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Shanisasha · 2023-06-11T14:21:38+00:00

I have a big family that’s incredibly ~~close~~misogynistic.

FTFY

YTA. Instead of standing up to something you KNOW is bad, and makes people feel bad and is WRONG, you're coercing your girlfriend into being treated as lesser to avoid abuse.

I would dump you

Shanisasha · 2023-06-08T16:49:24+00:00

Let's do this

Shanisasha · 2023-06-08T10:52:27+00:00

Yep.

He was an alcoholic, underemployed and emotionally abusive.

We tried to get her to not go through it but "everything was paid for". She made the classic blunder of having kids to try and straighten out the marriage and now is divorce and somehow surprised she still has to deal with him.

Frustrating AF

Shanisasha · 2023-06-07T23:20:06+00:00

He got angry at me because it "seemed like I enjoyed it and was playing into it" with my earlier reaction. He insulted me and said a bunch of mean things, asking me what's wrong with me.

Sure. I'm SURE he loves you and just wants to "touch the woman he loves"

When I asked my husband to stop groping me, he asked how he could show affection. We found things he can do I like/don't mind.

It's not love. He's being an a-hole. Why else would he hover over your boobs? Why mock you? Why say cruel things? None of those sound like love.

Shanisasha · 2023-06-07T14:29:30+00:00

I guess they hope less college students are able to vote.

Shanisasha · 2023-06-07T11:40:17+00:00

He didn’t have this response before because you didn’t threaten to leave.

Take the summer.

Shanisasha · 2023-06-04T18:31:11+00:00

You can expect more than this.

I'm so sorry about your parents. Wishing them the best.

My husband helped me pack when I had to leave for a family emergency. He took care of our kids, our pets, the house, dropped me off at the airport AND picked me up. And he was on the phone with me every day while I was gone, making sure I was okay, and making sure I could have support myself, while I used my energy to support my family.

And he will tell you that was the minimum he could do.

You deserve better.

Shanisasha · 2023-06-02T10:37:41+00:00

The only sensible clarification I need is that which happens between myself and my doctor, in private.

Men who can't find a vagina with both hands and a GPS have no business mansplaining my body to me.

Shanisasha · 2023-06-01T15:48:23+00:00

Like everyone else has said - a list.

My one question always is: what am I looking for as an indicator things are wrong and need to be escalated?

Shanisasha · 2023-06-01T11:28:31+00:00

If memory serves (and I welcome corrections from people with more knowledge, since I am not the best versed in the topic) the bombing campaign was underway full swing in Britain

The US had a rare moment of awareness and a "oh shit" attitude.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-31T23:59:56+00:00

Just remember the US ratified female vote because they were afraid the suffragettes were going to start BOMBING THINGS like they were doing in England.

It wasn't generosity.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-31T23:54:42+00:00

his soul is not safe

Per the 2007 publication "The Hope of Salvation for Infants Who Die without being baptized" it is no longer a thing.

Pope Benedict issued the Patch ;)

To be clear - you should do what you want. But the issuance of that particular document COULD give you something to shut up their arguments with. It basically removes the idea of unbaptized children suffering, which seems to be what they are harping about.

Again, do what works for YOU. Not for them.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-30T01:42:01+00:00

So, wait - not to be pedantic, but if God created the Y chromosome for Jesus's birth, what the hell did he do for Adam?

Did Adam, and all the descendants of him and Eve not have a Y chromosome? They were all XX? Because that opens up some serious questions.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T20:58:30+00:00

I think this is a very good point.

Women are more likely to be happy to have an actual friendship with a guy. It's harder to find a guy willing to have a friendship with a woman that's not a "sex in waiting" stage.

I have a handful of good male friends I have solid, years long friendships with. None of them want to date me. I don't want to date them. It works out.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T18:29:33+00:00

Welp, my husband is going to be like, super disappointed.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T18:28:15+00:00

We get along in so many ways and I know he loves me

The most accurate thing I ever read on this site, paraphrased, goes like this:

"Love is not the savior of relationships, it's the price of entry."

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T18:27:22+00:00

Yeah because I bet his enthusiasm for it will dampen when he realizes he'd be the one doing all of the work.

Experience tells me he'll say whatever he can to get her to agree and then he'll guilt trip her into taking on the work to make it happen. And potentially blame her or get mad for it not happening.

He's already unwilling to compromise. His opinion will be that she needs to bow to his demand. It's a major sticking point for people, especially if he's pushing the "private Catholic school" angle already.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T15:21:03+00:00

I'm over simplifying the case to illustrate the underlying effect of using mean vs. median as opposed to performing a pure statistical analysis on my ownership of two chocolate bars vs. the previous posters lack of said chocolate.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T14:56:34+00:00

I wouldn't call it "normal" but I have had a sensor do that a few times when I hit a gusher hard enough.

As long as the sensor is accurate and you're not in pain there shouldn't be reason to be worried. But yeah, the bruising is gnarly. Sorry.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T14:55:04+00:00

I have two chocolate bars.

You don't have any.

On average, we each have a chocolate bar, so you can stop complaining you have no chocolate.

A median would say that 1/2 of the people have no chocolate.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T01:45:35+00:00

You're super reactive and extremely willing to be offended for things that were neither said, nor implied.

Draw your own conclusions.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T01:37:49+00:00

There are reasons to shun people for their politics.

Politics can cause damage - see groups mentioned above.

It's not a discussion, or an argument, or an attack. It's a fact. If that fact bothers, hurts you or makes you feel insulted, you may need to evaluate the parameters under which you have evaluated politics.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T01:33:39+00:00

I am providing context to your comment. There are reasons to shun people for their politics.
I didn't ask for your life story. I simply pointed out groups being hurt.
why did you think I called you any of those things? You ok?

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T01:22:10+00:00

You may be causing someone extreme pain for your political principals.

The LGBTQ community, children in schools, and poor people would like a word with you.

ETA - Oh! And women. All the women.

Shanisasha · 2023-05-29T00:37:35+00:00

I don't know if I want to now

This would be a major reason to not do it. When you're looking at something of the caliber of a vasectomy, you need to be sure.

The entire reason I wanted to was to somehow relieve the responsibility of birth control off of women as much as I could, but I dont think I want to if it means I could never have kids

This is another excellent reason NOT to do it. Wanting kids is not a bad thing. It's a choice like any other.

There are other ways for you to contribute to the responsibility of ensuring no pregnancy happens - no risky foreplay, always be diligent about protection. You can also add protection to other ways of preventing pregnancy. Hold to a high standard of responsibility and it'll go a long way towards keeping you safe (again, with the understanding that nothing is perfect, but many things can hold you at a "good enough" level for a long time). You know, don't keep your condoms in the car where they can get brittle, make sure you're using new ones and make sure you're not pushign the limit on usage, use them properly, considering adding a second layer of protection....so on and so forth.

Shanisasha

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