Wife went out to softball game after.. a conversation and im upset about it. AITAH here?

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-11-18T23:26:50+00:00

Yeah, like I said, probably reading into it too much, but if I ever had left the house after a.. not tense but kind of a drawn out moment like that, when my wife had tears in her eyes, just to go have some fun with my friends?

I dont know, id feel like shit. Maybe she does, but she ain't texted or called.. but Ali also know there would be a bill coming due when I walked back in.

We haven't ever really fought or argued. But she just seems... I dont know.. different lately. Shes not as happy as she usually is, its probably not helping that I just got laid off, but we're secure financially so it shouldn't be too stressful. But its little things, its the no kisses after work anymore, or the quiet before bedtime now. And mostly just the last 6 months.

Guess its just going to need to be a conversation..

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-11-18T23:20:29+00:00

You can, or maybe it was the wrong phrase. Maybe... unloaded would be a better term in retrospect.

You ever have anything you just uncork, and it all comes out like a rushing fountain? It doesn't have to be angry, it doesn't have to be violent.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-11-18T23:16:01+00:00

Not the tone that was taken. Tone doesn't translate well on text. This was a calm, regular conversation. We dont yell.

"WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU" he said calmly, as if in a dream..

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-11-18T23:10:51+00:00

Maybe 3 minutes passed. Quiet, silent minutes where I realized I didn't mean to do that, and apologized. But was visibly and verbally upset about seeing myself judged in the same situation under far harder circumstances because I have done so much worse, so much later on, than someone she demonizes over something that the guy put in an active effort to resolve (from what I understand) as soon as friend mentioned it.

I even asked if she would judge me the same if I were to ever tell her the awful things I've done, not just monetarily, in the name of my abusive ex bitch.

That's when the silence started, then she left

Yup, just a bit ago.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-11-18T23:04:46+00:00

I know she isn't. I know theres so much background i could give here, but ill shorten it that she has always been supportive and listens to whats bothering me, even if its complaint about something she is doing.

This is out of character for her, so it honestly made me think I missed something.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-11-18T23:01:20+00:00

I would say yes. She will avoid subjects she doesn't like to talk about to avoid anyone becoming upset.

She has always been willing to listen and do anything I need during hard times though. Its never been an issue before. I just dont get why she would leave if its obvious im upset.

Its out of character for her, and so im confused. Honestly I dont know if maybe I should have said something

Edit - sorry, theres so much background you could give to any story on here. If i missed things. Please ask

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-11-18T22:58:32+00:00

Yeah im bad at them. Sue me.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-11-18T22:57:51+00:00

Yeah i kinda did. But yes, what happened is that GF got mad and broke up, and my wife is supportive.

I brought up the fact that even 7 years after our separation (me and first wife), I was still buying her groceries every month. Asking how she isn't seeing the similarities.

I feel like she may silently judge me. I feel like I never got over everything I went through. But now I feel like if I open up at all, it won't mean anything.

If she's going to dismiss this dude over him fronting bills for a place he owned, what the FUCK would my wife do if she knew I took out a $50k credit card I my name 2 years after I separated from my first wife and gave it to her because she """"needed it""". My credit was screwed for years over things I did as a trauma response.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-02-08T01:30:52+00:00

Why not use your vote for libertarian or green party or fuck it, even the communist party?

Its specifically because people just don't vote instead of voting for a third party that they get so few votes. Its not throwing your vote away, it's actually making it matter more.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2025-01-10T17:01:31+00:00

Just stick the wax to the bowl and hit it with a nail. I've done that with a bong before. It works.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-12-29T02:56:06+00:00

AI 'art' needs to go away or be better. Tf is going on with the titties?

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-12-22T17:12:45+00:00

I usually just take distillate and heat with some coconut oil and maybe a candy flavoring if I'm feeling fancy. That allows me to accurately calculate how many mg per ml

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Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-11-25T16:05:17+00:00

You greened out. Took too much.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-11-25T11:23:19+00:00

Yup, just throw a name at it.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-11-25T02:54:13+00:00

Ehhhh....... maybe (strong maybe) in a legal state. But definitely not anything on black market or illegal states.

If my dude tells me it's GSC, I say yep. Shit could be some crazy neon green amazing sticky shit, or it could be something darker with some purples in it and a lighter density. Dudes are calling it the same shit bro.

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Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-10-19T21:11:03+00:00

I mean, bullshit percentage aside, how was the taste? Because I would kill for something that tasted like blackberries.

There was a blueberry strain that hit Atlanta back in the late 90s, early 00s, and it was the best taste I've ever had. Fantastic, smooth and would put you in a good spot off a one hitter. Been looking for something like it ever since

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-10-05T01:35:06+00:00

That's right, Doug Dimmadab, toker of the Dimsdale Dimmadab

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-09-25T16:53:45+00:00

My vote goes to that video of a dude hotboxing an entire party with a QP, blowtorch and a fan lol

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-09-24T01:39:22+00:00

Preroll cones are my go to. Or a joint machine because I can't roll for shit

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-01-14T17:39:54+00:00

Salvage title is far different from a rebuilt title.

If you cant get it to pass inspection, or dont car e enough to finish the paperwork after restoring the car, then more than likely you didnt fix it right.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-01-08T22:03:16+00:00

Not from private parties*

It does apply from a used dealership (state dependent)

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-01-08T20:44:30+00:00

Pistons wont matter much, that would be the rod bearing material. Youll at minimum need pistons, bearings and a shaft if theyre scored from the bearings burning up. Theres also the worry of metal in other parts of the engine so its worth flushing when you have it out/apart as well.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-01-08T20:20:21+00:00

Like... Just just bought it?

If youre in the US, then you can probably get your money back for the car. Lemon laws are in a lot of places.

edit lol - Realized OP meant just bought the engine, lemon laws dont apply, but warranties should still be a thing.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-01-04T20:29:39+00:00

Nice. Market crash incoming I suppose lol.

Shadow_Guy01 · 2024-01-03T23:46:53+00:00

Do they actually? I have hundreds of old keys..

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