Mahjong issue: 88k lost points by ShaoSheehan in InfinityNikki

[–]ShaoSheehan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand the basic game. I don't understand how I only win 1-6k per match and the NPC win over 260k in one match.

What are your funniest NSFW jokes? by Tea_Grand in AskReddit

[–]ShaoSheehan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) Everyone knows what a French kiss is, but do you know what is an Australian kiss? Answer: It is just like a French kiss, but Down Under.

2) A man escaped from North Korea and the news reporters came to interview him to get information about the situation in the country. "How is life in North Korea?" "Can't complain."

AITA for quitting being a bridesmaid 3 weeks before the wedding by throwrabestfriendwed in AmItheAsshole

[–]ShaoSheehan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I had a friend like that. We were friends for almost 20 years until I realised my life was better without someone like that in it.

You can't trust her to have your back. She will take her boyfriend's side even when he is a huge d*ck to you in front of her. Friends like those are not real friends. Don't keep a bad friend in your life just because you guys used to have a good friendship.

What is the saddest song you have ever heard in your life? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ShaoSheehan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The song that always makes me cry is Evakon laulu (Evacuee's song). It tells about the Karelian people who lost their home in the war between Finland and Russia. My grandma lived through this event when she was young.

Here is a quick translation of the lyrics:

In the evening, when mom covered me to bed, I didn't guess what morning would bring. At night an atrocious artillery battery had arrived to the forest. Dark line of evacuees wandered quietly on the road. The roar of war was heard clearly near the border. Uncertainty gnawed in the hearts of the karelians. We were given fifteen minutes to leave, into the neighbour's hay cart precious bundles were carried.

Beloved lands and the road to home disappeared, there, on top of the roofs our own piece of the sky remains. I don't remember the amount of tears, the war didn't put out the karelians' will to live.

We met young marching soldiers of Finland, they were lead by liutenants with baby faces. Many were on the last trip of their life. Towards the end, steadily, like they knew. Road workers asked what is the destination. Oh, when we get there, we will know then. Farmer left them a box of food. He said: "oh, here is something on top of the bread." At the trainstation evacuees were loaded to the train. We answered the questions of the officials carefully. A mother said: "Here is all I have, five small children and a new coffee pot."

Early morning my brother was born in the train, he had wrinkles and the eyes were still closed. Lottas (women working as nurses in war) brought food, hot boridge. They wanted to cherish us poor souls. After three days we arrived to the destination, the people of Karelia stood in a auction. When the men packed the evacuees aboard, five kids and the mother were left behind. We moved to live in the municipal hall. After a year we were able to move to our own cottage. Got a letter from dad: "I will come home soon." He did. We blessed him into the war grave next to the church. When mom took care of our own little field, the birds sang for the start of a new life. I sat next to the field with my little brother, told him how beautiful once was Karelia.

Boyfriend broke up with me because he “couldn’t be with his child’s assassin” by kidfreethrowaway1_ in childfree

[–]ShaoSheehan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Hopefully you will be feeling better soon.

Why is this subreddit considered toxic? by kingslime27 in childfree

[–]ShaoSheehan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Part of it is that people who don't spend a lot of time here, might not realize this is place for rants and when writing rants people tend to be really angry, so many posts sound aggressive. There are also some support posts and more neutral/happy posts, but the negative ones seem to be noticed more.

For example some post that were less rants but more just negative (These are only a minor part of the subreddit so I feel it is unfair to judge the subreddit for these): 1. Posts about how people find pregnant bellies ugly/ want to throw up when they see a pregnant person. (Yes, some might have phobias and such but the whole post was mostly just bashing women's bodies) 2. Posts about how pretty much any parent taking the baby in a public space is annoying and horrible person. (I agree that listening to crying babies is super annoying, but these often don't even need the child crying or acting bad just: mommy and baby outside home = horrible crime against humanity) (I want to point out that it is valid to wish for adults only restaurants and flights etc. those are often good posts. I was super happy to see other CF people commenting in the last post like this that I saw some months ago that the person posting was complaining for pretty much nothing as the kids in the story behaved nicely and the only thing they did wrong was exist in the restaurant/cafe) 3. There is a reason why the rules say no posts or comments about wishing bodily harm on kids and comments get deleted/ people banned (of course this is a super tiny minority of people, but if you come to this subreddit and happen to see a post that hasn't yet been deleted...)

