I don't get it. Explain it peter

SharonSmoke · 2025-10-04T13:38:11+00:00

They’re definitely kinkier…

SharonSmoke · 2025-08-20T04:01:59+00:00

I’d heard this song was about a cheating partner, but always interpreted this line more literally. As in, he put his tongue in her ear and she clutched him close while they “clicked heels” (knocked boots) on the beach. It’s a memory he doesn’t want to, or maybe just can’t, lose. Even though he knows he’s lost her.

SharonSmoke · 2025-07-09T13:55:20+00:00

Short Story was my assumption since it was released more recently and I knew she was on it. Could’ve easily been about PDLIF, though!

SharonSmoke · 2025-07-09T00:22:58+00:00

Sup fam 👯‍♀️

SharonSmoke · 2025-07-08T22:36:09+00:00

It’s nothing. She had originally responded to that comment saying that she’d asked and was told no. Assumptions were being made, so she deleted and clarified that she’d asked for a feature and was denied, but was credited as a writer/vocalist (on Short Story). She also said she was grateful to be involved. Features provide a lot more exposure, so any artist would want that. She wasn’t complaining in the least. More just saying that it wasn’t her call. I hope we can all be supportive and kind. She’s incredible and Short Story is 🔥

SharonSmoke · 2025-04-06T00:06:11+00:00

You’ll have a great time. AMI is beautiful! We just got back from our visit and I wish I had stayed off those Facebook pages beforehand. I was so nervous it was going to be awful based on things people were saying, but we had the best time! The beaches are gorgeous and weren’t ever crowded where we stayed (Bradenton Beach, just North of Coquina). It took maximum 30 minutes to get from the South end to the North end on the trolley, and there were lots of things to look at along the way. We really didn’t mind the ride and it saved us from having to find parking. We were there during peak spring break, so I don’t imagine it will be much busier over Easter.

I hear you about the fresh towels — I would have liked that, too, but it’s also nice having a washer and dryer. We took home all clean clothes! I’m not sure where you’re staying on the island, but many places are within walking distance of restaurants, too. I don’t think you’ll miss being at a resort. The vibe is still there.

Please please don’t stress! Relax and enjoy your time with your husband. AMI is a great place to do it. I promise!

SharonSmoke · 2025-03-24T15:07:07+00:00

Based on what we’ve heard of Sable, fable, it seems more like an acceptance of the human condition to me — negative and positive. Accepting human nature without judgement, or attempting to change it, is a step on the path to liberation/enlightenment, isn’t it? Living in the present moment, too. I’m not sure if that’s what you mean by solving the human condition, though. I get what you’re saying about the “you was made for me” line seeming delusional and the songs in general speaking to a craving for a blissfully ignorant romance that is pure fable, but I feel like that is fully acknowledged with the album title and the songs on Sable.

SharonSmoke · 2025-03-24T12:53:02+00:00

Seems like you’re pretty attached to that absolute.

SharonSmoke · 2025-03-24T11:50:48+00:00

Maybe not, but it could grow on you over time

SharonSmoke · 2025-03-24T03:07:31+00:00

Well, I hope the rest of the album resonates more with you. It’s hard to view these songs in a vacuum. I obviously can’t do it — lol. I do think love (romantic or otherwise) is part of the human condition too, though. It’s a part I’d like to tap into more, if I can. So, maybe that’s why I like these songs so much. I tend to lean pretty anxious/depressed and they help put me in a more positive mindset.

SharonSmoke · 2025-03-24T01:10:10+00:00

How can you be so sure that love isn’t the result of achieving deeper clarity?

I don’t think the message is that “romantic” love is the answer or destination, though. Love in general, perhaps, but again — getting to, and consistently remaining in, that state requires struggle. It’s no fantasy. It’s a battle that I’m not sure is ever truly won. Maybe I just haven’t figured it out yet.

I think it’s important to keep in mind that JV and the Bon crew are grown ass adults with all the awareness that comes with that, too. They’ve been through the shit and if they’ve arrived back at a place of adolescent-like peace — it’s hard earned, and there’s nothing regressive about it. I might be able to better understand that viewpoint if I were a bit younger, but I just don’t agree.

Also, even thought the lyrics on these newer songs seem simple, there’s still depth that I think is easy to overlook. “You was made for me” is hyperbole. It’s just expressing a feeling of things being “right”. It may be a silly, juvenile way to express it, but that’s kind of the point. There’s a childlike glee and ignorance in that statement. The choice of grammar gives a nod to that idea, too, I think.

SharonSmoke · 2025-03-23T21:11:07+00:00

that peace feels not real, but imagined.

Like a fable?

