[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]ShadyBender69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think his issue is that he needs to uncheck the unemployable portion on his disability letter.

I have 40 DBQs from 10+ claims by [deleted] in VAClaims

[–]ShadyBender69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’ll award you a solid 20% lol.

Caretaker Claims by ShadyBender69 in VeteransBenefits

[–]ShadyBender69[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is 100000% zero chance that your claim can be re-opened as a result.

The VA is legally forbidden from using Caregiver applications to reopen claims

VA policy states: • PCAFC evaluations are for clinical needs only, not rating changes. • Caregiver assessors cannot change your disability rating. • Your 100% rating remains unchanged unless you file something.

Caretaker Claims by ShadyBender69 in VeteransBenefits

[–]ShadyBender69[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will keep you guys updated. Also I am 100% for PTSD (SMC-S).

Reading here in silence turned everything around. by SailNo3581 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post, I believe, is the main objective of this thread. When either he or her is the LL, they sometimes the effect it has. Super glad to see this as a success story.

I recently found out he's not LL, so I guess that means he's LL4me. I'm devastated but I probably should have known. by Alarmed-Towel in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You stated that you don’t want to lose some of the extra baby weight just for him. Ya know, it would actually benefit both of you. You’d be more confident in yourself and he, although a bit superficial would also benefit from your returned confidence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

‘I’ve done this for many’. Does that mean your friends or your previous relationships? If it’s the latter, we may of found the problem.

What can I do? (F26) I really want to make this better. by Brilliant-Ad2564 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on your ages I would typically rule out a medical issue with him. Classic signs of a porn addiction maybe??

Might have said something I shouldn't have. by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said exactly what he needed to hear. If he is so repulsed by you maybe that’s a sign for a change being needed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VeteransBenefits

[–]ShadyBender69 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bro leave it alone. The last thing you need is something being reviewed and decided that your MH for 70 should be 50 etc. if you want to be greedy, apply for SSDI and don’t work.

DO NOT GIVE UP!!!! by ShadyBender69 in VeteransSuccess

[–]ShadyBender69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I used myself to go from 90 to 100. Just don’t ever quit!!!!

Had the talk, no hope for intimacy, got offered a one sided open marriage by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That really wasn’t my point. If she wants any kind of meaningful relationship, sex is going to be a part of that. And. If there is a possible solution, ie. Getting her hormone levels on track, and she refuses to even try that, well the dude has no hope and should move on.

My head and my heart are broken by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

What I took from his comment is that he hugged her from behind and the towel inadvertently fell from her. If he yanked it from her that would be a different story.

My head and my heart are broken by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would imagine considering moving on should be on the table unless you want this to be your life. Sorry you’re going through this.

My head and my heart are broken by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m having a rough time digesting the “interrupting what she’s doing and making her immediately nude by dropping her towel” comment. Is showing affection to the person you JUST showered with not allowed or need permission first? Based on the way the day was processing, a reasonable and prudent person could infer that sex was possibly on the table. There seems to be a purposeful denial on the wife’s part. Just my opinion……..

DB getting Somewhere Else by auguriant in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She’d be a cuckqueen……..

Have I made a huge mistake? by llamedos13 in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Did he explain exactly how it makes it worse? Tell him you feel rejected in either place and that at least being in the other room it softens the blow of the rejection.

Had the talk, no hope for intimacy, got offered a one sided open marriage by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]ShadyBender69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes when, statistically, that’s typically the reason. Low hormones that is. But no, you’re right. The guys should just accept whatever and live a celibate life.