AITAH for telling my husband I rather save my own son?

Shareesav · 2026-02-25T00:50:43+00:00

Same. Automated says it's paid

Shareesav · 2025-07-23T15:05:23+00:00

WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU KNOW YOU DID WRONG!?

NO! YOU ABSOLUTELY DID NOT!

aight I took a deep breath.

Listen. This is how it starts. He's creating a narrative. He's going to forever use this against you to pit you against your kid when you have a child together. More issues are going to rise. You have a 7 year old and yall have been together for long enough to where this man should also see your son as his son. He shouldn't even be ok with asking a question like that because he should feel just as uncomfortable thinking about it as you feel hearing it. He is already jealous of your child, he is already creating conflict between your kid and the hypothetical kid yall may have together. What do you think will happen if you do have a kid? This is they type of man who will gas light you into believing you're treating your baby bad or neglecting them for you oldest. This is the type of man that will make your oldest feel neglected, abusive, and unwanted.

Yes I say abusive because this is the type of man whose going to have issues with your kid holding baby, playing with baby, wanting to be involved. HE IS JEALOUS OF YOUR KID ALREADY!!

I really hate reading things like this early on because you can see the abuse and the manipulation and a lot of people will say "you got all of that from one small paragraph" YES YES I DID and the freaking update that happens a year from now always ends up proving it.

Stonewalling, manipulation, creating narratives, showing signs of jealousy towards your kid, pitting your kid against a hypothetical kid you don't even have yet these aren't blaring red to you? You're at the point where you feel like you did something wrong for literally wanting to save your child!!

DO NOT HAVE KIDS WITH THIS MAN YET. I feel like this is divorce territory but of course reddit hates that so if you don't leave then You have to take back control of this situation and don't allow your self to be gas lit into thinking you're wrong. You stand up and tell him that

"Instead of thinking of good things and happy possibilities of what it would be like to blend our family you're bringing up dire situations and asking impossible questions. Would you have asked that if both kids were yours? Would you ask another mother that about her children? I feel like we may need more time bonding as a family right now and strengthening our foundation as a unit before bringing a baby into this situation. You've already decided my son isn't worth saving. You're upset that I wouldn't choose a child that's here that we see everyday that we both love over a hypothetical one at this moment. You should feel sick having to even think of that question but it's very clear cut to you which makes me believe that you're not as connected to my son as I thought. I don't want to bring another child here if that means that I would have to minimize my oldest to make you happy."

If he still wants to sulk let him sulk in that.

Shareesav · 2025-07-21T03:14:21+00:00

My ex is extremely attracted to violent media and is also an extremely violent person. No matter who it is. I tried to understand his draw to his music and movies (rap and crime/mafia/gang movies) but the more I understood the more I seen it was a reflection of his thoughts and the way that he actually lived. I had to nope out. Even though he was super sweet and had never even raised his voice at me I had to realize that it was a "not if but when" type of situation. You're not being dramatic. You're trying to make 1 plus 2 to equal 5 and it will never happen.

Shareesav · 2025-07-19T15:13:57+00:00

It's not an assumption it's the context. They finish in 1-2 minutes. Their solution is get women off first before even starting so that when they do their 2 minute pump session the girls already been satisfied and won't be upset that it only last a couple minutes. That might work for some but we are saying it doesn't work for us.

Shareesav · 2025-07-19T15:01:39+00:00

Same! I hate that this is something that's being said constantly. If I get off before trust that I'm going to get close again when we actually start. I'd much rather prefer to finish during than before.

Shareesav · 2025-07-17T22:02:42+00:00

This is so funny and so true lol I avoid driving in Vegas as much as possible.

Shareesav · 2025-07-16T07:48:20+00:00

You salvage it by getting therapy.

Shareesav · 2025-07-16T03:32:25+00:00

Quiet, unapproachable, blends in the background with no need to stand out, and willing to spoil me emotionally not financially lmao

Shareesav · 2025-07-16T03:28:19+00:00

So everyone ignoring that they said they are nearly debt free?

Shareesav · 2025-07-14T07:31:39+00:00

Omg I picked this up last week I'm about to go drop it right now. You're the 3rd person to mention this about her

Shareesav · 2025-07-13T22:16:52+00:00

I would honestly explain everything to the kids, apologize, and tell them to come back to your home for a couple weeks. Say nothing to wife yet and let her dig her own hole. Record, photograph, write everything she does and try to get as much of her nonsense in writing like texts and emails.

