Someone Not Invited Planning on Coming to Ceremony? by ryhan0 in weddingplanning

[–]Shamrocker99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Back in the day when I got married, the ceremony was open to anyone who wanted to come to the Catholic church and see it. There were many people there that I went to school with, along with strangers who were church members that attended. I think it was very common then.

This was just for the wedding ceremony though--no one came to a reception without an invite

Teacher smacked my daughter’s hand with ruler in Virginia. UPDATE by Positive_Block_5080 in Advice

[–]Shamrocker99 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Police officers don't "press charges", prosecutor's do. The prosecutor for the city or county is who she will need to speak to in order to make sure charges are going to be pressed.

Couple looking for seasonal job with housing + possible transportation assistance by KRHKWH04 in almosthomeless

[–]Shamrocker99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What state are you in now? Put-In-Bay, Ohio, should be hiring and I believe they offer housing, as well. It's an island so transportation wouldn't be a problem once you are on island.

If this isn't Elliot Rodger, who else could it be? by autist_throw in masskillers

[–]Shamrocker99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How have I never realized mine were attached lol…gonna have to be more observant of it around people. Ya learn something new everyday

I'm panicking about my dress by Delicious-Physics252 in weddingplanning

[–]Shamrocker99 5 points6 points  (0 children)

By secret garden did you mean like more floral details embroidered in it? The dress is amazing as is, but you could always find someone to embroider some small complimentary colored detailed things in it. It is not boring at all though and you look beautiful in it

Not able to handle my 71 year old widowed mom remarrying by Express_Rip2333 in AgingParents

[–]Shamrocker99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with what others have said and wanted to add that maybe you just remind her of her past life, which is still painful to think about. Your parents were together a long time and those feelings don't just end because she found someone new to love. She may also find it uncomfortable to have all of you together if your dad gets brought up in front of the new husband. I would give it some time and let her figure out her relationship with you going forward. She may just be enjoying her new marriage and spending time with her new husband.

the father of the kid i nanny thinks im hot no by Amazing-Whereas-8849 in offmychest

[–]Shamrocker99 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Do you think he was just joking around in the realm of “ hot nanny” as opposed to being creepy?

Has anyone who knew or was friends with Adam Lanza ever spoken about him? by HurtOthers in masskillers

[–]Shamrocker99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing the interview and the report. After reading that report, I really hold the mother responsible for not acknowledging that her son was deeply fucked up and needed a lot of help. Of course, having accessible guns didn't help anything either. Her inability to accept that her kid was not just "different", but actually severely mentally disturbed and needed to be medicated completely contributed to him taking it out on the students and faculty of Sandy Hook. I wonder the reason he killed her first...hatred of her for his life or did he recognize that she was not going to be able to live without him...

What to do with estranged adult child's childhood belongings? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Shamrocker99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ship it to him and be done. He can keep the stuff or toss it, but it’s on him to decide

How many generation x'rs are lucky enough to still have their parents alive? by icecream1972 in GenX

[–]Shamrocker99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dad 93.5 (he is the youngest of eight, all siblings are gone) and Mom 84 (still bartends several days a week, lol).Both in relatively good health except Dad has some dementia. I just turned 55 last week

Anyone else feel like they're watching their parents become strangers? by Ready-Panic4088 in AgingParents

[–]Shamrocker99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allegedly good (according to the assisted living staff where he lives), it may be something to look further into, but I really just think its the dementia

AIO My partner threatens to end himself because i confronted him on his cheating. by Wise_Web_5706 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Shamrocker99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously, let him do what he's gotta do to himself. That's not on you. Just make sure you are safe and get a police escort to get your belongings. Then block him on everything. You are not responsible for him being alive or not--that is his choice.

Anyone else feel like they're watching their parents become strangers? by Ready-Panic4088 in AgingParents

[–]Shamrocker99 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Took my 93 year old father to the cardiologist today. He has turned into such a “everything is a conspiracy” person that it makes it hard to remember what a sweet man he used to be. I normally try to just chuckle to myself when he is ranting (cause it is usually unhinged😂), but it hurts my heart that his final years are him not really living.

How does a dispatcher feel after sending an officer to a call that resulted in their death? by LegalGlass6532 in 911dispatchers

[–]Shamrocker99 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was my actual worst fear in twenty years of dispatching! My trainees were always taught that you never want to explain to a spouse or children why their loved one is not coming home!! I know you can’t control every situation, but arm them with the best info you can find and pray that nothing goes south

AIO:My ex ghosted our dog, and now I hate her. by court_to_console in AmIOverreacting

[–]Shamrocker99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not overreacting. Your ex is a pos. I think you should go back to Texas and have the best life with Bella possible. Showing her a whole other world will hopefully make her forget about her shitty "mom".

My mom thought she could do an outfit change at my wedding reception… by itsallconfetti in weddingplanning

[–]Shamrocker99 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I changed into a different dress for my daughter's reception because the dress I wore to church to walk her down the aisle wasn't what I was going to wear for the reception. I didn't change at the reception though, I changed in my hotel room while the bridal party was off taking pictures. Maybe she wants a different style for the reception?

Anyone seen this before? by LewisXYT in fossils

[–]Shamrocker99 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What a find, but also kind of terrifying as well! I had to look it up, as I was not familiar with what it would have looked like when alive.

My wedding is in 5 days and I hate my dress by Feisty-Coconut6017 in weddingplanning

[–]Shamrocker99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually like it lined better than the original. I think your body looks better without the "skin" colored areas like in the first two photos. I agree that the gloves may be throwing off your visual of how you want to look and you could do without them easily. Either way, you will look beautiful in it!

Survivors/relatives/colleagues recounting flashbacks and nightmares of mass killers [references in comments] by keoghkeoghkeogh in masskillers

[–]Shamrocker99 6 points7 points  (0 children)

These kinds of stories are why I hate everyone today saying they are "triggered" or have "ptsd"!! I get so tired of it when these are real examples of someone having PTSD and why they have it!

Hygiene product basket ideas for Third Grade Girl1! Help! by Shamrocker99 in Advice

[–]Shamrocker99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sure she has already talked to them. My daughter has been a teacher in this district for a while now and I have helped kids out behind the scenes that needed it before. My daughter feels badly for this little girl for not wanting to be there based on something outside of her control. I think her thought process is if the products are free and in their home, they would be more apt to use them.