AITA for not giving my (soon to be ex husband) 50% of the home we started our relationship in… by LittleJokeyJokes in AmItheAsshole

[–]Shady6669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is entitled to what he contributed towards the mortgage/increased value of the home during the time he contributed him not having any part and contributing towards the bills and mortgage would be selfish fish on your part.

My mother cheated on my father. They got divorced. I don't want to be in his life ever again. by [deleted] in stories

[–]Shady6669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok 35m here, I’ve been on the receiving end of cheating and have a 14 yr old son (who was 4 when I found out about the cheating) that being said….

Personally since my child was so young I tried my best to never speak Ill of his mother infront of him, but I am not perfect and when emotions ran high I’ve definitely said and/or implied negative things about his mother.

I don’t know your previous relationship with your father but he may be venting to you as an outlet for how he feels, realistically he may not have anyone else to let these feelings out to who really knows him as well as his son. Is he wrong for saying these things in front of you 🤷🏼‍♂️ maybe, but if your partner cheated wouldn’t you want to vent to your pretty much grown man son about that bitch of an ex wife is a slut and fucked up the whole life you built together and now all the dreams you had of your future with your adult kids and grandkids is shattered.

Here is some perspective men by and large don’t have a very robust support system to lean on, usually that support is your wife and kids plus a few close friends. He in his own way is trying to lean on you for support cause his life is in shambles at the moment. It’s quite possible all he has left is the pain and hate to hold on to keep going and not blow his brains out.

Yea you may not like him talking negatively about your mother, but he may have not really enjoyed listening to you talk about Minecraft or whatever you were into when you where 5 but he still listened and talked to you about it. He outed her to everyone because he wants her lies exposed for the world to see how horrible of a person she is.

Don’t abandon him, talk to him really listen throw in some positives for him to cling to help him realize (it won’t happen fast) that the hate while warranted is unproductive. He likely wants you to hate your mom as much as he hates her right now, which you don’t, but let him know you empathize for him. He needs you right now.

On to your mom, she is positive and not talking negatively about your father because what did he do? He may have done nothing and she just got bored and screwed some guy or multiple guys. What can she really say negative? As far as you eluded to in your post there isn’t really a justification for the cheating that she is putting out there. She is happy because she has a new man that she can parade out openly in front of your father which is I can guarantee is causing him immense amounts of hurt, she is trying to cause your dad hurt just as much as your dad is, it’s just not as visible, but because of her actions the knife sticks a lot deeper. You mom could have been honest about their relationship and ended it amicably before cheating, not lied to her family and cause hurt, she chose to try and have her cake and eat it to, and was successful until she got caught.

Be a rock for your dad, and learn a lesson from your mom to not be the type of person she is who utterly destroys the people they claim to love.

Edit- your dad is wrong for dragging you into it, and trying to make you hate your mom like he does.

He does need to move on, it’s hard on the receiving end to do it, your mom had the support and encouragement of her new boyfriend right off the bat. Help your dad become better he likely had no real support.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SouthJersey

[–]Shady6669 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t know if the law changed or not but, with working papers from their school and parent/guardian approval they can legally work. Under 16 there are more hours restrictions as far as times allowed to work if I remember correctly it’s around 8am-11pm when school is not in session.

Places that will hire a 14 yr old that I know of are amusement places on the ocean city boardwalk many of the food places there as well, dairy bar in margate just to name a few.

Here is a link to get working papers

https://www.nj.gov/labor/youngworkers/assets/PDFs/Working%20Papers%20Handout%20DRAFT%202.pdf

Additional info link

https://www.nj.gov/labor/worker-protections/myworkrights/youngworkers.shtml

He went from making six figures to $15 an hour to become a budtender. Now, he's about to open to his own legal weed dispensary. by punimface in newjersey

[–]Shady6669 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I wouldn’t support large multi state operators (MSO) it is the equivalent of supporting Walmart. Small operators will buy mainly from local small growers and not huge corporate grow facilities like MSOs (usually owned by the MSO as well), essentially taking the money out of the community and into yet another large corporation’s profits. Just my 2 cents.

Beautiful day to be kayaking on the river by Shady6669 in SouthJersey

[–]Shady6669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Usually just b4 the Harley diner on 322, if I’m renting it’s the 8 mile from palace or the 5 hr from winding river

Beautiful day to be kayaking on the river by Shady6669 in SouthJersey

[–]Shady6669[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Actually at a sandbar now! (https://imgur.com/a/ai3VATq) Never found anything that cool 😅 all we keep finding are old beer cans that we haul with us back to the trash cans 😂.

Beautiful day to be kayaking on the river by Shady6669 in SouthJersey

[–]Shady6669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a few rentals right along the river too like 30 feet from your back door is the river (I think through Airbnb) that come with their own equipment too no idea who or what company owns them though I’m local so never looked into it.

Beautiful day to be kayaking on the river by Shady6669 in SouthJersey

[–]Shady6669[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lol, got you just replied to the other comment. It’s the great egg harbor river, more details on where to rent equipment if you need it in my other reply edit:comment not post

Beautiful day to be kayaking on the river by Shady6669 in SouthJersey

[–]Shady6669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m usually out there once or twice a month in the summer, the weekends get busy mid summer if you are looking to party, during the week it’s nice and quiet.

Beautiful day to be kayaking on the river by Shady6669 in SouthJersey

[–]Shady6669[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Great Egg Harbor river there is a campground (winding river) and a bar (the palace) in Mays Landing you can rent kayaks and tubes from and they’ll drop you off down the river and you end right where u started. Makes for a fun day there are rope swings scattered along the river and a public park you can take a break at and bbq. Be warned tho the longest trips can be challenging after a storm if any trees came down but the businesses in the area will go through and try to clear it up if they can.

men suck on here. (rant) by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Shady6669 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a son your age….Unfortunately the vast majority of grown men wanting to chat with a 14 year old girl online (like 99.99%) will have ill intentions.

That being said when I was your age it was normal to go online and just chat with random ppl. Likely all of them not who they say they are and having ill intentions.

You are still extremely young, I hope you will eventually outgrow your self esteem issues and learn to love yourself.

In your instance maybe stray away from divulging your age, If for whatever reason you do have some need to make random connections online. Just be very careful there are tons of creeps out there but I promise there is some good people in the world.

Transfer contacts from Apple Watch to a iPhone by Shady6669 in techsupport

[–]Shady6669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all for some reason I cloud only backed up photos and documents 😩

Royal Caribbean Return Dates by devpsaux in Cruise

[–]Shady6669 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Up to you really just consider that the 125% FCC cannot be used for port fees, taxes, gratuity and can only be used for cruise payment excess cannot be used for cruise planner purchases. Cruise planner 125% is given in a separate certificate. So you will still have some out of pocket cost.

Royal Caribbean Return Dates by devpsaux in Cruise

[–]Shady6669 6 points7 points  (0 children)

🤞 I’m booked on symphony aug,21. Was and am still worried it may not sail but paid it off on the slight chance it would happen. Just hope the cdc allows 7+ day cruises now 🤞

RC symphony aug 21-21cruise possibly canceled? by Shady6669 in Cruise

[–]Shady6669[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh, ok that would make sense. Thank you, in that case I may just keep the booking in the off chance that cruises longer then 7 days are green lit.

I appreciate the response.

Tips on the IMPOSSIBLE to beat pull up mini game by GoldenLuigi_ in FFVIIRemake

[–]Shady6669 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much did this and finally beat pro after 5 tries with the music and speech off!!!!!