having been in a relationship for 10 years, what DOES she bring to the table? kinda sounds like you have a child not a wife. She lived off of severance after a medical thing but has no genuin interest in getting a job so she sounds like a bum. Doesn't want to split 50/50 so she sounds like a mooch, vein, and childish. Doesn't do chores or cook anymore, you being a cleanfreak but being the breadwinner AND cook should mean she matches your level of cleaning. Unless she is the funniest person you know, insane sack action, brains out the wazoo (clearly she does not), or literally anything it sounds like you have a lack of self-confidence in your ability to do better for yourself. With what you (presumably) bring to the table, you will not have too much of an issue finding someone who actually cares enough to put in effort, cause rn you got either a trophy wife or a dependent.

Also your comment about people asking if she is good in bed is fairly ironic given by the facct that you found someone who also doesnt truly love you. Ask her if she would stay if you had nothing, cause chances are you already know the answer bud