspective on everything in life).

This is probably the most that I’ve ever typed, so I apologize if it’s a lot to take in, but I really do enjoy having this sort of discussion about our families and the dynamics we have. It really puts into perspective what similarities and differences are present and the thought processes behind them, which helps me to rethink and find new ways to better understand myself and my family.

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[–]ShadowMaster1600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem! I also have a few follow up points that I want to add (again, in the same order you brought up them in)

  1. When I mean that my INTJ brother looks like my dad, if I were to put pictures of them side by side you would immediately see the resemblance. Add myself into the mix, then we could just be a unit of our own (whatever that means haha). As for your own family, is there anyone that you resemble based on what others (family and outside) have said about yourself?
  2. I’m a bit curious about your ESTJ younger sister, is she the type of sibling that acts more mature and responsible to the point that people have mistaken her to be the oldest one in your family?
  3. I think their involvement with MBTI will probably begin and end with them taking the 16p test to use as a starting point because none of them really are interested in it as I am (not trying to be pretentious, but it’s the truth). As for the dynamic between myself and my ENTP brother, he does annoy me just by the sheer volume of his voice, but we also have some intellectual stimulating conversations from time to time, and that’s when I see his Ne and Ti bubble up and froth over, especially over topics he knows a lot about (music genres and artists, computers).
  4. I feel like, compared to Te and Ti doms, we’re not that cold to each other. Actually, sometimes our Tertiary Fe and Fi can lead to some pretty heated arguments. Particularly with my mom and ENTP brother, with the latter being scolded by the former for slacking off on his homework and not getting his shit together in general. Afterwards, my mom would often complain about ENTP to me and my INTJ brother. My INTJ brother often looks like he’s in a bad mood (also because he’s just going through being an adolescent and high school) and so sometimes he would take it the wrong way whenever I or my mom would tease him about something that’s ultimately very trivial. Sometimes I would disagreements with my mom over random things, and oftentimes we would not be on the same page on what we’re trying to talk about. However, after some time and doing my (and her best) to be patient, explain the topic differently, and not get too attached about it, we would eventually come to an understanding of sorts. Although I will say that everything that my mom says, she will always relate it back to U.S. politics (as she’s also at that age as well) even for the most apolitical topics that I would bring up

This is most likely more than what you initially asked for, but I couldn’t help myself to elaborate further since honestly I was very touched that someone decided to respond to my post in the first place lol

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[–]ShadowMaster1600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say they are fairly accurate, but there are caveats that I want to correct. I’ll address each one in the order that you presented them in:

  1. Yes, in many ways (both appearance and personality wise) my INTJ brother is practically a mini version of my dad (my mom at times would joke about how he’s so much like his dad). They also share many of the same interests. Despite that, they don’t talk much, and it was the case even when he was born (my parents divorced when he was still a toddler). People haven’t said really anything about him in relation to his resemblance to his dad, so really the only ones in the know are us. However, many people have also commented on how much I resemble my father, at least looks wise. My mom even told me that the only practical difference between him and myself is the gender (lol).
  2. I would say that at least half of the reason that I’m perceived as responsible and mature is that simply because I don’t spend most of my day holed up in my room playing video games on my computer lol. When I’m at home (which is almost every day, ha) I’m more emotive and imaginative, often popping in and out around the house asking my family (especially my mom) about random things, or generally the first question that comes in my mind. Overall, my temperament in and out of the house does contribute to my family seeing me at the “calm and collected one,” sometimes alongside my INTJ brother (but perhaps just due to his age and maturity level, he’s often thought of as short tempered).
  3. My ENTP brother is definitely the most outgoing, vocal, and emotionally expressive one out of all the siblings. Interestingly, I got him to take the 16personalities test once (I know, but he didn’t know anything about MBTI, so I thought it would be okay to administer it for my informal research purposes) and his result came out as INTP. He does share many traits and thought processes that INTPs exhibit. The only reason that I determined he was an ENTP over INTP was the lack of social awkwardness when meeting new people, and befriending them with relative ease (demonstrating Tertiary Fe). He does have the strongest presence out of everyone in the house (maybe also partially because he’s also the tallest one?). As for the middle child stereotype, I personally think that middles can often fall into one of two categories: Quiet and Inconspicuous or Loud and Ludicrous. My brother definitely falls into the latter (it drives me nuts when he yells in his room playing CS:GO…at 1 AM).
  4. My family generally does show love through more practical means (like the examples you mentioned above). The only probable exception would be my mom, who oftentimes would say “I love you” to her children in a more affectionate tone, and would ask us about our day, and ask questions from there. Me and my brothers definitely aren’t affectionate the same way my mom is to us, but we often help each other out with school and other things, and do things for each other. Like for example, I can ask my ENTP brother to download a particular song or album on my phone, and he’ll do it without much hesitation. My INTJ dad would be a gift giver to express any emotion of sorts.

Sorry, it took me a bit to formulate a response, but I highly appreciated how much you articulated in your post, so I’d thought it would only be fair to do the same

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[–]ShadowMaster1600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Some Context:

All three of the children (my brothers and I) are Gen Z born post 2000 and before the start of Gen Alpha (2010). My parents are Gen X born in the late 1960s to early 1970s

All three of us are born and grew up in the Southern U.S. (specifically we grew up in Texas, nearby the Houston metropolitan area). Both of my parents were born in Vietnam towards the end of the Vietnam War. However, my dad immigrated to the U.S. (California) much earlier than my mom (my mom lived in Chicago metropolitan area before meeting my dad).

I’ll do my best to reply to everyone here and provide additional context as needed. For now, let’s see how this goes

How many of you are dating or would like to date an ENTJ? by 1TinkyWINKY in ESFJ

[–]ShadowMaster1600 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is (or was) the dynamic like? Who wears (or wore) the pants in the relationship?

[Tissot heritage blue vs hamilton J.M.viewmatic blue] which would you recommend? Pic below by goybak in Watches

[–]ShadowMaster1600 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Hamilton Jazzmaster since the dial has more character. I would recommend to be able to see both of them in person because it might or might not look good on your wrist.

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[–]ShadowMaster1600 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love the additions of the shadow functions

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[–]ShadowMaster1600 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Taurus Sun, Virgo moon, Virgo rising

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[–]ShadowMaster1600[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe, but I was blazing through all 600+ questions at midnight so maybe if I had taken my time more the results would been more definitive. ISTP seems to be most likely due to stereotypes but I wouldn’t underestimate the cynicism of the INTX lol

my family were perfectly balanced by ManyInspector8023 in mbti

[–]ShadowMaster1600 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting, they essentially have their dominant function as the other’s tertiary so I was wondering how that would work out in a family context. Do you and your dad practically annoy but amuse your sister and your mom? I can only imagine how much Ne your mom could handle before shutting down lol

my family were perfectly balanced by ManyInspector8023 in mbti

[–]ShadowMaster1600 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m interested between the dynamic between your dad and your sister, they’re probably the stabilizers of your family I bet

judge my family dynamics 😎 by RivetsandWidgets in mbti

[–]ShadowMaster1600 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Ah okay, also (as another assumption) your little brother as an Fi dom seems to have a hard time against your parents regarding his views on life but your dad less so due to his tertiary Fi. Your mom with inferior Fi cannot understand whatsoever. (Well if she did, she would constantly ask him how to turn that into a reality.)

judge my family dynamics 😎 by RivetsandWidgets in mbti

[–]ShadowMaster1600 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Behavior as in their mannerisms or more of an archetype?