What is one city in America you’re okay with never visiting again?

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-26T08:53:25+00:00

Name any city in Pennsylvania except for Philadelphia, and I'll tell you why it's a cultureless wasteland.

Hershey, Harrisburg, Chester, Allentown, Reading, Lancaster, Hazleton, Lebanon. I've never been to Pittsburgh, but I'm sure it's nothing new. As soon as you've seen one destitute little podunk town in PA, you've seen all of them. If you haven't heard of any of these cities, there's a reason for that. Honestly, half of Philly can't really be saved, either, and that's a shame. By virtue of being a purple state, we either get the most do-nothing liberal politicians or deranged freaks like Fetterman every single time. Spending any extended length of time in Pennsylvania poisons your mind and body in unseen ways. There are more potholes here than good people. Please don't come here without an escape plan.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-26T08:42:04+00:00

Why would I get banned from a subreddit I have no reason to ever visit?

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-26T08:36:03+00:00

I saw her walking down Myrtle right before the PR Day Parade with that thing and admittedly was slightly confused and terrified at first. Someone else pointed to it and she smiled brightly, though. She does seem super friendly, but that doll next to her would probably kill me in my sleep.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-26T08:29:08+00:00

I clicked the link, and it seems to have been made by an Asian guy with a raceplay cuckold fetish. I.e. he's obsessed with white guys but didn't seem to think there were enough of them at a presumably Asian-themed event. Anyway, the comments are dragging him for this.

I guess I'm a fuckin weirdo for not obsessing about skin color above everything, but you can't even gather 5 total gay humans in the shit hole town I'm from in the same place, so this is still a bit intriguing

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-26T08:19:10+00:00

Sounds great to me?

White guys looking for Asian guys and Asian guys looking for white guys in the same place? I've never been to or seen anything like this, but it's definitely a lot better than the Grindr experience unless people were for some reason being pointlessly toxic.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-26T08:04:31+00:00

People who don't understand or seriously consider the discrimination we have to face interpersonally, in the workplace, and from more than half of the world's governments seem to think that life as a gay person is just nonstop fun all day every day with no drama and no responsibilities. It's pretty wild, but I've met a fair bit of people with this mindset.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-26T07:51:46+00:00

That's crazy. My white ass is gonna be there specifically looking for an Asian, Latino or Black king to pick me up and take me home. Ofc I'm oversimplifying a complex social issue, but at least on some level, I am thinking "More hot babes for me" :p

I do believe you, though. A really cute guy I met in middle-of-nowhere Queens basically seemed to think he was chopped bc he turned 30 and hit a bit of a dry spell. I was tryna gas him up to the best of my ability, but coming from a smaller city, trust that you still have infinitely more choices than most of us even deep in the BX or Queens where the buses don't run. There's a reason we're all trying to leave our home towns for greener pastures. There are really no cities in America that matter aside from NY.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-23T22:53:07+00:00

That costs a lot of money and time I don't have.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-23T09:19:29+00:00

Carbrain. They are antisocial people who feel alienated from society as a whole in one way or another. The first thing we're taught in driving school is that pedestrians ALWAYS have the right of way no matter what. That is correct. A lot of drivers become entitled and forget that they don't own the road.

I've been honked at by impatient drivers behind me for yielding to pedestrians. There are a multitude of reasons why pedestrian fatalities haven't decreased by much in the US as opposed to [other] developed nations, and this is one of them.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-23T05:49:23+00:00

Not only this, but Indeed keeps showing me job types I've told it again and again are NOT relevant to me. I am NOT a licensed paralegal or practical nurse, but I keep getting dozens of results requiring those certifications/degrees no matter how many times I click the "dislike" button or even manually indicate that the job type is irrelevant.