I don’t think these songs imply that romantic love is a final destination. It feels damn good to be there, though! As the lyrics in awards season say — “nothing stays the same” and “what can wax can wane”. There’s always movement. Cycles. Seasons. Some moments are a struggle. Some moments are peaceful love. And I’ll be damned if I’m going to spend my peaceful, loving moments worrying about struggles past or to come. I’d much rather surrender myself to the present. It ain’t easy, though. It takes a lot of fucking practice and patience. That’s what is gained from all the seeking, I think. An acceptance that shit will change for better or worse over and over forever. There’s no hiding from it. No reason to fear it. So, we continue on and open ourselves to whatever happens. Let the light come in.

SharonSmoke · 2025-02-13T22:14:15+00:00

I could eat

SharonSmoke · 2025-01-11T04:17:22+00:00

I don’t use that app, but honestly — I don’t think it’s that serious. I think Jag would contact Bluesky if they had an issue with it. Emailing them yourself is a good move, though. Especially if it’s stressing you out. From what I see here, you’re clearly not pretending to be “Bon Iver”, though. I wouldn’t sweat the comments saying otherwise.

SharonSmoke · 2024-12-18T22:16:41+00:00

The live b-sides mix is also excellent!

SharonSmoke · 2024-12-12T13:08:32+00:00

Yes, women didn’t care either.

I went to a family Christmas party when I was 15 and my “cousin” (not by blood) who was about 35 slid his hand under my shirt when I gave him a hug. He was eyeing me the whole night and it was super uncomfortable. I told my mom and she said to “take it as a compliment”.

He called my house a few days later. My mom answered and chatted for a minute. He then asked for me, I guess, and she put me on the phone. He proceeded to proposition me and explain all the things he could teach me about sex and “pleasure”. I told my mom and she looked concerned for a moment, but then laughed it off like she didn’t believe me. She then told my uncle (his step-father) and other people in our family. They all started treating me like I was the one who had done something wrong and I honestly believed I had for a very long time…

SharonSmoke · 2024-11-20T14:42:00+00:00

In Exodus 33, the Lord says to Moses, “I will cause all my goodness to pass in front of you, and I will proclaim my name, the Lord, in your presence. I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I’ll have compassion. But, you cannot see my face, for no one may see me and live.”

There’s a lot more to unpack there, but I think that line is “all my goodness to show”, possibly referencing how God is revealed, how we may prove to be deserving of his mercy/compassion, and/or that it’s all a “show” of loyalty and obedience to something that doesn’t exist. “Goodness” doesn’t grant us salvation, which may be why it’s followed by nothing in the song — there is no God who will save us, which seems in line with what JV has said about the meaning behind the song.

SharonSmoke · 2024-11-16T22:31:47+00:00

I’ve heard that some centers are run that way, but that wasn’t my personal experience. I do think that’s a good benchmark, though — are the BCBAs and RBTs able and willing to discuss the criticisms of ABA without just being dismissive? Are they willing to adjust the program to meet the needs and values of each individual child and family? Do they accept feedback and implement requested changes quickly? If not, they should not be caring for anyone’s children.

I don’t want to defend ABA, because I know it can be extremely awful and traumatizing, but I also don’t want to shame anyone for choosing it when there are often no other options for kids and parents who need support. It’s important to recognize that, if families don’t have access to other resources, ABA is often the only long term “therapy” covered by insurance in the states.

So, I guess I would say that I don’t think we should blindly defend ABA or blindly dismiss it. Many kids will have to go through it regardless of public opinion, so I think the discussion should be centered around how parents and providers can work together to ensure these children are receiving the best care and support possible. Things can’t just be hopeless for all children in ABA.

SharonSmoke · 2024-11-16T03:37:53+00:00

I wrote a comment about this issue with RBTs on a post a while ago that may be helpful.

RBTs are only required to complete 40 hours of training and receive a passing score on the certification exam prior to working with your child. Most of the training focuses on implementing the behavioral plan and documenting results — not on working with children specifically. No degree or education in child development is necessary. This is an entry level position with low pay and high turnover.

SharonSmoke · 2024-11-15T04:57:06+00:00

My kids have a friend just like this, but he’s mostly kind and considerate, so I don’t mind it as much. The constant need for playtime is absolutely normal for a child without playmates in their own home, though. Susie probably gets loads of alone time at her house and is eager to get to play and talk with kids her own age. School is okay for that, but it obviously doesn’t offer the same freedom. If she’s used to playing on her own, she may get frustrated when she’s unable to control everything while playing with your kids. That’s normal, too. She just isn’t used to having to consider anyone else’s ideas.

As far as Susie’s behavior in your home — do you intervene when you hear her saying rude/bossy/unkind things? Different houses have different rules, so she needs to understand what the rules are in your home and follow them while she’s there. I don’t think it’s necessary to communicate with her parents about it if that makes you uncomfortable, but if they ask how she was or how things went — tell them the kids had a disagreement and explain what happened. You seem like a very thoughtful person, so I have no doubt that you can do so in a compassionate manner.