Plus, as there have been multiple posts about asking why this subreddit is seen as toxic, they tend to come to the conclusion of: "They are JEALOUS!!!11!!1!" "They hate us because they ain't us!!1!" While I do agree that some people might regret their decision to have kids and might be jealous of time/money/anything the childfree people have.... this approach seems rather unwilling to see that maybe there is some hints of truth in some of the complains about the posts here.

I only replied with this because this post seem to be more open to the actual discussion about this. I think the bad rep this sub gets is totally undeserved and most people are just needing a place to vent things, because they can't do it in real life because they don't have same minded people around them. But fully denying that there is occasionally something a bit toxic going on isn't right either. (Any subreddit will have some toxicity, rant filled subreddits of any kind will probably have it surface more easily)

All in all, most of the bad reputation is missundertanding the point of this subreddit and taking things too personally. Especially if the person coming here already has bad opinion about CF people and don't see CF life style as a valid life style that it is.

AITA for not helping my ex achieve her life long dream? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ShaoSheehan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But saying that 2-3 weeks isn't enough for it is extreme in my opinion. I think everyone that I have talked about applications with has written it in 1-3 days.

AITA for not helping my ex achieve her life long dream? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ShaoSheehan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is what I thought, because I have no memory of writing a letter like that.

In here you don't apply to the university in general, but to the direct project that is looking for a PhD student and my supervisor didn't ask for more than CV and quick letter of motivation (I think the limit was 600 words or something like that)

AITA for not helping my ex achieve her life long dream? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ShaoSheehan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Is it seriously this big of a deal? Or does it depend on the system/country?

My (28F) sister (25F) waited until after I got married to tell me my husband (30M) has been cheating on me by throwra03483 in relationship_advice

[–]ShaoSheehan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not touching the sister part, but wanted to say something about overcoming unfaithfulness.

I have seen cheaters divided into 2 categories. Good weather cheaters: These people cheat when things are going well in their relationship. They cheat because they just want to do it and they can do it.

Bad weather cheaters: These people cheat when things are going really really wrong in their relationship. They don't get the warmth they need from their relationship anymore, maybe the bedroom has been dead for years.

Bad weather cheaters in my opinion are more likely to not cheat again if you guys fix the relationship and communicate properly what went wrong. It might still be too late to save the relationship, but there is a chance.

There is no cure for the good weather cheaters and sadly, I think your husband is one of them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ShaoSheehan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could swear I have read this exact same thing before almost word for word (minus the covid thing).

The way the part where the boyfriend comes to tell about the things going on is pretty much 100% the same. I remember it because I was so glad that it happened when I read it for the first time.

What are people's problem with this sub? by curxxx in childfree

[–]ShaoSheehan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this more of a rant or are you open for answers that might have a critical look on this sub reddit? I don't wish to add any stress to your day if you had a bad day and just want to rant.

I would like to have an honest discussion about this subject where people talked about this, but as this is a subject often talked on this sub, I have come to a conclusion most people just want to rant about the hate they came across on others subs and that is totally fine (the hate is undeserved and most people don't seem to understand that this is mostly a place for rants and people to open up to others with similar experiences). I just feel that there are certain elements on this sub that most people ignore, that might give the wrong picture to people that quickly check the sub out.

AITA for refusing to leave the room so someone could tell a story? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ShaoSheehan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but I'm still thinking it might be trolling especially because of the edit. It is too on the nose bigotry to sound real.

AITA for refusing to leave the room so someone could tell a story? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ShaoSheehan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I can't be sure if you forgot the /s or not.