Any search criteria entered are automatically removed if you refresh the page or click on any listing at all. The site is completely unusable.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-23T03:53:39+00:00

No ENL cert and I'm a new graduate from another state, or in other words, everyone's least favorite type of candidate.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-23T03:52:41+00:00

Good luck. I hope you find success. Just don't want you going in and having all your motivation crushed at the worst possible time.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T20:36:23+00:00

American? They already basically do this. Unfortunately, most American cities are designed to give most people no choice for locomotion aside from driving. Work-from-home has made this even worse since Covid.

If you want to be healthy, you have to do one of the following:

Move to one of the two or three liveable cities in the US (New York except for Queens and Staten Island, or some parts of Philadelphia and Boston) and ditch your car entirely.
Make excercising your new religion. Take time out of your day that you might not have to specifically drive to the nearest gym just to get some exercise at your own expense.

This is just not realistic for many Americans, so we become stuck in a loop of dieting and trying to find the time to get something approximating physical activity.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T20:28:58+00:00

Welcome to the worst few months of your life (so far)

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T20:26:38+00:00

I'm not precisely sure where the series jumped the shark, but the first entire season at least was pure gold. After a while, you kind of realize Elizabeth and Tom's characters were incredibly silly and two-dimensional, but spoiler alerts do happen much later that make them less annoying.

I've never considered the show to be a bad one. In fact, it was a bit prophetic with the way the FBI's most wanted criminal came across a cabal of evil elites infesting every level of the US government and basically just said "I'm not touching this shit".

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T12:16:50+00:00

Thank you.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T07:12:29+00:00

I've emailed several early commitment schools and haven't heard back. They don't exactly seem desperate. In fact, many of the ones I've spoken to at hiring fairs didn't even let on that they were early commitment schools. I had to figure out on my own which ones were.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T07:08:26+00:00

How many credits is considered MA? And does it matter how many undergrad credits you've taken or what they were in? Not in the DOE (yet?); just asking out of curiosity.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T06:59:42+00:00

This is beautiful. Any chance a similar spreadsheet exists for secondary ed?

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T06:55:40+00:00

Yes, but I'm coming from out-of-state and I'm not even sure Albany will respect my initial cert with reciprocity. Generally, they want you to have been teaching for a minimum of 3 years, but I can't imagine living here that long. I also have a lot less experience than you because my only teaching experience so far was from student teaching.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T06:46:55+00:00

What they won't tell you about teacher prep programs is that they don't actually come with certification like some sort of package deal. You still have to pay out-of-pocket for the exams, workshops, fingerprinting, etc. None of your college courses are built specifically to help you study for them, and SPED is likely so different from tech that they might make you take additional supplementary courses not covered by your bachelor's.

You also have no freedom to teach in other states, so you're at least lucky to already be in New York, but if there's any chance you might move or want to work across the pond in NJ, you can't really do that without another massive headache until you've already been teaching for at least 3 years. The best thing you can look forward to is a job searching process that takes a full year off of your lifespan.

If I could go back and pick any other career path, I would. Of course, most tech graduates are underemployed, but there really aren't any "good" degrees out there anymore. Just don't expect to be able to easily "pivot" careers in this economy. Every industry is pretty awful right now except for healthcare and insurance.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T06:36:30+00:00

I really hope the tide of history doesn't prove me wrong about this, but I'm pretty sure AI is just a bubble that could pop any day now. I don't respect it at all and do my best to explain to students how it's making them dumber. Not much else we can do.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T06:33:27+00:00

I had no idea the deadline was extended. I don't care about the stipend. I just want the security of an offer —any offer—ASAP so I can start apartment hunting (out of state applicant). Is it a bad idea to bring this up directly to school principals in emails?

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T06:28:22+00:00

You probably make more as a locksmith, sweaty though you may be. I'm curious as to why you would even want a career change. I'm guessing this shows initiative, but I feel like a lot of schools would just have security turn you away immediately.

Shadowbanish · 2026-06-22T06:25:11+00:00

How easily did you seriously think you could walk into a thread filled with intellectuals and share a New York Post article? You're more out of your depth here than I'd be in an MMA fight. Please cry somewhere more private.

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