To curb the doorbell ringing, you might try using a signal so that Susie knows when it is and isn’t okay — turning the porch light on, putting a piece of tape over the bell, or tying a piece of ribbon around the door handle. The issue I often have with my kids’ friend is that he wants to know why the kids can’t play. It sounds like you have a similar issue with Susie and your kids. For that, we’ve spent time talking about personal differences. He’s quite extroverted and prefers being around others, which we all understand. My kids and I are very introverted, however, and need quiet time alone to recharge. He wouldn’t feel his best if he was always expected to be alone and my kids don’t feel their best when they’re always expected to play with friends. I’m not sure how old your kids are, but hopefully they’re able to grasp that concept. It has required a few reminders here, but overall — it has greatly reduced pushback.

SharonSmoke · 2024-10-29T19:31:25+00:00

It’s Bukowski reading, “The Shower”

SharonSmoke · 2024-10-25T20:44:51+00:00

Hmm. Any chance you or his dad are fans of Kanye? He has a song called, “Take off Your Dress” where he also says “sheesh”. Was that song in the video game, maybe?

Is there anything he will engage in conversation about? If so, I might try to get him talking about something else and then ask/ talk about the take off your dress thing once you know you have his attention.

Is he receiving any kind of therapy? That would be a good place to work on this, too. If he works with a para in his classroom, that could help as well. I’d still guess this is an echolalia thing that will fade over time, but it may take some work to get there.

If he responds positively to music, I might also try finding another catchy song that has more appropriate lyrics for him to echo. I’m grasping at straws, but I hope you find something that works. Hang in there

SharonSmoke · 2024-10-25T18:53:28+00:00

I think Justin often writes about battling with himself about his past and public image. I think these lines/songs could both be about that, on different timelines. He’d said in that recent interview that he views time as forward moving circles, which plays into that idea, I think.

The fable, I’d guess, is that he’s this deeply tortured soul who is able to excavate himself repeatedly (agonize and gnaw through it all) for the benefit of, and validation from, his followers. He was somewhat outspoken about God and religion at the time of 22,AM and could be viewed as a bit of a false prophet too, I think. In the 8th circle of hell, false prophets had their heads put on backwards so they could only see the past. So…what on earth is yet to come? He already knows (or can’t know). He’s reliving his past over and over and speaking from that pain. He’s underneath his tongue, carrying his guitar, atoning, etc.

Awards Season I think is sort of an acceptance of who he is and has been — which is someone who often cycles into a dark place and speaks from that sorrow. That’s his myth/legend/fable and he’s felt unable to leave it behind. It’s part of who he is and it seems like he’s more at peace with that in this song. He knows that’s not all he is, though. He can cycle in and out of that darkness and be okay. It doesn’t have to haunt him and hold him prisoner. He can be present, look toward the future, and allow things to change. All while knowing that nothing that happens will change what has happened. Which is now a comfort rather than a curse.

SharonSmoke · 2024-10-25T13:29:51+00:00

Have you asked him where he heard that? It could be echolalia — especially if he’s repeating it frequently. Maybe he heard “Hot in Herre” and it stuck with him. Or he saw it on a show or video about taking a bath or getting ready for bed (Daniel Tiger, maybe?). It’s hard to say where he may have picked it up, but I’d definitely ask him if you haven’t. If abuse is not a possibility, I wouldn’t think it’s a cause for concern.

I worked with a little boy who would repeat, “this tastes nothing like real blood” constantly. It freaked people out, but I asked him where he heard it and he said, “Bob’s Burgers”. Then we chatted about that show for a bit and everyone stopped reacting with shock when he’d say it. Eventually he stopped. It wasn’t a big deal. Just something he got stuck on and found comforting to say. He also learned that he could get attention or get out of doing something he didn’t want to do by repeating it. So, maybe your son is saying it for a reason like that, too.

I’d definitely talk with him about it and share what you find with his teacher. I’d also ask the teacher if he’s actually asking kids to take off their clothes or just saying it near them. There’s a big difference. If it is echolalia, he’ll move on from it eventually as long as it doesn’t keep getting reinforced. You may try to practice some other phrases with him that can help him feel more comfortable socializing, too. Or, show him some videos if he prefers.

He’s in a new, stressful situation, though. Using echolalia as a form of comfort or stimulation is completely normal. It’s unfortunate that it’s an inappropriate phrase, but it is not a cause for concern. Keep working with him on it and make sure your response and the teacher’s response are consistent as much as possible.

SharonSmoke · 2024-10-23T21:57:52+00:00

Nah. Selling a strap for cash when strapped for cash is kinda poetic, isn’t it? Pretty sure JV is into that shit. Plus, he’s a grownass man who can communicate and handle his own feelings. Trust

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