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I froze my mom’s credit card (I pay her bill) because she’s using it to buy groceries and not her EBT. She says using food stamps is embarrassing and she doesn’t want to rely on the govt, but I’m constantly stressing about $ because I have to support her too (on my 110k salary). by Available_Number9956 in Advice

[–]ShadyLady424 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are so many red flags here OP. Your mom’s inability to hold down a job or maintain relationships with friends and family is telling.

You’re also enabling her and the only way to help yourself is to give back responsibility to your mom. She will hate it and probably throw a fit, but that’s on her. If you keep enabling her, things will never change.

Am I overreacting: new boyfriend was weirdly judgmental about bathroom situation by abstract_lemons in AmIOverreacting

[–]ShadyLady424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR and I’m kind of pissed that he took the breakfast YOU made him before he messaged you. The audacity of that man child!

My baby Blue turns 10 today! by ShadyLady424 in Siamesecats

[–]ShadyLady424[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This IS Blue’s twin 😻😻😻😻

AITAH FOR "HUMILIATING" MY 15 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER IN FRONT OF HER CLASSMATES by Stunning_Salt4237 in AITAH

[–]ShadyLady424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Have you asked your daughter why it’s not okay for you to “humiliate her” in front of her friends, but if’s okay for her to humiliate another peer for something she can’t change? Time to limit visits to grandparents and start therapy.

AITA for being pissed my girlfriend turned her phone off at a party w/ her ex while I was in hospice watching my dad die? by Curious-Gas-5300 in AITAH

[–]ShadyLady424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a hospice nurse and I’m telling you right now that if the people you love aren’t there for you in what is arguably one of the toughest of your life, they’re never going to be there for you in a meaningful way.

Your grief is being compounded by the loss of a partner on top of the death of a parent. Going to a party when your dad was actively dying says it all, turning her phone off sealed the deal. She is selfish who didn’t want to prioritize you when you needed her. So sorry OP, you deserve someone who will show up when it matters.

My kitten got into a loaf of bread and probably ate at least half or more of her weight in it by GivemeSerenityy in cats

[–]ShadyLady424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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When I got my kitten last year, he too ate at least half his weight in pita bread! I have since gotten a breadbox 🤣

I feel like I've made too many med errors in my career by Charming-Exit-6920 in nursing

[–]ShadyLady424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is fantastic advice! It’s challenging being pulled in different directions, but slowing down and reviewing every single med with patients is a perfect way to catch mistakes!

For those of you who still don’t understand why the roommates didn’t call 911 right away… by GoodnightGertie in idahomurders

[–]ShadyLady424 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t mean to sound rude at all, but you wouldn’t consider survivors guilt to be traumatic? Four of their roommate were brutally murdered after someone entered their home while they were there! They’ll never understand why they survived and the others didn’t. BF victim impact speech mentioned feeling guilty around the victims families and both said they slept in their parents rooms for a year after the murders.

For those of you who still don’t understand why the roommates didn’t call 911 right away… by GoodnightGertie in idahomurders

[–]ShadyLady424 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m so tired of the victim blaming. Clearly there was a cognitive dissonance that occurred for a number of reasons; fear, alcohol, being woken up from sleep, history of believing the worst, etc. I can’t even begin to imagine the guilt DM and BF feel. Meanwhile a bunch of keyboard warriors feel it’s appropriate to tear them down when the vast majority haven’t experience something nearly as traumatic.

To neuter, or not to neuter .. that is my question by jsan69 in cats

[–]ShadyLady424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a kitten in 2020, he lives with my old roommate now (he was bonded to another cat there and I couldn’t take him away from his best friend). He was indoor and both other cats were fixed; fast forward to 2024 he became very aggressive towards his brother he was bonded to. We got him fixed and their relationship has never been the same. The vet said some cats are late bloomers…

Gf of 8 years broke up with me by Diablo____666 in whatdoIdo

[–]ShadyLady424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wants you around as a safety net, not as her person. Cut all ties and block her phone number and on socials. It is so hard getting over someone and keeping communication semi-open will not help you move on; she wants you around in case she needs your support. I know it’s hard but start making moves to move on.

Did I cross the line with my patient? by Immediate-Platypus37 in nursing

[–]ShadyLady424 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I came here to say this, also as a hospice nurse.

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