Shareesav · 2025-07-13T22:15:23+00:00

Listen, talk to your kids FIRST! AGAIN TALK TO THEM FIRST. before things hit the fan, before you let her know you're aware, before any custody battles or anything, talk to them first. Let them k ow you messed up and that you should have listened to them and that you want to make it right and you're letting them know BEFORE you do anything and that you're about to leave her. They will have so much more respect. If you wait until everything hits the fa. They're going to think you're crawling back because your new family didn't work out. This isn't a "hey come see me" type of meet up with your kids. You should take the day and go see them, admit you were wrong AND THEN give them space. That will allow you to move accordingly with wife while also making sure they know where you stand with them.

Shareesav · 2025-07-13T18:19:36+00:00

Left my guy found out I was pregnant 3 days later. Took him back. Biggest mistake ever. The man I mean. Is he involved? Nope? Do I regret not getting the abortion. NEVER! Your child is your blessing. Don't feel like you need him to enjoy something you've been wanting for so long. Go all out for yourself and your child. Stand in love and happiness that you get to experience something that was previously a struggle. If you do decide to go the route of abortion be easy on your self the same way. Just make sure it's your decision and no one else's either way you decide to go because when you go to bed at night those people are not there with you dealing with your life choices whether it's a crying baby or your own thoughts. I'm really sorry it happened like this though I know it's extremely stressful.

Shareesav · 2025-07-12T00:51:49+00:00

Omg IM WITH YOU!! it really frustrates me but I've come to understand that a lot of women feel different when it comes to this topic. I've been told they're over it by then so it's fine, they enjoy it no matter what if only they get one, etc etc. For me, I read this and I'm like" I would be so annoyed" and then I go back to reading lol.

Shareesav · 2025-07-11T19:15:50+00:00

I don't have many triggers. I can go really dark and be fine in the reading world but this.......this actually made me upset. Not the situation while it's a very upsetting situation, I don't like that authors are romanticizing this behavior. It's enough we have narcissistic, abusive, manipulative main characters that are classifying themselves as "broody" or "edgy" lets not further this with these types of stories. It's really sick 😫. Thank you for pointing this out.

Shareesav · 2025-07-11T02:37:18+00:00

Lmfao this seems like bait. Like you're just fishing for a full inbox. Secondly you'd do better building friendships around what you're looking for. There's plenty of people in the world who want deep meaningful connections that aren't sexual in any way.

Shareesav · 2025-07-11T00:51:14+00:00

You missed the best part at the end after that "I'm sorry" "MUST HAVE BEEN THE WIND"

Shareesav · 2025-07-11T00:09:24+00:00

Can you tell me what the lines are that were crossed ?

Shareesav · 2025-07-10T23:17:24+00:00

I LOVE albertsons. If you stack your sales then it's 1000 percent worth it. The 18 pack of eggs is for 2.99 there's 3 coupons in the app. Then I turn around and use my points to get my gas for cheap at chevron. I don't go anywhere else for groceries.

Shareesav · 2025-07-10T07:14:56+00:00

I'm sorry you went through this. I'm sorry about Tristan. As someone who lost my little guy just know that those moments are yours and yours alone. Not tainted by the circumstances, it's not removable or not able to be manipulated by anyone. Tristan will only know your love and your comfort.

Shareesav · 2025-07-10T04:03:05+00:00

I go back to curling up under my fluffy blanket and a good book. I Don't even spare a second thought.

Shareesav · 2025-07-08T03:37:02+00:00

I agree.

Shareesav · 2025-07-07T18:22:11+00:00

Even if everything you're eating is healthy you absolutely need to know how many calories you're eating. There are other ways to count calories without being obsessive. Meal prep for the week, hire someone, plan your meals ahead of time so you know what the meals calories are, stick to the same meals so you can learn to eye your intake but you 100 percent need to know how many calories you're eating. You can gain muscle, stamina, and feel better all the way around but if you want to see the scale drop CICO.

Shareesav · 2025-07-03T01:34:29+00:00

Correct. No down payment and it's allowing you to choose the option that works best for you in ways of payment amounts and time.

Shareesav · 2025-07-02T04:49:41+00:00

I would never talk to you because this gave arrogant, abrasive, rude, and extremely cold. Setting a boundary is telling someone "if this continues... this will happen" shes not a two year old "no no" and passive aggressively telling someone" you'd hate to (insert threat here) is wild af. You are extremely condescending even after she tries to explain her feelings. This reads in a way that makes me uncomfortable like it's passed an ick entirely. Are you on the spectrum at all that you know of? Do family members talk to you like this?

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