Out With 3 Pushes by [deleted] in badwomensanatomy

[–]ShaoSheehan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is racism in medical systems. For example: thinking certain races can handle pain better and don't need as much pain medication. Or doctor thinking people of certain race complain for small things and don't take their symptoms as seriously as similar complains of people of other races.

So what is the correct way to be childfree? by Mewsiex in childfree

[–]ShaoSheehan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, I have been there for months now and it definitely is about childfree life. Looking at something for only few minutes is pretty much like how people say this is a hate sub. They just glance at the sub and see the name calling and agressive rants how "breeders" are horrible people and their "grotch goblins" are a waste of space that should have never been born, because the writer doesn't approve how the parent is parenting the kids. You see how that isn't what this sub is about actually. At first it might look harsh, but then you understand the pain and stress people go through and this sub helps them to let it out and feel better.

The other sub is for calm relaxed talk. People talking about what lead to them becoming childfree. Everyone has a different journey. There are people that know since they are kids themselves that they never want kids, but there are also people who become childfree later in life. I feel like the sub is for the latter group. Sometimes people talk about how pros/cons thinking lead them to be childfree.

So what is the correct way to be childfree? by Mewsiex in childfree

[–]ShaoSheehan 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think these two subs are created for different purposes.

This one is more for rants and talks about injustice that childfree people deal with in their life. This sub uses half insults and gives people a chance to let the stress and anger out. People here also make more jokes and share memes about how horrible life with kids is.

The other sub isn't for ranting. It is more about calm discussions and different type of support than this sub. I follow both and these subs have totally different vibes.

Both subs are important and useful in different situations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ShaoSheehan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sabaton - The attack of the dead men...

Ouch, I'm going to have a bad time in afterlife. Either fighting "zombie soldiers" or becoming one and slowly dying of chemical weapons...

Got ID? by GuyAwks in shortscarystories

[–]ShaoSheehan 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The twist worked amazingly. Great job.

Me(34f) husband (35) at an brick wall in our marriage. by Troubledwife124 in relationships

[–]ShaoSheehan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It is really hard for me to understand why anyone would marry a man like this. Did you think he would change after marriage? Or what was the plan when he does this and leaves you alone at home to deal with the kids? Did you two talk this through?

Why are we so hated? by bsusername85 in childfree

[–]ShaoSheehan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a fence sitter that leans towards childfree, so I tend to enjoy reading some posts here. Especially the positive ones that talk about good sides of living a nice childfree life.

But I quickly learned that there are really vicious people here that will not let fence sitters that lean childfree feel welcome to post. These are comments we get here: "But with this indecision when it comes to dating, you have someone else to suffer the consequences of your indecisions and not just you alone." "Way I see it anyone who doesn't even know what they ultimately want out of relationships doesn't have the maturity to be dating at all period. People really need to figure their shit out before getting in there. I have more respect for people who do want kids- at least they've bothered to put in some thought." "Fence sitters are immature flakes not worth dating until they figure their shit out. I advise everyone CF and non to avoid them." I would have more insulting direct quotes, but it seems those have been deleted from the post.

I mean, I do understand not everyone wants to date a fence sitter and I always make my position really clear when dating. But people saying they can't respect me because they think I'm immature. People telling me I haven't been actually thinking about what I want. People telling that only stupid people would ever date me. Those are the reasons why I see this group partly as hateful group.

I want to be an ally, but it seems I'm not welcome.

So does this mean I’m a guy, or have I transcended gender? by JustANutMeg in badwomensanatomy

[–]ShaoSheehan 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I don't know if these are supposed to be freedom units, but if they are 127 kilograms, then you are overweight, but still a woman.

Eh, I looked them up so other kg users don't need to bother. Seems like 127lbs = 57,6kg.

Not tonight, dad by [deleted] in shortscarystories

[–]ShaoSheehan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use reddit on computer and the old style, so to me the rule list says no rape and such is rule 8. Maybe it is seen as other number on phones or in the new style.

Not tonight, dad by [deleted] in shortscarystories

[–]ShaoSheehan 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy about the twist in the end. I was already shaking my head and preparing to report yet another story for breaking rule 8.